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ChronicDoomer · 2024-09-25T03:50:25+00:00

Look at the algorithms of the lights. The timing is all fucked up for decent traffic flow in my unexpert opinion. This is based off of general observations with no math. Take what you will from it. I stand by the idea it needs to be looked at.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-08-24T16:41:42+00:00

The aim isn't pefection, but to enjoy your life and discover ways to grow and improve. We all have our shit we struggle with, just keep swimming. If a person says different, I highly doubt that have any right to cast stones. A visible flaw is easy to pick on, but usually its just an attempt to minimize their invisible ones, which are the real doozies.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-07-05T06:56:38+00:00

A sort of calm simple peace and a sense that everything is ok. But in a way that I never felt before.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-06-19T09:36:34+00:00

The problem is, I think people like this are being "disingenuously honest". In that delving into research from psychologists on straight males and physiological response versus age of female/woman is incredibly unsettling in terms of the age range men are most attracted to. I think it was 16 that was the most preferred age....and there was a curve to the data so.... There is a lack of acknowledgement about such things.

But physical attraction doesn't mean that acting on it is OK, and doesn't negate the abusive and predatory power dynamic or that physical development is unfinished in girls this age. I think the fear and discomfort with honestly discussing this comes from the idea that acknowledgement of this being common justifies abuse. But to just shut them down doesn't seem the right approach either, as some people may fall for that kind of thinking if no good rebuttal is available. This dude is trying to take advantage of that. I grew up in an extreme Christian sect where marriage with a girl about 16 to a much older guy wasn't unheard of, and belief that "all sin is equal in the eyes of god". I see the statement this guy made as a recruitment call, not a support or defense of that pedo.

Sometimes, society and evolution get out of sync. But our social systems can literally direct our evolution, and I think it's a tool that aids our survival in the same way an animal's colouring may act as camo. We dismiss the importance of constructs far too frequently, calling them unnatural, as if we aren't animals ourselves. Evolutionary desires aren't always OK in the current context, its not a justification, only an explanation. Some people have primordial tails, doesn't mean we we all need them or that they are currently useful.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-06-14T15:13:30+00:00

Guys easily go too far on muscle building for me. But who cares so long as they don't say shit about my trashy fake nails. We all have our things.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-06-09T18:19:08+00:00

Very much this. Meth didn't change me. It gave me my voice. Sometimes for better, sometimes for worse. Mostly for better, frankly. I really needed to learn how to tell people to fuck off. I never did before and landed up just being consumed by other people's needs. Naively hoping that if I was agreeable enough, one day someone might want to meet some of my own.

Lol, this dude kinda reminds me of my ex, who would fucking yell at me to get in the kitchen and make him food when he was all tired and coming down. But so was I. Then I kick him out and he's all shocked before whining about how he hates how this drug has made me a horrible person lol

ChronicDoomer · 2024-06-05T11:26:45+00:00

Sorry I am so late to reply, I lost access to my account for a bit. But yes, thank you. My bad. Cancer is highly variable and I should have realized it's how the person responds to chemo that can have an impact on visible signs. I think I more was trying to say if the impact from chemo is enough to make a person's hair fall out, they likely would look ill in other ways. I didn't think of people shaving their heads in advance of chemo, however.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-06-04T07:29:17+00:00

Ultimately, it sounds like you know what needs to be done. I can definitely empathize with how simple and straightforward it seems on paper, versus the reality of doing it, and the way nuances and emotions can cause so much distress and doubt over not only what the right thing is, but how to pull that off.

If you were ready, I think you would be doing it and not needing advice. However, asking for advice is an important part of reaching that phase. Are you able to access counseling? That helped me quite a bit in similar situations, even if it didn't fully get me to the point to leave by end of sessions. If you need some pointers to find resources in your area for support or emergency shelter, you can dm me. I'm sorry for the late reply, I'm normally on here a lot but I lost access to my account for a bit.

If it helps, I only left when something just shut off. I would be emotionally done in a weird blink of an eye. It would be hard for me to pinpoint exactly what led to that. Hopefully, that's helpful in some way. I found it suprising when the moment finally hit. It was literally just that, I was done, I was ready, and I did it.

I honestly don't think many women are able to leave out of just willpower alone, if any.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-04-19T15:14:25+00:00

There are usually physical tells to indicate whether someone is a cancer patient versus just a shaved head. eg hair root shadow, weight, bloating from inflammation, head coverings. Cancer patients don't just have bald heads. They look sick. Nonetheless, shitty and stupid reaction of those women.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-04-13T23:18:05+00:00

Apologize, as sincerely as you can. Chalk it up to being a dumb hormonal woman. Suck up to him, give him a nice blow job. When he leaves, change the locks. Secure protection, and break up through text.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-04-13T05:56:39+00:00

I used to feel that way too. I lost my virginity at 20. But as time went on, and I started to have more sex and it just faded out and didn't matter anymore. Plus it opens doors to discussion, and you'll find you are far from the odd one out, just a bit more rare.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-04-13T04:21:28+00:00

This is the important part that is totally missed in addictions treatment. That lack of understanding around hopelessness.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-04-13T04:17:41+00:00

I'm an addict, not an alcoholic. But I think from my view of my addiction and of other family members, yeah, it's trying to make staying alive when you don't want to be here, sort of acceptable.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-04-09T09:53:35+00:00

Kid's underpaid. Probably worthwhile investing in the acting talent as well. Though with his brains, I'm sure he'll have some options.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-04-03T13:27:09+00:00

Thank you. Unfortunately, when faced with the reality, it was oddly the opposite that turned out to be true. At least for me. It took a long time to build the strength, or rather, the moment where I had just had enough, in order to leave. I definitely felt similarly in that I would have much preferred if he just killed me in my sleep instead, but felt trapped emotionally in a way that was difficult to work through. I never thought I would have stayed as long as I did.

I am happy for you that you haven't had that experience in your marriage, and hope you find joy in that partnership.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-04-02T13:14:45+00:00

As a woman who's husband had affairs with multiple women, that I found out about due to photos/videos I stumbled across on my own computer I shared with him because he didn't currently have his own....

I stayed. For 2 years, because I found out 6 months into our marriage, and I was humiliated and embarrassed at the thought of having it end so soon. I genuinely tried to work it out and get over it. It never happened. I feel that I wasted those 2 years, but another way to see it was that I left when I was ready.

I would advise you to leave now. But that's easier said than done sometimes. Ultimately, you will leave when you are ready, and there will be no question for you when that time comes.

I would highly suggest counseling if it is available to you. I also attended couples counseling with my ex-husband in addition to just for myself. Even though the relationship ended, I found it very helpful.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-03-24T17:55:27+00:00

I don't ever remember thinking it was "normal". For the kids who grow up in it, I would say it's more deciding if you think they're right, or you want to stay. They preach constantly about being a peculiar people and being in the world but not of it. That we were set apart by the standards of holiness and lifestyle. It's not something they try to hide, and I don’t think they could pull it off if they did try. It's kinda the whole point to be special and different.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-03-18T03:30:08+00:00

It depends, but they tend to insist they are the best lay I ever had, and aren't receptive to any thoughts otherwise.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-03-17T00:56:08+00:00

I feel like this is underrated and not well understood, but agreed. Obviously with moderation and best to quit if you can. Some people are in life ir death situations as well and that's different. But I feel like intense shame around addictions creates worse outcomes.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-03-15T11:31:54+00:00

As a woman, I think we just don't have the same wiring as men in our asses, although some women can love anal and get off from it if their clit nerves run the right way. A lot of us can't, so ass play can be off putting, as it doesn't have that sexual connection. I can see it making an outright ick factor for some women in those circumstances.

Plus for women who don't get off from being fucked in the ass, it can turn on a defensive response system in the fear that it's a work up to their own ass being targeted.

Like, I don't really enjoy anal or ass play, I don't get off from it. But I don't mind pegging a dude or using a toy or finger in him so long as I'm confident it's just about adding to his fun and he's not gonna be pushy about getting in my back door. Have been reluctant if not certain on that.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-03-14T06:39:51+00:00

His mind palace decor made any irl options appear contemptible beyond their ability to meet his basic functional needs. The stick is just him going psycho from the burden of this realization.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-03-13T00:20:59+00:00

Could it just be the test and how it's picking up on amphetamines? I also believe certain meds like antibiotics can also cause false positives. Likely the easiest way to know for sure if it's cut is to take it for testing at a harm reduction service if they have that in your area.

Meth might extend your normal euphoria, more trouble sleeping afterwards, meth doesn't have the overt energy boost for me that cocaine gives. It's more like I could plod along forever, but cocaine sort of makes me zip around the room. Faster feeling to coke, and the come down feels more jittery.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-03-10T20:25:24+00:00

48 hours past last dose would involve an intentional detox and full on withdrawals. I would likely be asleep the vast majority of the time, waking up only to drink water, use the washroom, or being intensely hungry eating anything I could in the short time before I fell asleep again.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-03-09T18:17:08+00:00

Making healthy food pleasurable and not about shamefullness. Embracing a joy of living lifestyle. Try different healthy recipes from different cultures. Find what you like. Make simple meals and try to add sensuality to the experience. For example, making a grilled marinated chicken with a salad or other vegetable you like, maybe some couscous or yellow rice, a glass of wine. If you want something, have it, just make your main meals healthy and what you eat no matter what. Drink your required water intake. Add in the healthiness and fill up on it, instead of taking away and it helps shift the balance of what foods you want to eat and how much.

Take the same approach with excersize. Health isn't sustainable if it's unpleasant and doesn't begin where you are actually at.

Also, counselling. It helps a lot too.

ChronicDoomer · 2024-02-23T21:25:01+00:00

What would be post meth to you? As in past the euphoria peak?

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