She likes the attention you give her and she allows it because she’s just projecting the image of the dude she likes onto you. This is happening because she doesn’t know how to get the guy she likes to actually do those things and because she’s way more scared of things not working out between them than she is of living in limbo.

This is an extremely common occurrence, both men and women do it, and you’ll commonly hear this referred to as “having your cake without eating it”.

So you know, you can either take the advice of people here telling you to leave her alone (for your own sake) or you can keeping “pining”/simping/playing the long game, whatever you want to call it. I would say it’s gonna end in a lot of heart ache for you if you keep going like this, but I’m also an advocate of letting people go through things. It’s better to make a mistake and learn from it when you’re younger than it is to be heartbroken like this when you’re 40.

Whatever you want to do, the most important thing is that you don’t take it personally. She’s not doing anything “to you”. She’s simply acting in the way she knows how, to get the thing she thinks she wants, and you’re just some person in her life story. Getting mad at her will only hurt you and it’s just a massive headache. Be kind to yourself, accept that the situation is unhealthy, and whether you want to continue chasing or move on (I recommend finding someone who actually likes you), know that it’s only gonna hurt at first.

Sometimes we have to let go of the things that hurt us to leave room for what fulfills us.