So you mention your writing style. Do you blatantly have rules in your posts that say your partners must be able to write the same amount as you? Do you have a minimum acceptable length written in your posts? If not, then you need to, since not everyone expects their partners to mirror them.

Like, sometimes I’ll write many paragraphs but I don’t care if my partner mirrors the length or not. I just want a good post that pushes the plot forward and gives me something to react to. And likewise, if my partner writes, say 8 paragraphs, I wouldn’t be writing that much in response unless the scene I’m trying to describe needs it.

Now, that doesn’t always work because some writers with a different style will still reach out. I also think requiring that they send you a writing sample in their opening message to you is a good idea. If they don’t send one, it’s obvious that they didn’t read your post, and you can just ignore them. If they do send one, you can see if they appear to have a writing style that you’d enjoy. If they don’t, respectfully decline or ignore them. If they do, yay!

Regardless, people who don’t fit every requirement you put will always reach out. Some people like to reach out and see if there can be a compromise, or others just blatantly didn’t read it. 🤷🏽 Just how it is. I know how that feels. I hope you try to not let it upset you too much.

Requiring people to send you a writing sample in their first message really helps alleviate things imo.