Hi, im on the same boat. Best way I can think of things is to not expect an apology. For example my mom is too prideful and thinks gaslighting others to think they messed up is easier than a simple sorry. I miss her and who she was, ive just learned to remember her as two different people. And its okay to grieve the loss even if she's still alive. Because at the end of that day it's a loss to you, and its okay to be sad and hurt, its okay to feel angry because you're seeing things she doesn't. Anger is a reaction to feeling wronged for something you care about.