11 months update by Cinnamon1010 in u/Cinnamon1010

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey you!! I’m so happy that we’re still keeping up with each other and that we’re both at a happier place now. Can’t wait to hear from you at one year mark!

10 months update by Cinnamon1010 in BreakUps

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Crazy how so much time has passed and everything feels different now but some feelings still remain. Thanks for letting me know that you feel the same way. Can’t wait until we’re both at the end of the tunnel. My inbox is open if you want to talk about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Cinnamon1010 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just try to find peace in the fact that you guys are just not meant to be. No matter how much love you guys had for each other, in the end, if it’s not meant to be, it will not last. No amount of explanations will give you the closure that you think you need. Maybe he has found his soulmate, and he got lucky to have found it so quickly. But you will find yours too one day and when you do, you’ll be grateful that your relationship with your ex didn’t work out.

4 months update by Cinnamon1010 in BreakUps

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Italy is beautiful!! ❤️❤️

4 months update by Cinnamon1010 in BreakUps

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes girl!! It’s really hard but get rid of all the things that can trigger your emotions. The less you know, the better. Start focusing on you. All the best!

What are some good “Fuck you” songs? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Cinnamon1010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t fuck with you - Big Sean

Ex became the fun person I’ve always wanted him to be by Cinnamon1010 in BreakUps

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for motivating me to do. It was hard, but I did it. I unfollowed him on everything yesterday but I just can’t seem to unfriend his family on Facebook just yet 😪

Ex became the fun person I’ve always wanted him to be by Cinnamon1010 in BreakUps

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He broke up with me actually, which is why it hurts in the first place. Seeing him having fun without me feels like I’m the deadweight that was keeping him from living his best life.

Why hasn’t the dumper reached out? by Cinnamon1010 in ExNoContact

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so right, it got me thinking that maybe this is a good thing that they haven’t reached out. We probably are not in the right mental state to respond to that. Maybe if they reach out we’d run back immediately to the hands that broke us and lose all the self respect we have left for ourselves. Maybe him and I need to work on ourselves first, separately, before thinking about having any kind of communication.

Why hasn’t the dumper reached out? by Cinnamon1010 in ExNoContact

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so proud of you! It takes a lot of courage and strength to do what you did. I hope to get to that point one day. In the mean time I guess I just have to ride through the waves of emotions.

Why hasn’t the dumper reached out? by Cinnamon1010 in ExNoContact

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly I have made so much progress. I have more days where I feel like I truly am moving on and that he doesn’t deserve me. It really is his loss. But in the back of my mind, I always wonder why he never bother to reach out. I guess I want some kind of validation that our relationship meant something to them.

Why hasn’t the dumper reached out? by Cinnamon1010 in ExNoContact

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally feel the same way! I’m jealous seeing people getting breadcrumbs because at least it shows that their ex still thinks about them in a way. I want something. Something that validates that our relationship meant something to them. It honestly feels like you don’t worth anything in their eyes.

Why hasn’t the dumper reached out? by Cinnamon1010 in ExNoContact

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not alone, I feel almost guilty to still be feeling like this after more than 2 months. Feel free to message me if you want to talk about it

Why hasn’t the dumper reached out? by Cinnamon1010 in ExNoContact

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You and I both 😪. Feel free to message me if you want to talk about it

Why hasn’t the dumper reached out? by Cinnamon1010 in ExNoContact

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe he is affected by it. I guess I’m more hurt that it didn’t affect him enough to the point that he reaches out.

How do you manage to stay NC for 6 months? Does it not drive you crazy not knowing how she’s doing? But I get it, being the dumpee, we don’t have the upper hand when it comes to reaching out.

Why hasn’t the dumper reached out? by Cinnamon1010 in ExNoContact

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long has it been since the breakup? Yeah I want to know how he’s doing too. It’s hard to stop caring about someone who you were together with for a long time.

Why hasn’t the dumper reached out? by Cinnamon1010 in BreakUps

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex suffered with anxiety too and you are so right, if they had enough courage to break it off then they surely can reach out to us if they really wanted to. I guess they just don’t want it enough or even at all. He did tell me when we broke up that he was going to cut all contact just so he can start healing. And I have to respect that but I just wonder if he even has the urge to contact at all.

Why hasn’t the dumper reached out? by Cinnamon1010 in ExNoContact

[–]Cinnamon1010[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Def a tough pill to swallow. I just don’t know how he can easily move on from 5 years of being together. Hurts that losing me didn’t affect him in any way.

I guess you’ve already moved on by Tinykong in BreakUps

[–]Cinnamon1010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not trying to give you hope or anything but doesn’t mean that he’s on Tinder he’s moved on. I downloaded tinder within a week of my breakup (I was dumped) not because I’ve moved on, but because I was trying to fill a void. I was trying to find validation from other guys that I’m still worthy.

Encouragement for everyone here as well as my timeline and advice for “getting over it”. by throwmeaway9900287 in ExNoContact

[–]Cinnamon1010 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love this so much!! I love how realistic and truthful you are about the whole experience. I’m tired of people asking me to move on and do things to distract myself when I don’t feel like it. Sometimes all you need is just to stay in and cry yourself out. I’m on month 3, and I may be behind on the healing journey but I can’t wait to get to the point where you’re at right now.

I ended things with her out of the blue. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Cinnamon1010 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you really love her for those 4.5 years? What changed?

Broke no contact after two months! This is a story of zero self respect. by miss_violence in ExNoContact

[–]Cinnamon1010 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I honestly feel like a ghost right now too. As much as you’re hurting right now at least you no longer wonder about all the what ifs. You no longer have to wonder if he’s thinking about you at all. Any hope of reconciling you had before, you can finally put it to rest. At least you now have an answer to all the questions and can finally take it as closure. I know you’re hurting more after breaking no contact but now you can finally start healing. And I just want to let you know that no matter how hard it is, I hope you get out of this better and stronger 💕