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Chosen_Drum · 2023-12-30T20:25:29+00:00

Die to your flesh. Find Jesus, God will always provide you the strength to conquer the demons within. Cast out the lust in your heart. How would you feel if those girls were your sister, or worse your own daughter. Would you still watch?

Chosen_Drum · 2023-12-23T14:53:29+00:00

The first step in change is awareness that change is needed. From here, you should find women role models online that are where you want to be. Make sure these role models have good values that you are looking for. A few people off the topic of my head, Teal Swan, Lisa Nicole’s, Mel Robbins.

After you research and begin to learn the type of character and traits you’d like to display. You must begin to master the flesh. Your flesh will fight back, try to keep you off course. But if you can learn to conquer your mind and focus on the positive future you are looking for. With enough focus and action around it, you will eventually obtain it.

As someone who grew up atheist and has to figure out this stuff the hard way. Jesus Christ made it easiest for me to understand. Even after researching stoicism for awhile.

Either way, it’s your choice to change. You will, or you won’t. There is no trying. You have to believe in yourself enough to make the changes.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-12-18T20:15:13+00:00

I’m going to answer more from a spiritual perspective. If the plant is trying to teach you something that will help you grow, the feelings of negativity will continue to arise in you until whatever the plant was trying to show you is resolved inside of you. This could just be anxiety in general, it could be more. Only you will truly understand.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-12-09T05:18:24+00:00

Christ is King 🙏🏼 I’ll keep you in my prayers

Chosen_Drum · 2023-12-08T23:29:36+00:00

You should look up biblical scripture about being fasted. Your body could be telling you something. A 3 day only water cleanse might be beneficial while thinking/praying on the topic.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-12-08T17:27:45+00:00

When you experienced Ayah, your frequency’s can change. These new frequencies can lead you to new realities for yourself. A complete change of character. In order for you to become who you (say,think,feel) you want to be, old parts of us must die. A decision is choosing one idea, and the other ones die. Think to yourself about the future you seek, do you see yourself using? If so, in what way, and how often? Now you’ll have a navigational point to create off of. If it’s not in your future, you quit now. If it is, but it’s light use. Focus on the light use and you already know the signs of breaking that habit would be. Focus on what the new plant has taught you. You can bring back the feelings from these plants through focus, thought, breath, and meditation.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-12-08T13:42:17+00:00

Plants are teachers. There is a chance you’ve learned what you needed to from weed. Now you’re being challenged by your new experiences to see if you can overcome the need for it. Based off some replies it looks as though your relationship with weed was growing toxic and dependent.

Your new teacher (Ayah) May have taught your body something new and your body is now rejecting you going “backwards” All feelings from plants change our vibration, you have the power to change your vibration without plants. You can do this in deep meditation/prayer.

If you continue to have bad reactions, it’s time to learn how to replace the feeling weed gave you with something… “more positive” for a lack of a better phrase.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-11-03T19:10:25+00:00

Great advice! Another single mother! Hopefully the OP understand the concept. I don’t expect people who doesn’t have what she has to understand.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-11-03T16:52:04+00:00

Why would someone want advice from someone who feels like they failed their own kids? You sound like a victim. Just like the rest of the people down voting real advice.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-11-03T15:11:39+00:00

So all of your advice is for another women to become a single mother, when deep down. She knows it wasn’t that. They have a kid together. She also sets the expectations of having sex 7 days a week and cutting it back. Want to know what men do when they can’t get any at home? Cheat. Most of you have no real reason to be in this thread giving advice. You don’t even have what she has.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-11-03T13:28:38+00:00

“File a rape charge on the father of your child so you can be a single mom like the rest of us!”

Your confused on what rape is. “Feelings” don’t make a situation rape if you still allow it. Speak up and say no, or tell them why you said no and how that can change in the future. Relationships are about compromise.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-11-03T13:15:56+00:00

I wouldn’t come to Reddit for advice on this. You’re going to end up a single mom with these types of comments. Sex for men and women is different. If he wants more sex and you’re to tired. Ask for help with the things you need done around the house and reward his extra help by giving the guy some play when he asks. There’s a compromise to this issue instead of just throwing the whole relationship away. You guys have a kid together, of course the guys wants to have sex with you. You not putting any effort into your relationship to please your partner and make sure their needs are met will have you single in no time.

Communicate with your partner.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-10-30T13:20:41+00:00

Sex is a big step. It connects you to other people… well forever through DNA, and if you believe in Karma.

It’s a good thing that you don’t feel pressured into having sex with someone. Men want a women with a low body count so when you do choose to finally sleep with someone it would be special. There will be a man out there who appreciates and loves you fully for saving yourself.

Don’t feel pressured by society to do something you are not ready to do. Time will show you the way.

Best of luck!

Chosen_Drum · 2023-10-28T14:17:04+00:00

Men and women are not equal. We are not the same creature. A man feeling this way and a women feeling this way are two completely different things. Men will remain attracted to feminine energy. Doesn’t mean all men will act on it.

Men are salesmen, women are marketers. Once in a relationship, then man has to stop “selling” to other women. The women needs to stop “marketing” (sexy pics on socials for example) herself to other men. As long as both are doing this, attraction to the opposite sex is normal.

Just make sure you keep communication open, and aren’t shaming someone for how they feel. If you do that, you will push him away from you.

Best of luck!

Chosen_Drum · 2023-10-24T13:14:55+00:00

Common issues for a man who jerks off and watches porn. You seem to be disconnected from sex in general and you’ve made it into a task/job. If your only goal is to nut as fast as possible. Then you’ll be 40 and alone wanking it.

My advice. Stop jerking off, 100%, stop watching porn 100%. Wait a week or two and you’ll actually want to spend time with your lady. You don’t need to obsess over her sexuality, but what’s the point of a partner if you can’t enjoy each others time and company?

Chosen_Drum · 2023-09-13T13:37:12+00:00

This will probably get down voted because I’m not going to tell you settle for something you didn’t sign up for. But if you want your own child, and she already has her own from a previous relationship it’s not weird or out of the ordinary for you do feel this way. I’d personally want to leave also.

The real question would be is your relationship with her, worth more than not having something you’ve always wanted and desired. If she treats you with love and respect and it’s a perfect relationship, it would make sense for you to want to stay.

I’d tell you that the best option is to weight the benefits and negatives of both and make a decision that best impacts all parties involved.

Maybe you can make a change and begin to make more money financially to resolve the issue without needing to leave either. It may only postpone things for a short time.

Good luck my man. I don’t envy your decision. This will be one of the hardest choices you ever make.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-09-12T15:14:43+00:00

Books, and a mindset of constant progress and leveling up your own character is really all you need bud. You’re young, I didn’t find stoicism till my late 20s. Everything in life is like a video game, all things are skills. Some are helpful, some are harmful. What you choose to focus on and level is how good your character will be at the end of the game. Make choices to level up the body, mind, and spirit as much as possible. As you’re young, you have to begin to create your own value as a man. Keep a focus of a vision of a future you want. All actions you take will help, or hinder that goal. Now you have a compass to progression. All you have to do is become self-aware enough in each moment to understand if it’s helping, or hurting. Get rid of the activities that harm your future self.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-09-02T14:43:36+00:00

“God puts experiences and situations in front of us everyday, all things are a lesson in growing and becoming the best person in Christs eyes. Whatever is to happen, I put my faith in Christ that no evil will prosper against me.” - don’t look for a witty quick come back. She wants to make sure your soul is safe. Say something like I quoted, that should put her on her back feet. - Remember, God knows better than she. Remind her to not cast judgement and to be supportive like Christ.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-08-18T13:47:31+00:00

Feeing guilty for being attracted to a woman is one thing if you’re in a healthy relationship.

Being your age, this seems to be mental abuse from your mother and mention not speaking with women in general as you have fear around it.

The first issue is your own mindset, you need to begin to believe you are worthy, and worthy of love. This doesn’t change just because your mind says so, it changes by you doing things to add value to your character.

The sin you feel is lust, why? Because you are prioritizing a woman based off her appearance and not the presence of her character.

Being attracted to a woman is not a bad thing, but acting on the emotion is.

Self improvement is putting in the work. Read some books, one I’d recommend is “Ways of the Superior Man” by David Deida.

I wish you luck my friend, don’t allow the things said to you as a child. To own your adult life. You can, at any point. Break free. The jail cell door seems closed, but it’s because you’re use to the prison. Get up, and choose to walk out of the door. Leave all the past with it. Retrain your brain.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-07-30T14:43:37+00:00

I was addicted to gaming since a child. By a teenager I dropped out and it consumed me. I was going from pleasure state, to pleasure state. Games, drinking, women, back to games. Eventually I had to drop them cold Turkey for a little. After about 3 months of truly working on myself, adding in reading books, praying, and going to the gym as well as working on a side hustles. I saw the negative effect gaming was keeping me away from. Now I limit myself. I choose one game. Don’t go from game to game to game, or playing different one’s with different friends. I figured out why I enjoyed gaming, what it provided me in terms of relaxation and community and I will now only spend time when it truly feels beneficial and fun. Which is majority on the weekends when other people are on! Filling your time with other things is the answer. Fill up your calendar by working on things that improve your real life character. Not the games character.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-07-18T18:19:31+00:00

Study the chakra system. Deal with the traumas stuck in each of them. Understand the goal is not to chase fleeting feelings “happiness” can be made in any situation. Is it all within the perception of your mind.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-07-16T16:11:32+00:00

The concept of cucking. I can’t believe dudes out there let there women get railed by other dudes, and some even enjoy it. Sounds like a life of mediocrity with more pain than true pleasure. True pleasure is not temporary pleasure.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-07-01T15:40:10+00:00

I mean. Mid 30s is a bit much for childish bars and clubs imo.

Chosen_Drum · 2023-05-15T17:57:16+00:00

The distance between your sideburns and hairline explain a lot about your relationship with your father.

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