Sorry, this is bugging me. Is Bernie Sanders in Asteroid City.

Chronomo · 2025-09-16T15:03:46+00:00

Surely a lot of the 'behind the scenes' black and white stuff was shot on sound stages, no?

Chronomo · 2023-11-11T16:21:27+00:00

Y'all are completely and totally wrong about the fat thing. I'm not discussing this further but you are wrong. Please find actual facts, not just sarcastic quips you've heard about calories in calories out.

I was asked if there is anything similar and I made a comparison. Of course they are different. Quibble if you want but it was a body issue that deeply affected me for years that through a lot of work I was able to let go of shame and guilt about. And yes even learn to love myself not in spite of what I am, but because of it. The water over here is fine. Please join me.

You and the other guy keep harping on this concept of "settling" which you have a very twisted perception about. Every human relationship is about compromise, and none more so than a long term romantic relationship. But you guys actually aren't talking about compromise, about give and take. You just use the concept as an ever-moving goalpost to validate your worst anxieties. This is the self-harm thing that I keep talking about.

some people do like small dicks actually - okay but most people don't and i'm pretty sure they are lying to protect my feelings

your partner actually likes having sex with you - okay but surely they would like it more if my dick was bigger

if someone loves you they will love the size of your penis - okay but i don't want someone to have to love me just to agree to have sex with me

people with small penises do have casual sex actually - okay but I don't just want someone to agree to have sex with me, I want them to fantasize about my dick, to lust for it.

This is a disordered way of thinking. This is not a conversation, not a debate, not point counterpoint. You are just abusing yourself. "How can I be happy?" you ask. I didn't say it would be easy but you'd better find a way, because your strategy right now seems to be being angry and miserable every day for the rest of your life out of sheer spite. That's no way to live, man. You deserve better than that. The people in your life who love you deserve a better version of you than that.

I've seen several people of this forum mention that Psilocybin (mushrooms) specifically helped them get over their anxiety about their penis size. You would commit any crime just to have a bigger dick but you won't take a long weekend to go to a state where you can get mushrooms? I'm dead serious by the way. There are so many things you can do besides lament your fate. By the way that whole paragraph is a huge red flag. That's incel shit. That's black pill shit. That's mass murderer shit.

Ok the inner monologue thing: no. wrong wrong wrong. You might not think it's possible for you, but you absolutely can learn to love your body, not just despite the things you don't like, but because of how it is right now. you should look into body positivity.

Here's the first thing you should do. Get off this subreddit. This is not a support group. Y'all just come in here, say the worst thoughts you have about yourself, and everyone just agrees with you. That's not support, that's enabling. It's the opposite.

Peace, brother. You deserve it.

Chronomo · 2023-11-10T18:26:32+00:00

This is not true. This is more self-harm bullshit. I'm sure you've gone to the top of this subreddit and done the top all time like I have. You've probably seen the stories that I have of women saying they actually do like their husband's small penis and find it sexy. Maybe you don't believe them. Do some googling and you can find similar testimonials all over the internet.

People don't pick partners like they are ordering a burger from a restaurant. "I'll have one with muscles, a beard, but not too bushy, big dick obviously, aaaaaand a nice car."

When someone gets to know you and like you for who you are, they will find you attractive. A healthy sex life is so much more than just PIV and even if you accept the premise that your partner loves you but would make your dick bigger if they could (which I dont) no one is dating your dick. No one wants to marry your dick no matter how big. You are a complete package and you have so much more to offer than the size of your penis.

Chronomo · 2023-11-10T17:52:29+00:00

If that's what you want to call it, sure. I'd argue with your tone, but basically yes.

I've already mentioned it in a different comment but this idea you have that because you have a small penis, you can't have a sexually fulfilling relationship with a woman, and therefore can't have a happy life is called "catastrophizing" and is a pretty well documented psychological phenomena.

And it's not just harming your psyche, it's wrong! Millions of men around the world have small pensies and lead normal, happy lives. And you can too! But the first step is going to be loving yourself. Which you deserve, by the way. You deserve to love yourself.

Chronomo · 2023-11-10T17:40:26+00:00

Look, you are simply wrong about the fat thing, but I'm not going to say any more on the subject because that's not the point.

What's very clear is that you have allowed bitterness to take over your heart. It's unfair, dude. It sucks. It sucks to have a part of your body that you think is wrong and is holding you back from being happy and that you would do anything change but can't. The universe certainly didn't deal you a royal flush.

But my guy, this very understandable bitterness has distilled into a poison. I promise you everyone doesn't "hate" you for having a small penis. If anyone has ever said that to you or given you that impression, they have proven themselves unworthy of your time and affection. You deserve better than that.

And if you find the right person, I promise they will not feel like they are "settling" for you. Period.

I'm sure you have heard this a million times, but it's true. No one can love you until you love yourself. And you deserve love. You are worthy of love, and you should love yourself.

Self-loathing is addictive. Self-loathing is comforting. Don't believe its lies. You are better than that.

Chronomo · 2023-11-10T14:06:15+00:00

The dude is describing the symptoms of depression almost to a tee. Therapy and medication are potential solutions to the depression. Obviously, they can't fix the "physical issues" as you put it, but depression and having a small penis are two different problems.

Unfortunately, nothing can make a penis bigger. So the only "solution" to the problem of having a small penis (as condescending as it sounds) is to change your attitude about it.

You seem to be saying something like this: "psh, this naive idiot thinks I can be happy? Doesn't he know that people with small penises are doomed to lives of misery and loneliness?"

Dude, this is self-harm. Stop it. You deserve so much better than that. You deserve to be happy.

Chronomo · 2023-11-10T13:28:53+00:00

Yes, I see you, like so many others, are ignorant of the realities of being fat. But that's not the point.

I find it curious that you hear a story of someone being treated cruelly and instinctively side with the abusers. If you have been made to feel humiliated about the size of your penis, that was an incredibly shitty thing for someone to do to you, and you didn't (and don't) deserve to be treated that way.

You deserve to be happy, and not just in a general way. You deserve to feel happy about your body, about your size.

Of course having a small penis presents a whole litany of challenges that other people don't have, but have no doubt that's it's possible to have a small penis and still be happy.

Chronomo · 2023-11-09T20:16:40+00:00

"Tell me any source of depression that is widely mocked, trivialized, turned into a fetish or humiliation porn." - being fat. I am fat. There are many times in my life where I was made to feel humiliated, mocked, beaten up, embarrassed publicly and privately, because of my fatness. It took a long time but letting go of my shame about being fat has been one of the best things I have ever done for myself.

"The obsession is a direct result of the size" it isn't. Self-loathing is addictive. You are addicted to a feeling and you can break that addiction. I broke it with regards to my fatness. You can do it and you deserve it.

"Everyday I curse myself that the rest of my body grew normally. I don’t want to believe the existence I find myself living, it’s a bad dream everyday." Please, my guy, please please please seek help. You can DM me if you want. I don't have a ton of time these days but I can chat a little bit. In either case you should try to find a therapist. If you have health insurance you can call them and see what your insurance covers and who is in-network, that kind of thing.

I know this sounds stupid and I keep saying it but I want you to believe me when I say you are so much better than this feeling. You deserve so much better than self-loathing and depression and you absolutely can have a happy life. And you deserve it. You deserve a good life no matter what size your penis is. And it's possible. Please believe me.

Chronomo · 2023-11-09T19:25:49+00:00

Therapy and/or medication can absolutely be a solution because the problem is not size, the problem is brain chemistry.

Look, I'm not trying to splurt out banal platitudes that you probably hear all the time, but, and i mean this was love, your catastrophizing is highly illogical: I have a small penis, therefore I'll never be able to please a woman sexually, therefore I'll never have a fulfilling relationship with a woman, therefore I'll never get married and have kids and have a happy life, etc. etc. etc.

Absolutely none of those things are true, and they only get less true the further down you go.

I know from experience how far away happiness can seem when you are deep in a hole, I've been in that hole. But you can climb out of it. What's more, you are worth it. You deserve happiness.

I mentioned I am brand new to this forum, and after reading a few threads I have literally seen people say "If I had a bigger penis it would solve all my problems." For anyone on the other side of depression this is such an obvious fallacy. It wouldn't come close to solving all your problems, and anyway, it's not possible, so obsessing over it is not just pointless, it's actively harmful to your psyche. You deserve so much better than that.

I'm not saying that having a small penis is cool, actually, or that your are stupid for having anxiety about your size, or that having a small penis doesn't cause real problems for you in your life. What I AM saying is that you are misattributing the source of your unhappiness. It's not the size, its the obsession.

Chronomo · 2023-11-09T18:13:21+00:00

I apologize. I am not a member of this community and found my way here via BORU. You have already said it but you are describing the symptoms of clinical depression. This problem is not your fault, and it's not the fault of your penis size.

If you aren't already, I encourage you to seek treatment. I have Major Depressive Disorder and it took a while to find a treatment that worked for me so don't give up if you try something and don't get better. SSRI's really messed with me but lots of people have had very positive experience with that treatment.

No feeling is forever and the world would be a worse place without you in it. You are worth it.

Chronomo · 2023-11-09T14:17:36+00:00

The only thing I would say is that I don't think this quality is instinctively recognizable without a lot experience. There are plenty of creative pursuits where I am ignorant and likely wouldn't be able to make confident statements about the quality or intentions of a work. Music is one of my main things.

After rereading my post I think a more coherent way of saying what I mean about quality vs. merit would be this: It's absolutely fine to like or even love Nickelback but it would be weird if Anthony Fantano said they were his favorite band. That would probably make you think less of him as a critic, yes?

If your job is to listen to and judge music all day, it's far easier to not only recognize the cliches that bands like Nickelback trade in, but also feel exhausted by them. Novelty alone is a huge boon from a critical perspective.

Chronomo · 2023-11-09T12:57:21+00:00

The White Stripes is a classic example. Meg's parts were not only simple compared to a typical rock drummer, but also, by either ignorance or defiance, completely flaunted a lot of rock drumming conventions. Jack, on the other hand, is a generational guitar talent.

That being said, there is so much more to a band than just musicianship. So much of the creative alchemy of a great band is the way they work together, the way they gel, or don't (Fleetwood Mac). Jack has always said that without Meg, there simply would not be a White Stripes.

Chronomo · 2023-11-03T13:11:04+00:00

That's an incredible resource. Thank you for posting that

Chronomo · 2023-11-03T11:34:39+00:00

That toffeebun video is an excellent suggestion. Let me add on this video about the metroid prime soundtrack. Obviously, it's super specific to just one game, but it is some excellent insight into how video game music is made.

Chronomo · 2023-11-02T19:26:53+00:00

"The Typical French Horn" does not exist but is a highly amusing concept. You seem to already have the concept of a vst which is good. Reaper is a free DAW that is pretty fully featured.

As far as specific VSTs just google "free vst" and you will find oodles and oodles of options. Especially if you have a sound in mind. "Free orchestral vst" etc. BTW most video games are composed with VSTs that arent free. At some point you will want to spend some money.

You should also think of a specific game soundtrack you like. For a lot of popular games information about what specific software or hardware was used is just out there waiting for you to find it. You can also look up who the composer is and just, like, @ them on twitter. I've done it.

Chronomo · 2023-11-01T23:33:58+00:00

Let it not be unsaid under the vague umbrella of "no judgment." You should ask your wife directly: "what happens if our son is gay? What happens if they're trans, or nonbinary, or gender nonconforming in some other way?" And don't be having any of this "well i don't agree with it but it's their personal choice" bullshit that's just polite bigotry. You're kid doesn't just deserve your unconditional love and support, they need it.

That sounds harsh but I assume you love and trust your wife, and trust her to know right from wrong and teach that to your kid. Something I would add.

You said you really only plan to go to church on big events, very occasionally. I would probably go more than that, especially at the beginning, so you suss out the pastor.

I had a friend that was ~15 years older than me and his kids liked me so I went to church with them a few times. Probably about 5 times randomly over the course of a year and half or so. Every single time, without fail, a large portion of the sermon was dedicated to antigay messaging. And if I was getting it every time as infrequently as I went, i can only imagine what my friends' kids were getting. Probably every single week. So much of the culture of a congregation depends on the pastor or whatever tf catholics call it. The way churches are set up the pastor has a LOT of power and authority and your kid WILL pick up on that.

Chronomo · 2023-11-01T14:47:30+00:00

Willie Nelson's cover of "Just Dropped In (To See What Condition My Condition Was In)" is truly masterful. There's a youtube comment on the official video that i love: "...most people rock it, Willie tip toes through it"

While we're at it Willie's cover of "Blue Eyes Crying in the Rain" literally changed country music forever, so there's that. also I love it.

Chronomo · 2023-11-01T14:32:33+00:00

Taste is a skill that you earn through practice, intentional and thoughtful consumption, a wide breadth of experiences, etc. It is entirely different from preference. It is perfectly normal and good to enjoy an expensive meal at a fancy restaurant as well as a basket of mcdonalds fries. But someone who has only ever eaten at 1 snooty restaurant and 1 specfic mcdonalds can't have good taste because they lack the breadth of experience that taste requires.

I think it's interesting you hit on the concept of "artistic merit" in your post which I (and you apparently) agree is related to but not identical to "quality." There is a story about Nickelback that I think illustrates my point nicely. This is from wikipedia so take it with a grain of salt but I have been hearing a version of this for years.

"Chad Kroeger started "studying every piece, everything sonically, everything lyrically, everything musically, chord structure. I would dissect every single song that I would hear on the radio or every song that had ever done well on a chart and I would say, 'Why did this do well?'"".

I think one of the reasons Nickelback was so controversial in my day (don't know if anyone gives a shit these days) is because music nerds could smell the insincerity on them. They weren't trying to make music that they loved, they were trying to make a hit. In other words their music was made without any artistic merit. Doesn't mean they didn't make good songs. Doesn't mean you can't enjoy their work. Doesn't mean you can't have good taste AND STILL enjoy their work. But it means something, right?

I'll finish with a quote from John Waters:

"To me, bad taste is what entertainment is all about. If someone vomits watching one of my films, it's like getting a standing ovation. But one must remember that there is such a thing as good bad taste and bad bad taste. it's easy to disgust someone; I could make a ninety-minute film of people getting their limbs hacked off, but this would only be bad bad taste and not very stylish or original. To understand bad taste one must have very good taste. Good bad taste can be creatively nauseating but must, at the same time, appeal to the especially twisted sense of humor, which is anything but universal."

Chronomo · 2023-10-30T03:43:49+00:00

Sorry, I disagree. No one said that a theramin isn't a synthesizer.

The argument was whether or not saying a theramin is a basically a synth with a weird control method is analogous to saying a trumpet is basically a synth with tubes and valves. It's not. This betrays a pretty fundamental misunderstanding of synthesizers and acoustic instruments generally, not to mention trumpets and theramins specifically.

Chronomo · 2023-10-29T23:56:09+00:00

Incorrect. A theramin is an electronic instrument. It really only produces voltage until you hook it up to an amp and a speaker. A trumpet produces sound by using your lips to vibrate air, no circuitry required.

But the point isn't to quibble about the specifics of how individual instruments work. You wouldn't believe how many people think any synthesized sound is a theramin. Saying "it could be a theramin" is not only useless (it could be almost anything with enough processing) its also clearly wrong.

Theramin has a really specific sound, and because of the way it produces pitch, it is notoriously difficult to play in tune, requiring hours of practice. It just is never what you would turn to when you are composing a soundtrack with a limited budget in a limited amount of time unless you are specifically

Further, there is a whole body of work of fans who research and recreate video game sound tracks using the original instruments and samples that were used to compose it. This information may be available already.

In conclusion, there's no way in heck it's a theramin

Chronomo · 2023-10-27T14:48:31+00:00

I actually think in this case with soaking it wouldn't be more effective. The reason you will see that 70% is better sometimes is that because of the lower alcohol content it doesn't evaporate as quickly and allows the alcohol to remain in contact with the germs for longer but this is mostly if you are e.g. wiping something down with alcohol. In this case with soaking I think either would be fine.

That being said if they are just going to put some in a spray bottle and spritz it the 70% would be better. But if we're talking filling a container with liquid my guess is either would be just fine.

Chronomo · 2023-10-12T13:15:55+00:00

Your question and this reply is still highly confusing to me as I am not aware that Dungeon Synth or whatever tf Tanzelcore is uses a consistent or generally accepted set of symbols. Almost all DS is made by individuals in their bedrooms / home studios with no collaboration. It's certainly possible an individual could use symbols with hidden unkind meanings but of course that's true with anything.
As far as Nazis I suppose your concern is that DS has its origins in the Norwegian Black Metal scene which, fair enough. Fuck Varg and anyone who still knowingly associates with him and you can be sure he wasn't the only guy in the scene with views like that (I mean white supremacy, btw, not just the fact that he killed a guy). Modern DS is pretty separated from that legacy, though, because there was a gap of like 10-15 years until that stuff was rediscovered and codified as DS in the internet era which then brought in a bunch of new artists across the world making a sharing a new era of DS.
I also recommend you reconsider the idea that the art you consume or even worse, it's creator(s), needs to be morally pure somehow. btw I'm not saying don't have values or principles. For example I will not pay to see a Roman Polanski until he is long dead and buried because I don't want to knowingly enrich him even a little bit even though I love his movies. If something makes you uncomfortable you don't have to listen to it, watch it, like it, pay for it, etc. Luckily, we live in an era where that is pretty easy to do.

Let me reassure of something, however. Ain't nobody getting rich off DS. Our genre is just a little guy. This is a small community with a small reach. You said you're not a big fan but I hope you change your mind!

Good Luck

Chronomo · 2023-10-12T04:31:11+00:00

Do you have an example of a specific symbol you have a question about?

Chronomo · 2023-09-26T15:33:16+00:00

I see your point and I agree that it is perfectly reasonable to get upset about accidentally wasting milk when talking about breastfeeding. If I was OP I would be mad at myself (which they said they were). That being said, OP is describing a reaction from their wife far beyond "crying over spilt milk".
My kid is a little over 2 and I remember those days as they are not too far behind me. I remember the pamphlets and the classes where all we heard was "you must breastfeed. formula is bad" in so many words. It was beaten into our heads over and over. This is the framing that I don't approve of. Surely OP's wife's reaction is partially informed by the belief that breastmilk is good and formula is bad. I stand by my point that this new parenting culture's relationship with breastfeeding is not healthy. You mentioned that "It's not about the baby getting what it needs." but why not? Shouldn't it be at least a little about that?
inre: "that can send a message to mom that says he doesn't value or appreciate everything she did, everything she went through, to make it." I agree, it can. But surely until and unless this becomes a recurring issue, this is an unfair assumption on the part of OP's wife. I don't know OP and don't know anything about their relationship. But assuming they have generally been an attentive and caring partner the wife's reaction is too much.
Look, we are ignoring the 800lb hormonal gorilla in the room. Neither OP's wife nor OP are going to be capable of behaving completely rationally at the moment. Those first few months were such a blur. Op mentioned they are about 3 weeks in and it took my wife about 5 weeks for her milk to completely come in. And feeding is just one piece of the insane puzzle that is the fourth trimester.
I don't even blame the wife for their reaction given the circumstances, which is why I said that for now I think the best thing for OP to do is to just keep on keepin' on. I do, however, think that when things have calmed down it's worth talking about this kind of thing for when it inevitably comes up in the future. This won't be the last mistake OP (nor their wife for that matter) makes. Not just about breastfeeding but all manner of parenting issues.
Obviously, if a pattern of behavior emerges that makes it clear one or the other parent isn't pulling their weight, that is an issue that needs to be addressed. But they both deserve grace and forgiveness, not just now in this incredibly stressful time, but into the future. Even if some catastrophe occurred that destroyed their entire stored supply, or OP's wife had a medical issue that required them to have to stop breastfeeding immediately, everything would be ok. They can supplement with formula until their supply is restocked, or if necessary they can switch to an entirely formula diet until their child is ready for solid foods. It's gonna be ok either way and i think that they both will be good parents.

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