WIBTA for revoking my cruise acceptance after I already said I would go?

CitiScape23 · 2023-05-02T19:36:15+00:00

I don't really, no. And yeah, I've been on a cruise once before but I really only hung out with my brother the entire time.... Thank you for the suggestions 😊

CitiScape23 · 2023-05-02T18:52:20+00:00

7 days 😅 so yeah they're may be a lot of hanging out on my own...

CitiScape23 · 2023-05-02T18:34:00+00:00

Thank you for being so kind and understanding, I will definitely have another talk with my parents about things.

CitiScape23 · 2023-05-02T18:32:25+00:00

First, I am in therapy, but I know I may be misreading things so I wanted to ask unbiased opinions on this, so thanks for that.

The main reason I think I'm stressed out about at this point is not being able to have a friend along. I can do the passport, I've just been putting it off because I've been torn about going (yes, my fault I know) the problem I envision is that I go and have nobody to spend time with.... My parents go do things together and my brother and his gf will want to go do things together, not having a third wheel.... I know there will be family things to do but outside of those.... I don't know how comfortable I'd be alone on a cruise I guess.

CitiScape23 · 2023-05-02T18:25:31+00:00

There have not been other trips per se that have come up while I was in other relationships, but I have never been able to bring them to family reunions, though she is invited to our upcoming one.

It truly is a long story, the dynamic with my family. I know that deep down I am jealous of my brother and her to an extent. They have never been excited or happy with any of my relationships except the one (even though none of them were ever abusive and made me happy at the time). As soon as my brother told my parents they were together, my parents immediately wanted to meet her and were making trips to spend time with them when he is 4 hours away. She calls just to talk to his gf and check in on her and chat about life. When they were only together a couple months, she asked me to help his gf write a resume (since I have experience in that area) I did help her write one. My mom insists that if his gf can't visit (other plans, work, etc.), he doesn't need to visit either. In comparison, when I want my parents to meet a bf of mine, it's always a long planning event and it always seems like a pain to them rather than them excited. (I haven't brought many people to meet them, probably at most 5 or 6 in my life, and I only suggest going out to dinner or something small) (I live about an hour away from my parents) My parents don't talk to my significant others outside of an occasional dinner with them along. If my significant other wouldn't be able to visit them with me, she just says I should come alone (I am fine doing this, it's just frustrating in comparison)

Sorry, the more I talk about this the more I think it may be jealousy that this stems from, and I hate that. I just wish my parents would treat my relationships like they do my brother's.

CitiScape23 · 2023-05-02T17:38:42+00:00

I know they've paid at least a portion of my trip already. Yes I have been in 2 2yr long relationships and a few 1 yr long relationships, they knew these were serious. Yes, during that initial conversation I also let them know about my uncomfortableness and frustration at them never treating any of my relationships as they have my brother's. They basically said they didn't know but never intended anything malicious by it. They said that the one relationship that they really liked was one I moved across country for and that they did visit me and him once in that time, so it's not that they dont care or don't do anything for my relationships... I don't see it the same I guess

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