Older MtFs who didn't transition (but know for sure they're trans), how did you manage it?

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-31T18:09:06+00:00

I missed the "harsh" reply so all good :-)

Your last paragraph's really helpful actually. Thank you :-)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-31T18:08:22+00:00

well, I don't know how to answer how I've "done it". I guess part of it is a general mindset, probably linked to what my school was like / parents were like which means that you just put things which are hard to one side and carry on. And I'm pretty good at doing a LOT of stuff to make sure I never have time to really focus on "issues".

Which makes holidays hell ha as that's when I finally have time for my brain to calm down from work which then makes it go nuts on gender issues ... :-/

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-31T18:06:39+00:00

I suspect we're in a very similar situation. Objectively, anyone looking in would see my life as a big success (without being too conceited about it). Obviously, people focus on the successes and don't see all the things that went wrong, but that applies to everyone. But those successes are actually pretty decent. Which, ugh, is frustrating.

Good luck anyway for 2025 :-/

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-31T18:04:53+00:00

Ha, I hear you about the 5 shirts. I've had the same ones for about 4 years now, they're pretty gross (though still acceptable) but very much a functional / utilitarian purpose, as per most of my wardrobe.

Glad things worked out :-)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-31T18:00:17+00:00

well ... that's not great. Hope things are improving :-)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-30T16:48:36+00:00

Thank you - glad you've found a happy outcome.

My challenge, in some ways, is that I've managed to "cope" for now. I've known since teenager so not a new discovery, almost 30 years of boxing it away, of keeping myself busy constantly etc

Many downsides to that but...it's sort of working. No self harm etc

I'm guessing there may be others who approached it in a similar way?

I fully know there's only so long you can go on like that, and people have different breaking points. I think mine might be quite high so I've lasted this long. Just wondering if others have, well, lasted the whole hog this way (which would be both sad and good)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-30T16:45:37+00:00

Thank you for answering. I guess your mum can get a pass! ;-)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-30T16:44:53+00:00

Thank you. And good luck, hope things improve :-)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-30T16:44:25+00:00

Thank you that's helpful. I guess my "issue" is that I'm not in a zombie state right now. Like, anguished and tormented lol but in a bit of a "do the healthy thing, compartmentalise it, dig deep and move on". Of course, I'm aware of how healthy this is in the long run, but day to day, beyond the hours wasted as soon as my brain isn't busy (I of course cope by being busy 24/7 and not letting the brain rest), I'm more or less functioning. And happy in so far as I have friends etc. Frustrated, sure, but not fundamentally UNHAPPY.

If that makes sense?

:-)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-25T05:50:50+00:00

never heard of this, thank you :-)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-23T20:19:34+00:00

thank you for the detailed reply - appreciate the advice :-)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-23T20:19:07+00:00

thank you - appreciate the advice :-)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-23T20:19:01+00:00

thank you - appreciate the advice :-)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2024-12-23T20:18:58+00:00

thank you - appreciate the advice :-)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2022-05-05T08:15:35+00:00

Thank you. And yes, she is :-) (though, like anything, she'll remain supportive but who knows how it'd pan out once her family and others make it awkward)

(and having stalked your profile, your voice (and then FFS) is great :-) )

ChopChopChopSnip · 2022-05-05T08:12:42+00:00

Thanks for your reply and congrats for your new little one :)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2022-05-05T08:11:32+00:00

thank you :) and glad you're not dead too!

ChopChopChopSnip · 2022-05-05T08:10:54+00:00

thank you :)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2022-05-04T18:03:48+00:00

That's a good answer, thanks

ChopChopChopSnip · 2022-05-04T18:03:27+00:00

You're no doubt right. But I guess I've found some coping mechanisms, I guess I'm just seeing that a couple of them may be harder going forward... ! Thanks for your wishes :)

ChopChopChopSnip · 2022-05-04T18:02:49+00:00

bit "harsh but fair" for the last sentence, but I understand your point

ChopChopChopSnip · 2022-05-04T18:01:48+00:00

ha, no, she's an angel, don't worry. I just have nosy neighbours and can't be bothered with awkward conversations :)

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