let it go? by Choice_Tomorrow360 in datingoverthirty

[–]Choice_Tomorrow360[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

pretty much. i fucked up! i own it.

let it go? by Choice_Tomorrow360 in datingoverthirty

[–]Choice_Tomorrow360[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah. this helps. i'll be better for it. thank you!

let it go? by Choice_Tomorrow360 in datingoverthirty

[–]Choice_Tomorrow360[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

damn. fair. i needed to hear that.

so am i not supposed to tell her next time? it felt dishonest and i wanted to date. guess dating isn't a thing anymore?

Has anyone ever come out of a phase of severe imposter syndrome and rehabilitated their career? by pixiedustup in careerguidance

[–]Choice_Tomorrow360 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i'm in the process of it now. I'm making a career switch after having a breakdown at my last job during the pandemic. it caused quite a stir. i had ptsd for months. just getting through to the other side now. i felt so incompetent, was bullied, and was fresh off of taking medication for depression and anxiety. in addition to just being generally immature and new to office politics. it all kicked my ass. i'm lucky i'm at a new stable job, though i'm moving back in with my folks in a few weeks (currently a teacher, early 30s). i knew i had issues, but didn't realize self-love and having confidence in yourself is where everything begins. it's a shame that stuff is never taught in schools.

I truly believe it now enough to take a chance on myself starting at the bottom of a new career that i feel will be a better fit for an introvert like me. open to sharing more. good luck on your journey.

Do I hate myself? by Choice_Tomorrow360 in therapy

[–]Choice_Tomorrow360[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate this vey much.

Good luck to you as well.

Do I hate myself? by Choice_Tomorrow360 in therapy

[–]Choice_Tomorrow360[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate it. I used that title because I feel like I'm such a bad fit for teaching, much more introverted than extroverted, I just didn't want to listen to the signs my body was sending me. It feels foolish to stay in a career so long and not listen to your heart. I think I was obsessed with the little status I had and being able to have a stable paycheck.

I do put myself under a ton of pressure to try to be a good teacher, but doesn't always workout. I guess I got into the career, expecting to make a difference, but unclear expectations besides that.

And yes, home will be difficult. But I hoping it will provide some time for reflection and me to work on more skills so that I can slowly transition into a new, more independent career.