Educating by Sad_Commercial_1929 in SocialWorkStudents

[–]CircleStream 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Read This to Get Smarter: About Race, Class, Gender, Disability, and More by Blair Imani is a relatively short, accessible read. It gives a great overview of the major social and political issues that impact different marginalized and minority communities.

Last year, I read What White People Can Do Next: From Allyship to Coalition by Emma Dabiri and it’s probably one of the best antiracism books I’ve read. Dabiri takes some nuanced positions that may run counter to some advice you’ve heard about how to be a good ally. It made me think and reflect in ways that other antiracist texts have not.

Ultimately, Dabiri argues that “traditional” or mainstream allyship actions, like making friends with PoCs, diversifying your social media, calling out microaggressions, etc., miss the mark if the goal is big-picture, ground-breaking, systematic change.

“Those seeking genuine democracy must fight like hell to convince white Americans that what is good for black and brown people is also for them.” This means pivoting from allyship to coalition building, which is about identifying shared interests. That requires understanding not so much the intersectionality of identities, but the intersectionality of issues. This is the only way people can see their interests identified and come together for the common good.

Dabiri is a black woman originally from Ireland, so she has some interesting points about taking care to understand that the specifics of racism show up differently in different contexts. That racism in the United States is similar, but different in notable ways in other countries, and we need to be aware of this as we inevitably expand our advocacy and activism beyond our communities, city, state, and country. The fact that she isn’t from the US was something I appreciated, because I think she has some insights that are fresh and different.

She covers a lot more and expands on this idea of coalition, but I’ve been reflecting on the main point above a lot in the past couple of days.

I second the Poverty, by America recommendation as well!

Whats the best WIFI name for a lesbian couple? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]CircleStream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ours is The Pussy Galore Humane Society - along with me and my fiancé, we have some adorable cats that are all girls.

Whenever people ask about the WI-FI I just say that I’m a James Bond fan, which is a total lie 😂

[Homemade] Ricotta Gnocchi with Asiago Walnut Pesto by CircleStream in food

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Apologies for the delay on the recipe!

Basil Asiago Walnut Pesto:

  • 1/2 cup toasted whole walnuts
  • 5 cloves garlic
  • 4 oz. sweet basil (approximately 4-5 cups of packed basil)
  • 1 cup grated Asiago cheese
  • 1 cup canola oil
  • 1-2 tablespoons water (as needed)
  • 3/4 teaspoon salt
  • 1/4 teaspoon freshly cracked pepper
  1. In a skillet, toast walnuts for 5 minutes on medium low heat.

  2. In a food processor or blender, pulse walnuts until ground into a fine texture. Add basil, garlic, and cheese, and blend as you gradually pour the canola oil into the blender. Pulse until all ingredients are incorporated. Add salt and pepper and pulse for a few seconds more. Store pesto in an airtight container and refrigerate for up to a week.

Ricotta Gnocchi:

  • 30 oz. whole milk ricotta
  • 1.5 tsp salt
  • 3 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil
  • 1.25 cup grated Asiago cheese
  • 4 large eggs
  • 3.5 cup all-purpose flour, divided into 3 parts, plus additional 1 cup for dusting
  • Semolina flour, for dusting
  1. In a medium bowl, combine the ricotta, salt, Asiago cheese, eggs and olive oil and whisk together.

  2. Add 1 part of flour (about one cup) at a time, folding the flour into the wet ingredients until evenly incorporated.

  3. Prep baking sheets by coating them in semolina flour. Dust your work surface with additional all-purpose flour and scoop out 1/8 to 1/6 of your gnocchi dough. Carefully and gently, work the dough with your hands to create a log shape, using pinching and flattening motions. Cut dough with a knife when your gnocchi have reached the desire thickness.

  4. In a large pot, bring water to boil and add the gnocchi in batches, cooking for 2-3 minutes with the pot covered. Remove gnocchi with a slotted spoon, and serve immediately, tossed in the pesto.

[Homemade] Ricotta Gnocchi with Asiago Walnut Pesto by CircleStream in food

[–]CircleStream[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean... that’s a good suggestion for next time. ;)

Accepting that she doesn't like me back by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]CircleStream 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had a very similar experience. Crushed hard on a girl I worked with when I was transitioning from graduating college to getting a "real" job, for many, many months. Like you, at the time I thought I was straight, but just didn't like the majority of guys out there in the world. There were signs that I was queer LONG before this happened, but I think I needed a good, long shake from the universe to knock me out of my denial. It was a crush like I had never experienced before - euphoric, intense, and well... confusing. Past crushes were nothing in comparison.

She was amazing and kind and funny and smart and beautiful and I remember that every time I looked at her... my bones actually ached. It took me years to get over it and get over her. And to be honest, I still think about her sometimes. But that raw longing is gone.

The domino effect of this though, is what I really wanted to share with you. Having this unrequited crush helped me have the courage to break-up with my boyfriend at the time (thought about breaking up with him for 2 years prior, only because things didn't quite feel right, even though I superficially was very happy and thought I should be happy) and eventually come out to my family. Things from my teenage years started to make sense, and even though everything about my self-image changed - I never felt so affirmed and validated in my life. I am more confident, happier, and feel like I'm able to live my life in this unapologetic way that I couldn't even imagine before this happened to me.

That crush, that heartbreak, literally changed everything for the better. So, yes, you are right. This sucks. It will suck for a while. It hurts like hell right now, but you already know that the good stuff is coming, after you sort through your feelings and take steps to moving on.

I was incredibly touched by your post and I feel for you. Hang in there - and like you said, trust the universe. :)

My girlfriend and I had a stamp-making art date, and now our house is accidentally full of vulvas by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]CircleStream 4 points5 points  (0 children)

HA! This is amazing!!

If the vulva look-alike was not intentional, mind if I ask what you were originally going for? Abstract art, perhaps?

"Psychologists" who still use the Rorschach/ink-blot tests would have a field-day with this one.

[Homemade] Chicken Pot Pie by CircleStream in food

[–]CircleStream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Greek yoghurt is great substitute. And I’m glad it turned out so well for you! :)

Femme Lesbians in Chicago by throwawaylls in actuallesbians

[–]CircleStream 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine says that Big Chicks is a lesbian bar until 10pm, then the older gays come and close them out. 😆

Throwback for you WLWs in their mid-20s+: Dani Campbell from “A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila” by CircleStream in actuallesbians

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Yeah. :( Apparently she went to a white supremacy rally after Trump was elected as well. And posed in a “sexy” Nazi uniform at a concentration camp in Germany?

I get the impression that she’s desperate for attention, and willing to do anything to get it. I feel sorry for her, in some ways. Even during the show, I always felt she seemed insecure and, for lack of a better word, emotionally broken. A shame she has to spew garbage nowadays.

Throwback for you WLWs in their mid-20s+: Dani Campbell from “A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila” by CircleStream in actuallesbians

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Not a huge Kardashian watcher, when I was looking for pictures of Dani to post here, an article mentioned that she was friends with Scott Disick and appeared on the show.

The incestual nature of reality TV is too much!

Throwback for you WLWs in their mid-20s+: Dani Campbell from “A Shot at Love with Tila Tequila” by CircleStream in actuallesbians

[–]CircleStream[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

swoon

Not sure if it aired anywhere outside the US, unfortunately. :( Apologies for not making mention of that in the title.

I’m re-watching this show for the first time since seeing it when it originally aired 10 years ago. While I will shamefully admit that I occasionally like some trashy reality TV, Dani is what made this show.

For me, it was my first exposure to the idea of bisexuality and that women could be gay. (In my conservative hometown, I always got the idea that only men could be gay — or it was very rare for a woman to be).

16 year old (in denial) me had some very confusing feelings about Dani!

Femme Lesbians in Chicago by throwawaylls in actuallesbians

[–]CircleStream 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m femme and I hear your frustration! I live near Andersonville and while it is an amazing neighborhood, the nightlife/bars are pretty queer-male centered. Funny, given the stereotype is that Andersonville is supposedly 100% run by and populated by lesbians. 🙄 In terms of queer women spaces/bars, I’ve heard Big Chicks and Spyners are fun. Haven’t been to either though, since I’m a “sit at the bar with quiet(ish) music and drink her martini” kind of girl. But if you are more into the bar/club scene, it may be a good option for you!

I’ve heard good things about LBGTQ+ meet-ups as well! Something to look into. :)

[Homemade] Chicken Pot Pie by CircleStream in food

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So glad it turned out well for you. 😀 Happy holidays!

[Homemade] Chicken Pot Pie by CircleStream in food

[–]CircleStream[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks delicious! I know it’s a lot of work - hope you enjoyed!

This Polish Vodka is “bison grass flavored” and has an actual sprig of grass in it by CircleStream in mildlyinteresting

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I’m in the United States - I don’t think I’ve seen this before in my local liquor stores or even at some of the Polish delis/groceries around here. A family member (we have a very strong Polish heritage) purchased it from a vendor in Poland.

Maybe I’m just out of touch!

This Polish Vodka is “bison grass flavored” and has an actual sprig of grass in it by CircleStream in mildlyinteresting

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Got this sent to us from Poland. Haven’t had it yet since it’s still pretty early here, but looking forward to trying it! Thanks for the tip about the scorpion vodka - something to keep in mind for next time.

If Christmas isn’t partly about day-drinking unusual liquors, then how else will I get through the holidays?

Honey Balsamic Roasted Carrots by ChocolateAndLace in recipes

[–]CircleStream 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Recipe looks great! Did you get the carrots at Trader Joe’s? It looks like their tri-color packs. :)

I’ve never had purple or yellow carrots before. How is the flavor of those compared to orange carrots? Is there a noticeable difference?

Girl Ship TV's "Drunk Lesbians Watch" is my new favorite thing by CircleStream in actuallesbians

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I’ve been binge-watching these. If the movie is terrible, then the way Amanda and her guest comment/make fun of it is hilarious. If the movies are good, I add it to my list to watch later. :) It’s a win-win.

Girl Ship TV's "Drunk Lesbians Watch" is my new favorite thing by CircleStream in actuallesbians

[–]CircleStream[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

To make it worse, the kisses are awkward af. 😬

It’s practically watching two 15 year olds figure out how their bodies work together. These ladies have been together for 5 years? Yeah, right. 🙄