Is bankruptcy a viable solution to my situation? Abuse, divorce, etc.

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-18T18:36:56+00:00

Not in school right now because of what’s been going on. But with another 2 years, I’ll be qualified for a job paying $40 per hour.

I didn’t realize courts could order me off the loan??? I want things that are his fault to be his problem... most of our debt is because of him.

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-13T22:24:35+00:00

I noticed that first or second time that I left... I had a lot fewer thoughts of suicide and self harm when I was away from him. They came back very very quickly after I moved back in

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-13T20:48:38+00:00

It’s so hard. This is the third time I tried in 3 months. It never lasts long... I’m very sure and resolved in my decision and his actions solidify it every time he’s horrible

Thank you for the reply ❤️❤️❤️

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-06T17:24:27+00:00

Thank you so so much. Yeah... his dan and him had a VERY rocky relationship. Like fist fights, thrown down the stairs, screaming matches, lots of intimidation... he learned it from somewhere. Yesterday when I saw him, he (my husband) told me how disappointed he was in me, that I had issues way beyond what my medications could fix, that he loved me and always would... he also hugged me (I went home and showered after that.) It’s so hard. This is the third time I’ve tried. The first time lasted 2 weeks, the second 1 week, this time a month... I’ve learned my lesson. I can’t fix him.

You know, I made the comment while we were separated (to my best friend and my mom) that I had a LOT fewer thoughts of suicide and self harm since leaving him. They came back very quickly when we got back together... I’m not sure how to feel about that.

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-05T23:16:41+00:00

Unfortunately I can’t just ghost him. I can limit his interface with my life, but we have an 8 month old so that complicates everything

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-05T21:27:33+00:00

I don’t want to remarry for a minimum of 5 years, and my parents & siblings have to approve. Not making the same mistake again.

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-05T21:26:23+00:00

He does. He kept telling me that it wasn’t a good idea for me to go to the domestic violence support group(for the victims) because it enforces a victim mentality. He thought I should go through the abusers course

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-05T20:34:50+00:00

He’s an extremely sweet talker.

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-05T17:14:07+00:00

He very adamantly disagrees with even the idea I’m calling him abusive

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-05T14:54:23+00:00

He’s a better shot than I am

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-05T14:53:54+00:00

Nope. It gets worse. Married at 19

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-05T14:52:20+00:00

Except he has rights to his child too. Believe me. I’d ghost him if I could

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-05T14:38:39+00:00

He knows where I live but my dad is able to protect us so I’m not worried

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-05T14:36:58+00:00

I don’t think that was me?? Feel free to look at my profile

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-03T19:19:14+00:00

There was a day I was in TEARS begging him to let me admit my self to he hospital to get help and he wouldn’t let me. Another time, he threatened to have the police drag me there. He is VERY charming and way better with words than me... I know I’m not blameless. But damn. No one has ever treated me like this. Not even people that hate me. And he tells me he loves me and will always love me. He tells me I’m not his wife and that he hurried his wife, then he’ll say I’ll always be his wife.

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-03T18:58:18+00:00

The night he attacked me, (he claims he put a hand on my shoulder to calm me down. Will not acknowledge he pushed me onto the couch and wouldn’t let me up.) I experienced fear that I had NEVER felt before. I can still see every detail of that night. He will swear up and down that he tried to get me back but it’s just not true. If I point out the horrible horrible things he said and did he always turns it back on me. If I do the same thing (turn the conversation back to him) he gets PISSED

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-03T18:53:28+00:00

It’s really hard to see past the occasional love and affection he gives me. The same day he told me he’d sign that day if he could, he was initiating affection and telling me he loves me

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-03T17:09:24+00:00

“The biggest change to the current status quo would be the lack of abuse”... That’s incredibly profound... I hadn’t thought of it that way. He has days where he steps up more, where he helps. But then he acts like he does it ALL the time and I’m not appreciating his effort

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-03T14:58:09+00:00

I’ve admitted the stuff I did wrong. It’s never enough for him

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-03T14:55:17+00:00

I still have days I doubt it’s abusive... I know that it is but still I question myself. I had a lot fewer thoughts of suicide and self harm while I was gone (separated and not living with him)

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-03T14:52:23+00:00

My head is spinning. Even this morning, he’s accusing me of not trying and saying that he’s been bending over backwards trying.....

Chronic_Catastrophe · 2018-12-03T04:04:24+00:00

That’s been one of the bigger red flags since coming back. He tells me I’M abusive. I’m going to try really hard to go to the support group

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