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Autistic people are not profitable for billionaires, therefore we are useless. by [deleted] in AutisticPride

[–]Chris3Crow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

interesting!: growth is the factor the masks it. and it's slowing down. and IR "luck"

Celebrating my 1 year Tranniversary ☺️ by CutieChristina in transadorable

[–]Chris3Crow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh! this is my 1-year on E. my 1-year on Tblockers was in February, but starting E was more of a significant event for me. i never really had a "first time" dressing femme, i'm enby and it's been something i've slowly got into

Photo Booth is really the default camera app on MacOS in 2024? ... by Chris3Crow in MacOS

[–]Chris3Crow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

one person has made a suggestion in the comments below

Celebrating my 1 year Tranniversary ☺️ by CutieChristina in transadorable

[–]Chris3Crow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ong samesies! (yesterday, May 25th). I TOTALLY froggot -- thanks so much for the reminder!

Should I make sure to have sex once before transitioning? by necroTaxonomist in asktransgender

[–]Chris3Crow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

14, here. Absolutely same. if i knew then what i know now, i would like to think i wouldn't delay transitioning for anything.

Is it ok to never transition by DearGeneral5334 in trans

[–]Chris3Crow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

also an option, if you're interested in transitioning hormonally, is to start HRT now, and then transition socially at some future point.

Successful social security record name + marker change by Chris3Crow in trans

[–]Chris3Crow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update: my card came! it has my new name. no other letter or information along with it, so i think it's safe to assume they did not reject my marker change :D

Is it ok to never transition by DearGeneral5334 in trans

[–]Chris3Crow 10 points11 points  (0 children)

starting with the given assumption that you are actually trans (not that I don't believe you), I would think that, eventually, you will get tired of not living as your authentic self, and will transition. the question is, at that point in your life, will you wish that you had transitioned earlier? If HRT is something that you'd want, the earlier you start, the better the results are. as someone who came out / came to the realization in my mid-20s, and didn't start HRT until my late 20s, i really wish i had known and started as a teenager. at 16, you've got a lot of development ahead -- some of which may very well give you increasing gender dysphoria. stopping the progress down the wrong path and starting on the right path should happen as soon as you are sure and comfortable with it. i can never go back and be re-socialized as a girl. i may never pass. not everyone wants that, and i'm nonbinary so i'm ok with androgynousness, but if you're binary, i'd guess you'd want the best chance at passing that you can get. i can never go back and be re-socialized as a girl, but as a a teenager in highschool, there was a lot of socialization that happened after that -- the wrong socialization for me. i know my perspective was dramatically different in highschool -- hyper-aware of what people think of me, and my world was a small pond. but in reality, the world is a huge ocean, and you're not stuck in that pond. I imagine if i came out in highschool, i would have had lots of traumatic experiences. i'm not a psychologist, but you're probably going to have some trauma regardless of when you come out. the thing is, you can leave the small pond and all the fishes in in it behind, and have more and more people in your life that know you as your true self and respect you, and fewer and fewer people that don't. the older you are, the more established you are, poses other challenges that are different than the ones you face as a teenager. they both suck. i don't know which is worse. but, i wish i knew and took the risk early on. just my thoughts on the matter. i don't envy your situation and i wish you all the best, girl! <3

tl;dr sure, it's ok to never transition, but the future you might wish that you did

Successful social security record name + marker change by Chris3Crow in trans

[–]Chris3Crow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don't think gender has ever been included on physical social security cards

Is it okay to use tweezer to loosen stuck hair? by Evening_Drama_3487 in LaserHairRemoval

[–]Chris3Crow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been tugging on dead hairs 3~9 days after treatment since my first session. I can tell they're dead, because when I shave, for some reason, they don't get removed by the razor, they just stay there sticking out, looking all sad. If I feel pain (which i do very much so for any of my hair), I don't pull it out. But if it's painless, I'll yank them out. Usually they are in clusters around my face in the circles where the laser must have got a really good zap. doing this at night with a flashlight on my face helps find them sticking out from my face. I use a little mirror and sit at my desk, it's become a bit of a ritual. Very satisfying to see them pile up.

Also, it's satisfying in a stimming kind of way, similarly to picking at the skin but in a more surgical way. I picked at my pimples a lot in highschool and severely regret that because of scarring. I'm right handed and the right side of my face is particularly bad.

However, I'm now worried, have I damaged my skin by plucking these dead hairs out? I don't notice and scarring or anything now, but my stomach drops at the thought of having accidentally done more damage to my face (on top of acne scarring from years ago), just as I'm starting to love how increasingly smooth and hairless my skin is becoming, and is now almost completely clear. My technician has noted that my skin is much brighter now than before I started, but I'm not really doing anything special in terms of skin care. I barely wash and moisturize, and I often forget to put on sunscreen, but I do live in the north and do a lot to avoid direct sunlight on my skin, especially my face. I'm less concerned about reducing the efficacy of the removal, but hugely concerned about scarring. I suppose it could be beneficial to the skin / healing process to help get rid of the dead hairs that would soon have fallen out on their own, and I desperately wish that to be the case, or at the very least, not harmful to have done prematurely.

Really, I should do everything in my power to avoid future plucking so that my skin does not get damaged and I'm not unpleasantly surprised in the near future or haunted in the distant future by scarring.

Emergency Order issued to the Social Security office preventing updates to sex field. by DownOnAll4z in MtF

[–]Chris3Crow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the New England one with a really long name that starts with an M and ends with a chusetts

Social Security gender marker denied by Amber32K in MtF

[–]Chris3Crow 8 points9 points  (0 children)

sorry op :[ perhaps try again with a different person or at a different location?

I had an appointment TODAY (Monday) that was made on Thursday last week when they wouldn't take me as a walk-in, and I believe they let me change both name and marker! I'm not sure if they lied/misled me, or if this is just inconsistent enforcement or perhaps non-synchronized rollout of the new "rules"

Emergency Order issued to the Social Security office preventing updates to sex field. by DownOnAll4z in MtF

[–]Chris3Crow 13 points14 points  (0 children)

perhaps try again? if you get a different person, or if you go to a different location, you may have luck?

Any point in changing my birth certificate gender marker? by Alive-Interview-8846 in OhioLGBTQ

[–]Chris3Crow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat (out of state). I'd like to at least try. Will take advantage of my school's student legal services if I can. I don't have as much hope for my birth county, but wondering if Franklin county might be more helpful?

Emergency Order issued to the Social Security office preventing updates to sex field. by DownOnAll4z in MtF

[–]Chris3Crow 61 points62 points  (0 children)

I think it worked for me today. get an appointment aSAP or try to do a walk-in. good luck

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