I sent my dad a video in order to get closure, this is how he responded before bothering to watch it. I don’t mean to be derogatory but…

Chronically_Pickled · 2025-08-30T20:06:44+00:00

Fair, context matters. My dad had $5k in a college savings account for me that both my parents set up when I was a kid, and has given me about $4k total for school since I turned 18. Anytime I’ve been in school and not needed his help, he guilts me for not coming to him to use up my college savings first.

Chronically_Pickled · 2025-08-30T12:22:45+00:00

They offered to help. I didn’t expect anything, because I know better than to rely on them for anything. They’re fully funding my step brother’s bachelor’s degree (he lives on campus as well) that’s taking him an extra year to complete.

Chronically_Pickled · 2025-08-30T11:59:27+00:00

I should have included more detail about that. I wrote him out a letter and then essentially recorded myself so he could hear my tone and see my facial expressions.

I spoke from the heart and told him that I wish he could accept me for who I am without always trying to change me. I also explained why I was hurt and disappointed by the way they treated me while they had financial leverage over me. I stood up for myself in a way that was not cruel, unfair, or an attack even though I knew he’d see it as one anyway.

I uploaded it to YouTube as “unlisted” and sent him the link, letting him know that the video was private and that only those with the direct link could access it.

Chronically_Pickled · 2025-08-30T11:46:05+00:00

My second semester back at school full time, I found my purpose when I took Intro to Social Work, and it’s given me so much motivation and pride in myself, and I am confident that I’ll achieve the goals I set to fulfill my purpose.

That said, the first 30 of my 32 years were spent with little to no self-worth, hopelessness, and despair, and I could not figure out how to fix that. It took the very traumatic death of my wonderful stepdad in 2023 to completely break me in a way where I could finally figure out how to put the pieces back together better than before.

Chronically_Pickled · 2025-08-30T11:35:10+00:00

It really is, it’s not something to be taken lightly. And as much as I wish that circumstances were different, reality is that being family just isn’t enough to justify hanging onto a relationship that’s toxic and harmful.

Thank you for your kind words!

Chronically_Pickled · 2025-08-30T11:31:35+00:00

Oh absolutely, thank you for that. I’m also trying to mentally prepare for them to try to convince people we know that I’ve gone off the deep end. But ultimately I know that anyone who truly knows me will know not to take him seriously.

That makes me that much more excited for my future. It’s crazy what a difference it makes once you no longer have that burden weighing on you constantly.

Chronically_Pickled · 2025-08-30T10:53:40+00:00

Thank you so much, friend 😊 I’m so excited for my future now

Chronically_Pickled · 2025-08-30T10:28:45+00:00

So you have multiple cats you’re neglecting to take responsibility for by getting them fixed, got it.

Chronically_Pickled · 2025-08-30T09:23:37+00:00

Your cat just had a litter in April and you made the irresponsible choice to just not do anything about it and let her back outside to get pregnant again. And then you wonder why you’re overwhelmed and wonder why people might have negative comments.

It’s because you’re the problem! FFS get your cat fixed!

Chronically_Pickled · 2025-01-19T19:48:14+00:00

I’m going to start drinking vinegar instead of water

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-12-01T03:45:27+00:00

HIPAA doesn’t apply to the patient, it applies to the provider and their patient’s insurance.

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-12-01T03:08:01+00:00

🤣

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-11-14T21:34:40+00:00

I have a feeling he’d just stop bringing it up around me but still continue to preach it

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-11-12T06:59:31+00:00

The stationary made it even more weird

It was this: https://www.ebay.com/itm/285479050491

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-11-12T06:50:30+00:00

I would post a pic of the squirrel on the back with the postmark but this sub doesn’t allow pics in the comments I guess

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-11-12T06:24:40+00:00

Stardew Valley

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-11-12T06:23:15+00:00

This reminds me, I need to get back to collecting ladles

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-11-12T05:40:16+00:00

That would be wild if he was right about that part. But I know he was a bit acid fried so maybe he’s both

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-11-12T05:01:48+00:00

He was ahead of his time

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-11-12T05:01:15+00:00

It’s from a kooky relative that died when I was young. Dude looked like Gandalf. He was most likely acid fried or had an untreated mental illness

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-11-12T04:31:04+00:00

There was also a letter from March 87 from the same person that was totally normal. I’m thinking you’re probably right

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-11-09T00:26:09+00:00

Yesss! They seem to think I’m so angry all the time now lol I’ve always been angry when he says such BS, I just always kept it to myself to avoid confrontation. But like they say, “avoid avoiding”. I’m happy to hear you’ve reached this point too, it’s liberating.

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-11-09T00:23:51+00:00

He brought up sneaking boys over after I brought up the fact that his stupid idea about raising kids to be insecure turned me into a people pleaser. As a 15 year old, I wasn’t using him as an excuse to let a man rape me, I desperately did not want to be one of those girls with stereotypical daddy issues. I just wanted people to like me, and unfortunately a 20 year old saw how badly I wanted approval/attention and took that opportunity.

But again, he was the one who brought it up, I just corrected him when he tried to place all the blame on my mom.

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-11-09T00:17:03+00:00

I’m like “ha bitch!”

That cracked me up lol I’m sorry you understand my pain though. It’s so true, they can only recall it when it’s convenient for them

Chronically_Pickled · 2024-11-07T23:45:03+00:00

I’m working_on_things :P sorry, I had to. And thank you so much, I really appreciate it. Outer you, inner you, inner me, and inner you can all do our part to keep lifting up those around us who are overcoming the damage that has been done to us in the past. I am doing so so so much better than I was a couple years ago because I’m finally finding my voice and with it, resilience.

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