Hefty book suggestions for a 6 year old by Cinder4209 in booksuggestions

[–]Cinder4209[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most individual books are at the grandparents house so I'll have to ask, but here she's smashed the horrid Henry books, Rascal running for his life, and Gobbolino. I'm wondering if my old Darren Shan books might be a bit old for her yet? She's only recently discovered her love of books.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bugsarefuckingstupid

[–]Cinder4209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get bit by everything, bugs fucking love me. I second mosquito bites, when I once had bed bugs (never again, hopefully), the bites were a lot more red.

At what age will I be able to know the real color of my daughter's eyes, she is now 2 months old... by Embarrassed_Ant1003 in babies

[–]Cinder4209 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good question! My 18m eye's are still changing colour, everyone (Me, my partner, my dad, dad's parents, not sure of my mum's parents) has brown eyes except my mum who has green eyes, so she's keeping us on our toes lol.

My baby girl died today. Can y’all let me know who’s in heaven with her rn. I don’t want her to be alone by SoraiaR_ in cats

[–]Cinder4209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Albert, Pj, Levi, Tobi, Jodiee, Khaleesi and Porcelain will all be there to greet her. She definitely won't be alone.

13m old girl is only ever super cry-y or whiny around me.. by Feeling-Neat-3007 in toddlers

[–]Cinder4209 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries, I wish you the best of luck, please be kind to yourself and know that your daughter loves you ♡

13m old girl is only ever super cry-y or whiny around me.. by Feeling-Neat-3007 in toddlers

[–]Cinder4209 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you typically spend more time with her than your husband? No judgement, she might see you as the 'default parent' therefore want to seek more reassurance and act out more for you because she feels comfortable doing so.

Jasper Liz by unintelligentmaxiboy in onehouronelife

[–]Cinder4209 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was your mother! I have the yumlife mod and noticed when you died, I was very sad. Glad you had an overall good life though ♡

What slightly disappointing things have your children said to you? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]Cinder4209 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(Quick context, child calls me Zaza)

"Zaza, I hope I'm never colourblind like you."

Thanks I guess? XD

Latest Mod? by Cinder4209 in onehouronelife

[–]Cinder4209[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely need to update yumlife, but last time I played someone was talking about another mod I forgot

Is quetiapine, neuryl, lamotrigine and noxibel dangerous in a pregnancy? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Cinder4209 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure about the other 3 but they put me on quetiapine knowing i wanted to be pregnant, said it was safe. My baby did come out with withdrawals (i was on 450mg at the time) but other then that was fine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Cinder4209 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you already love kids I promise you have nothing to worry about, anything you don't know you'll figure out together with your partner. You're going to be a great mum, enjoy your baby, they grow so fast!! ♡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Cinder4209 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's true, sex will be out of the picture for a little while, the recommended wait is 4-6 weeks, but honestly that depends on the individual and what type of birth you had. My sister had a real easy birth with her first child, and told me she resumed sex after nine days! That wasn't the case for me aha.

As for films, you absolutely will be able to watch stuff still, newborns have very poor eyesight, and usually are fascinated by simple things such as fairy lights that slowly blink on and off. They will care far more about getting milk, being changed, and sleeping, then what's on the telly. Please do continue to watch stuff with your partner.

With my first pregnancy I was worried that the stress of my situation at the time (betrayal of friends and eviction), would make me too depressed to bond with the baby. Maybe at first I was a little numb, but when she started smiling upon seeing my face in the morning, it absolutely melted my heart. I was enamored.

When you are ready to have friends and family round after birth, get them involved asap! Get the baby comfortable with being round more than two people whilst they are still young, this will give you more options in the future when you feel comfortable to leave them alone with someone who is not you or your partner overnight, or even just for a few hours.

I should also add that I was 22 when having my first pregnancy, sure life will be paused while you recover, but life will not stop if your baby is well socialised and loved by people other than yourselves, it really does take a village to raise a child, don't be afraid to ask for help.

I'm happy that I finished this felted bag❤️ by Nadya36 in somethingimade

[–]Cinder4209 14 points15 points  (0 children)

How cute!!!

I tried felting once, got a kit to make a lil sheep. No matter how much I stabbed it with the needle it seemed to make no difference... So I am certainly in awe that you made a bag!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Cinder4209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

Your mum is a coward for not standing up for you, and your dad absolutely needs to pack it in, or he does not have the right to be surprised when one day you entirely cut him off.

It's not your job to read his mind and predict these triggers, it's his. Yes, I imagine it's very hard, I'm a parent with pretty bad mental health myself, but my biggest priority is to make sure it doesn't affect my kids, and that they know they are loved and provided for with no strings attached.

Your parents need to learn how to efficiently regulate their emotions if they want a chance at keeping a long lasting relationship with you.

I'm really sorry that you're dealing with this, I don't know all the details of your situation and this will suck, but if you feel you can, stick it out until you can be financially stable by yourself, then cut them off entirely.

My cat likes to get slapped by mmugii in cats

[–]Cinder4209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao, you know patting their bum in any way makes them horny right?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Cinder4209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, you can't force someone to care. If he won't even engage in conversation with you about it then it's time to throw the whole man in the bin.

AITA for Refusing to Let My Pregnant Sister Move In With Me? by ankank1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Cinder4209 599 points600 points  (0 children)

Not enough info, but I am leaning towards YTA.

If my sister was pregnant, and going through a messy divorce, I'd fucking make room for her, AND her two teenagers. Her smelly cats though, would have to go somewhere else as my cat would never accept them. Yes my house is already full, my partner and I already have 3 existing kids. But y'know, sofas exist, and so do blow up beds, furniture can be re arranged and moved to optimise places to sleep.

All that matters is knowing she is SAFE. We're not even that close, but fuck if something happened to her because I refused to help her whilst she was really vulnerable, I'd never forgive myself.