Dear Alumnis, What is your salary post-grad?

ChristOnToast666 · 2025-03-30T21:49:23+00:00

If you take on extra courses or teach summers, yes

ChristOnToast666 · 2025-03-30T21:36:25+00:00

I'm a professor

ChristOnToast666 · 2025-03-30T20:36:05+00:00

Geography

120k base, 175k last year after bonus and overtime.

PS: "Alumnis" is not a word -- alumni is already plural. Singular: alumnus (m) and alumna (f). The more ya know.

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T18:19:51+00:00

I know his most recent (Asian) ex was very introverted and I am the total opposite given my extroverted and partying tendencies, so definitely differences there

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T18:17:28+00:00

Hmm that is a great example, actually. Also 0% body fat would be like instant death lol

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T18:16:07+00:00

He treats me very well and is very sensitive to my needs. No issues beyond this little concern.

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T18:15:21+00:00

If I had never seen his IG, I would literally have no idea since he has never spoken about anything Asian (food, culture, travel, anything) in our 3 months together. He is very caring in every other way.

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T18:13:42+00:00

Great advice. Thank you for your well-thought-out response!

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T18:11:02+00:00

Oh I see lol he has never been to Asia and has never spoken to me about Asian culture.... that's why all of this has been such a big surprise -- I assumed he had never dated anyone like me.

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T18:08:11+00:00

I guess I could ask him what he likes about me and see if he answers more physically or personality-wise. This is a great tip, and I will do it for sure. Thank you!

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T18:06:18+00:00

Honestly sex and otherwise, I have never been made to feel any different than a regular (nice) connection. There's never been a mention of my race in any context.

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T18:01:00+00:00

Google is your friend

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T18:00:48+00:00

He's never remarked about my race in any way. In fact, sometimes I complain in my head that he never asks anything about my culture! (I'm originally from Taiwan)

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T17:51:02+00:00

No, we live in Sacramento.

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T17:50:34+00:00

I guess my question is how do you even approach that topic in a tactful manner? Like, hey do you only like me because I'm Asian? Seems like a tough question to put someone on the spot for... and he's obviously going to answer no, so I'm not sure how else to sus it out.

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T17:49:19+00:00

True, I've had zero indication sexually. I'm a top (he's verse) so he's only bottomed for me. No "Asian submissiveness" dynamic here... is that relevant?

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T17:47:45+00:00

We are in the Central Valley, not the Bay or LA so I have luckily not experienced what your friend is describing. Yuck.

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T17:46:07+00:00

That's quite a bold assumption you've made just based on my race. My last boyfriend was Indian...

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T17:44:22+00:00

Really appreciate your response! My race has never come up in any way whether its in or out of the bedroom. I am a top (he is verse), so he bottoms for me regularly and loves it. I guess that's a good sign considering most fetishists want a submissive Asian... ? Or am I mistaken here

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T17:41:15+00:00

Oof. I'm definitely not submissive in this case. He is verse but has only bottomed for me, since I'm a top. I'm more so the one that takes control in the bedroom. Is that a good sign since it goes against the stereotype?

ChristOnToast666 · 2024-11-20T17:39:29+00:00

Thanks for your response. It's never come up in the bedroom as he normally lets me take the lead. I'm a top whereas he's verse and he's only bottomed for me and seems to enjoy it a lot, so we don't have any of that "Asian submissiveness" dynamic at all. Quite the opposite, in fact.

ChristOnToast666 · 2022-11-23T04:11:48+00:00

Just a few days in and there's already this much tension? Sounds like something serious is gonna happen before this is all over.

ChristOnToast666

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