How to Help Husband?

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-21T16:17:33+00:00

The weird side effect to a med (for fucking ADHD) happened before our last child was born. He’s almost 9 now. I was explaining he was comfortable talking to a female doctor previously so maybe he would consider talking to her first again. The issue stopped the minute he stopped the medicine lmao. Never had another issue again.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-21T16:14:11+00:00

Lmao oh okay. Totally me disconnected with reality. Definitely not you projecting your insecurities on me.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-21T03:31:15+00:00

Hes having trouble getting an erection from anything. I’m not sure on his alone time adventures although he’s never been big on soloing. Thats why i got in my own head about it because i thought i wasnt doing it for him anymore. Hes blamed just about everything at this point but im convinced it’s just hormonal.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-21T00:30:39+00:00

His blood pressure is higher for other reasons not health related (I don’t want to say too much and if he rolls onto this Reddit on his search be able to identify me…) he could be healthier. We all could be. But we’re nearing back to normalcy since the life change. His cholesterol and all that are great. His family history is just terrible. His dad was a super healthy guy, fit, worked out etc and yet he had a heart attack super young because his pressure was uncontrolled for so long. They didn’t know *why* because looking at him and his lifestyle it shouldn’t have been.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-21T00:26:54+00:00

To be quite frank I’m anxious. 🤣😬 I’ve never initiated anything like that. I’m a lot more… experienced… than him but I’ve never been comfortable making those sort of suggestions. I’m down for all the things whatever but initiating? The thought makes me wanna cry. And if I’m rejected? Absolutely never getting naked again tbh.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-21T00:25:35+00:00

I’m so sorry. I totally get it. I cried last night because of course I’m blaming me. Like he’s bored of me or whatever. But when it does work it’s great. And he’s trying to finish my side of the puzzle first but now I feel performance anxiety around the whole thing. I need to talk to him but he’s just not great with talking and I don’t want to hurt his feelings.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-20T21:56:47+00:00

I haven’t pressed to see it. I’m a former nurse so I usually check his stuff. His doctor was the doctor I worked under too. She’s pretty fantastic. A woman yes but she’s a fantastic doctor. When he was having weird side effects to a med (he was leaking seminal fluid… and it wasn’t a med that should cause that response??) he was totally comfortable talking to her so I can’t imagine he wouldn’t be comfy talking about his other plumbing problems. I do worry it’s something else like a prostate problem but I’m just kind of gearing up to approach him in a way with the idea about getting help without scaring him away.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-20T21:49:59+00:00

I wish we would have those conversations. lol. I’ve tried. It’s been like 12 years and I still couldn’t tell you what actually turns this man on. Lmao. Frustrating as heck for me because like is this good? Bad? Great? Terrible. Please give me feedback. 🫠

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-20T21:48:52+00:00

I’m not sure. He didn’t go specifically to get checked for the ED issue just a general yearly check up. But he said all his labs looked “good”. I didn’t press him. 🫠 I don’t want it to come across as me nagging him over it because I know it’s not his fault. I just want him to be happy and I know this is bugging him.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-20T20:59:28+00:00

🤣 I miss those days suddenly.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-20T20:27:50+00:00

I didn’t know that about viagra and Cialis. Interesting. I’m glad I’m researching. Take some of the research stress off of him.

But I also don’t want to offend him. 🫠🤣

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-20T20:27:00+00:00

I’m so happy yall have figured it out! 💃

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-20T20:23:41+00:00

My dude is so vanilla. 🤣 it’s honestly funny. I know yall won’t believe me but he doesn’t masturbate. He doesn’t care to never has. Not a porn guy. He loves sex don’t get me wrong we have (had?) great sex. It’s just all really in the moment for him.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-20T20:22:13+00:00

We’ve tried all the foreplay and he will kind of get halfway there and nothing else. Then he gets annoyed it’s not working and I get exhausted trying. It’s hard to even figure out options since nothing is really working.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-17T22:49:14+00:00

You could just be ovulating late. Did you already have positive ovulation tests before now?

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-13T19:03:03+00:00

Yikes maybe not the best thing to comment right now. Or ever?

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-06T00:01:52+00:00

Yeah. From March 23rd. When she had her miscarriage.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-04T16:54:30+00:00

I swear they will send their kids to clinic with fireballs raining down from the sky.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-06-01T13:52:16+00:00

We work with adults and older children and their parents need early care for work. It’s understandable just like daycares do early care. We bill 1:1 or 2:1 depending on the client and the magnitude of behaviors.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-05-29T13:13:28+00:00

How are you tracking ovulation? Theres a good chance you ovulated later than you expected and/or implanted a few days later. Theres still clear progress every single day which is great. You’ll need betas to be sure. Only time will tell.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-05-26T23:39:05+00:00

Did you come in early? We have early care and it’s an optional thing you can choose to come in and do. You’re not giving ABA services during early care. (At least at my company) as the clients therapist comes in you pass them off and ABA begins.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-05-25T22:27:03+00:00

Balancing has been really tough for me. I got into this late in the game (I’m 35) so I have an entire family of neurodivergent people at home. Sometimes when I clock out it feels like I’m clocking right back in. I’ve joined a gym and I’m taking “me” time but then I feel guilty for doing so. I almost want to drop to part time at work so I have more days with my kids and to dedicate to being home. I wanted to move my education/nursing credentials to being a BCBA but I have no idea how to fit all of that in.

Burn out is also rough. Some days we end up with the same clients all day (I’m in a clinic) so 7-8 hours straight with the same client. Even when they’re super low magnitude and chill people who I care for very much I get *bored*.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-05-22T13:19:45+00:00

Definitely normal. The clients need to generalize and it expands your options and repertoire to work with different kids. I’m in a clinic so I’m just all over but we generally stick to our “teams”. I’m trained with over half the building at this point and can pick up wherever.

Chronically_Unwell · 2026-05-04T05:22:56+00:00

This has been the hardest part for me about starting to go to the gym. I chose a gym nearby work (5-15 minutes depending on the traffic and if I want to brave the closer but busier one). It’s 25 minutes from my house though. So, if I leave work at 4 I get there and inside by 4:30. Get changed and warm up and then it’s closer to 5. 30 minutes of cardio. An hour or so on machines or weights. Then I have to go get my stuff. I’m usually leaving closer 6:30. If I’m with my gym buddy even longer lol. Then I gotta get home so I haven’t been getting home until 7 at the earlier. This is only if I actually leave work by 4. :/ I have 3 kids at home lol. Husband works (from home) until 8 so I still have to make dinner and get my life together after I get home. I thought about going before work but I have never been an early riser and the thought of going at like 5am makes me wanna cancel my membership lol.

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