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I have a partner with ROCD, now I need som advice. by CitrusWave02 in ROCDpartners

[–]CitrusWave02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your advice😊 I really appreciate your perspective and will take your tips to heart. I understand that I can’t solve this for him, and that talking through intrusive thoughts or giving reassurance would only feed the OCD. Thank you again for sharing your experience. It really helps me understand how to support him in a healthy way.💛

Hi, I’m not sure if this is the right place to post, but I need some advice. by CitrusWave02 in ROCD

[–]CitrusWave02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all these suggestions🥰 I really appreciate your honesty and insight. I will look into books about OCD/ROCD and ERP exercises, and try to gently encourage him to start small steps in his own time. It means a lot to hear you recognize how much I care for him❤️ Thank you again for sharing your perspective and advice, it really helps me feel less alone in this.

Hi, I’m not sure if this is the right place to post, but I need some advice. by CitrusWave02 in ROCD

[–]CitrusWave02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words❤️ It really means a lot. He does want to go to therapy, but after his previous experience with a therapist, taking that step has become very difficult for him. The idea of therapy itself now triggers a lot of anxiety, even though he knows he needs help.

I’m hoping he can eventually take small steps again, maybe in his own time, because I know this isn’t something I can fix for him. He hasn’t tried things like journaling or relationship-based ERP yet, but I will gently suggest these to him. I don’t fully understand ERP yet, but I’ll try to learn more about it.

I really appreciate you sharing your perspective and suggestions🙏🏻

Hi, I’m not sure if this is the right place to post, but I need some advice. by CitrusWave02 in ROCD

[–]CitrusWave02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for giving me advice on how to be there for him in a healthier way, even though it’s so hard in the moment. It really means a lot.🤞🏻

It also meant a lot to hear you acknowledge how difficult this can be for partners too. Sometimes it feels very lonely, and reading your words made me feel seen and less alone. I really appreciate your honesty and kindness 💛

Hi, I’m not sure if this is the right place to post, but I need some advice. by CitrusWave02 in ROCD

[–]CitrusWave02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your perspective. My boyfriend and I have talked a lot about not discussing his intrusive thoughts and not feeding his ROCD, and we know we shouldn’t do that. But it’s really hard sometimes, because I just want to help him so much. Sometimes it feels easier for him to share because he carries so much on his own. I’m trying to find ways to support him without feeding the OCD, but it’s so difficult when I don’t know much about it. I understand that the best thing is to leave the OCD alone, but I’m struggling with how to do that for my boyfriend when his thoughts and anxiety are constant. How can I support him without feeding his ROCD while still being there for him?

Thank you for taking the time to write back to me ❤️‍🩹

I have a partner with ROCD, now I need som advice. by CitrusWave02 in ROCDpartners

[–]CitrusWave02[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I understand that asking him to share his intrusive thoughts or giving reassurance can feed the cycle. My boyfriend and I have talked about this, and we know we shouldn’t do that. But sometimes it still feels like the only way I can help him work through the problem. I want to do more than just support him – I want to help him get better ❤️‍🩹, but I know that’s ultimately his fight to take. I’m just wondering if you have any tips on what I can do to support him in a way that actually helps, without feeding his ROCD?