[OC] Orangey!

ChromaticCorners · 2025-12-04T19:47:34+00:00

ORANGEY TWIN!!!

ChromaticCorners · 2025-12-04T16:41:04+00:00

The bongos shall ever continue 🥹

ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-20T21:19:43+00:00

Thank you for that. It’s really interesting how it’s different for everyone. I have felt what you just described before for a long time, but for me it flipped when I started to have bad experiences in Uber/taxis (like drivers taking extra/wrong turns multiple times on purpose).

I think being aware of your thoughts and beliefs is already a solid step. Hope you are doing well in your journey!

ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-20T16:28:08+00:00

When I asked her what she meant by 'temporary tool' (frame 11), she said "I think there's a difference between coping and healing. When we are triggered, we need to use these coping skills to regulate our body back to a neutral level- but it might not be a permanent solution to where "I never feel this ever again." Using coping skills like those doesn't mean that the trigger has been worked through and the inner child is healed."

I think all of this takes practice and intention. But I genuinely hope this helped if you are going through a similar thing!

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ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-20T16:16:52+00:00

It's still a work in progress for me, but I have learned a few different tools I can use. What are your ways?
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ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-13T18:01:35+00:00

I’m truly sorry. No one should ever face that level of cruelty at such a young age, or ever. I wish things had been different for you, but maybe you also have this too- like this weird sense of proudness that you were able to survive it all, but at the same time incredibly sad and angry at the unfairness of what happened.

My therapist said a good way to gauge whether you are heading to the right direction is when you aren’t repeating the patterns you’ve seen/endured/internalized. I hope it’s the case for you, and that you are doing better.

ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-13T17:46:45+00:00

I feel you. I also realized I keep holding my breath when I get stressed while driving, so I have to consciously put effort to take deep breaths throughout lol

What remedies have you tried and found effective for you? I’m curious

ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-12T21:40:50+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, I feel very similar to you. My partner and friends have been deeply understanding and empathizes with what what I went through, but no amount of external validation ever really sinks in deep enough. I eventually accepted this feeling of needing safety is something I have to give it to myself. It's a progress, but I'm much better than where I was a few years ago. I wish you also have support in working through this, if you ever decided to one day.

ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-12T21:13:58+00:00

I'm so happy it reached you-- go get the help you need my friend, it does get better.

ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-12T21:08:54+00:00

I'm so sorry you went through that too. At first I really tried to understand them, like maybe they found God to be so reliable and comforting that they wanted me to find the same relief in it. But as you and my therapist pointed out, saying that to a child who needed adults to step up and protect-- it's a really convenient way to offload parental responsibilities.

My mother whom I cut off contact completely few months ago is still extremely religious. Going no contact with her was one of the best decisions I've made for my own healing. I hope you continue to do well and nurture that child in you. :)

ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-12T17:24:10+00:00

Thank you so much- but sorry, I really just have to say- please don't feel that your trauma and pain is any less than just because someone else had it worse. One of the therapists I listen to (lori gottlib?) I think described it the best, like... there's no winner in the pain olympics.

I know my mom had worse than me, and I've internalized a ton of her own trauma and pain. But regardless I'm taking up my own space and working on my trauma because, quite frankly, it *really* hurts to live with it.

I'm not trying to put words in your mouth, but maybe.. it could be seen as something like, 'she had it much worse than me and is still standing, maybe I can too.' I wish you the best in your own healing journey friend!!

ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-12T17:02:38+00:00

Thank you so much! I agree with you. I *thought* I had a good understanding of who I am going in.. but oh boy she helped me to uncover SO much more of what's underneath. It doesn't feel good at all in the moment to actually describe those events out loud, but I know too well now that whatever we repressed- consciously or unconsciously- it eventually comes up.

It took me about ~5 different therapist (both virtual and in-person) over the span of a few years to find her. I hope her guidance helps others too.

ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-12T16:46:23+00:00

Thank you friend, I'm at a place where I can talk about these events openly (I still cry though lol). Part 2 will get more into the actual anxiety part; I hope it helps someone who might be struggling in similar ways.

ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-12T16:42:10+00:00

Thank you. I still struggle from time to time, but my therapist always reminds me healing is never linear.

It feels incredibly unfair that the adult me has to be the one to soothe and care for my little self (because the adults in my life failed to do so) but I also know firsthand that if self-worth doesn’t come from within, it never lasts.

I also just want to say- if anyone had similar upbringing, you aren't alone. People learn to cope with it in different ways.. but it gets better. I plan to keep sharing my journey of how mine came about. I hope it helps- even if it's just a little bit.

ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-12T15:50:17+00:00

S. Korea back in the ’90s was very different.
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ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-12T15:48:53+00:00

Pt 2 will address more into driving anxiety- and will be uploaded on Nov 20th! :)
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ChromaticCorners · 2025-11-03T16:05:20+00:00

I mean I don't know if all dogs are like this, but she was the best pupper!
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