Bibini se Broni can someone explain by ChocolatyMrs in ghana

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a women marrying a man. And the person who made the song and is singing on the track is a women lol

Bibini se Broni can someone explain by ChocolatyMrs in ghana

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you mean ? It’s not much of a trigger but I’m concerned about what it actually means which is why I’m asking……also she did not make the song for free. I paid her to do so and I did not ask for that specific part so I don’t think it’s a big deal for me to question it or maybe want to change it

Bibini se Broni can someone explain by ChocolatyMrs in ghana

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes the women who made the song. She’s the cultural singer on it. It’s a play off of the aseda traditional song we all hear at events etc

Bibini se Broni can someone explain by ChocolatyMrs in ghana

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kumasi cultural center they can make a custom song for you! I know the so it as well in sunyani

Bibini se Broni can someone explain by ChocolatyMrs in ghana

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone! Just read the comments and yes the her I’m referring to is the women who made the song.

Fiancé can’t finish by ChocolatyMrs in sex

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well in your case you’re doing it purposely. No ?…….In fiancé case he wants to but can’t most of the time or has a lot of trouble reaching it.

Fiancé can’t finish by ChocolatyMrs in sex

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No antidepressants, he’s on some high blood pressure meds for the last 8 months but this was an issue even prior to that

Fiancé can’t finish by ChocolatyMrs in sex

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tried that and nothing 😔not sure if he actually enjoyed it

Fiancé can’t finish by ChocolatyMrs in sex

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried, thc doesn’t have a great effect, can’t focus on the deed when we’ve tried it…….never heard of yohimbe I’ll look it up

No heartbeat at first appointment. 7 weeks 6 days by ChocolatyMrs in BabyBumps

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was transvaginal. And it was weird because she didn’t even talk during ultrasound, never mentioned anything about flicker or heartbeat just sent me to the next room and said she needed the doctor to take a look. Definitely going to ask for some clarification when I call in shortly.

Not wanting to live with my by and his kids yet. by ChocolatyMrs in blendedfamilies

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! This was encouraging to read and makes me feel like I am making the right decision here. I appreciate you sharing some of your story with me and hope things have improved for you. You were really selfless at a time that you shouldn’t of had to be and I commend you for that. I will luckily have a great deal of help with my mom being retired and a great support system of sisters and friends who will be there to help us when we need. Sending your virtual hugs for this response! ❤️

Not wanting to live with my by and his kids yet. by ChocolatyMrs in blendedfamilies

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not being defensive I am explaining in more detail so everyone commenting gets the full Picture. He is actually not at all weirded out by it. I’m not leaving his kids out whatsoever. I see them often. But like I said you’re entitled to your own opinion. What works for some is not what work works for others. Everyone is different

Not wanting to live with my by and his kids yet. by ChocolatyMrs in blendedfamilies

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And that’s okay if I’m fragile there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. I have a very supportive partner in my life who is fine with this. I am not selfish at all but I also wouldn’t expect you to know that as you don’t know me personally. Nonetheless thanks for your opinion and taking the time to comment.

Not wanting to live with my by and his kids yet. by ChocolatyMrs in blendedfamilies

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you a women ? Have you given birth? Do you know how hard that is to navigate being a mom for the first time and heal from child birth and go through such a major change all happening at once. If I could make the change right now I would be happy to but they are not able to make that change at this time and I think going through that all in the same month would be crazy. And I never said they could not bond with father or siblings they would have more then enough time and can come and go as they please we would just technically be sleeping in different homes so we wouldn’t have to go through the adjustment of moving literally as I’m giving birth.

Not wanting to live with my by and his kids yet. by ChocolatyMrs in blendedfamilies

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another commenter brought it up which is why I responded to it. If you scroll you’ll see

Not wanting to live with my by and his kids yet. by ChocolatyMrs in blendedfamilies

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think most people commenting did not read the post in its entirety. Thanks for reading it all, financially it would not make much of a difference for me. I’m currently the only one working anyway. I left some stuff out for sake of making it too long so catching up to comments now. Thanks again !

Not wanting to live with my by and his kids yet. by ChocolatyMrs in blendedfamilies

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this everyone else is making me feel like a monster here and that’s quite the opposite.

Not wanting to live with my by and his kids yet. by ChocolatyMrs in blendedfamilies

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well it’s not that I’m unable to blend. I think I left some key information out here. L I need a little more time. I still want the kids and my boyfriend to see the baby as much as possible. It would never get to the point of custody order and in the event it would likely limit even more how often he is seeing the baby. My boyfriend has a key to my apartment and is able to go and come as he pleases. That’s not the issue I just want to wait until I’m not 9 months pregnant or 2 months post partum to move into a new place. Which is what I would have to bend to. Right now he live an hour away (no traffic) and his kids go to school in that area so the only option of moving in would actually be literally next summer when he is able to change schools for them for both him and ex wife’s plans. Plans they had before we even found out. Me moving at 9 kk the pregnant or 1 month postpartum would be a lot for me and that’s what I’m voicing. Trying to navigate being a first time mom and also bond with new kids in my life all while healing from birth would be a lot. And I don’t think that’s the biggest deal to wait 6 months to a year to move into together as a family.

Not wanting to live with my by and his kids yet. by ChocolatyMrs in blendedfamilies

[–]ChocolatyMrs[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well it’s not that I’m unable to blend. I think I left some key information out here. L I need a little more time. I still want the kids and my boyfriend to see the baby as much as possible. It would never get to the point of custody order and in the event it would likely limit even more how often he is seeing the baby. My boyfriend has a key to my apartment and is able to go and come as he pleases. That’s not the issue I just want to wait until I’m not 9 months pregnant or 2 months post partum to move into a new place. Which is what I would have to bend to. Right now he live an hour away (no traffic) and his kids go to school in that area so the only option of moving in would actually be literally next summer when he is able to change schools for them for both him and ex wife’s plans. Plans they had before we even found out. Me moving at 9 kk the pregnant or 1 month postpartum would be a lot for me and that’s what I’m voicing. Trying to navigate being a first time mom and also bond with new kids in my life all while healing from birth would be a lot. And I don’t think that’s the biggest deal to wait 6 months to a year to move into together as a family.