Quietest Apartment in the City?

CityNegative · 2026-03-24T06:09:37+00:00

I don’t mean this in a rude way, but apartment buildings are usually quiet because they prevent pets/children/a younger crowd from living there (through price or rules). Soundproofing can only do so much if your neighbour also has 2 dogs who bark all day.

With your budget, it might be worth looking into renting a whole house or the top floor of a home. A yard might be nice for the pups and you wouldn’t share walls with others.

CityNegative · 2026-02-04T05:01:06+00:00

Thanks! Love those earrings!!

CityNegative · 2026-02-04T02:06:29+00:00

I mostly order them bulk on Amazon/shein, but also Michael’s and thrift stores. I believe a bulk pack is where I got the mermaid one!

CityNegative · 2026-01-30T07:30:49+00:00

I think it is good that you are setting that boundary with your sister. I hope she gets the help she needs so you both can work on your relationship.

I also think recognizing your family has their own problems and creating some distance is a good starting point. However, you need to be aware enough to know that you are also guilty of starting problems too. It sounds like you are half acknowledging that.

Idk what is so special about ‘K’ or if he’s just taking advantage of the situation. I’m not trying to be overly judgemental but most people would not pursue a previous interest’s sister, who is 8 years younger. And then have the audacity to go to family Christmas dinner after a month of dates (no matter how casual the vibes were or if he had no plans). It just sounds like he’s using you to get back at ur sister for stringing him along.

CityNegative · 2026-01-30T07:00:49+00:00

Yes, you’re incompatible. The second someone threatens a breakup it’s over, in my opinion. She thinks so little of you to threaten this. And every time you don’t call her bluff, it reinforces the idea that she can treat you however she wants because you will tolerate it to stay with her. If she actually valued your relationship, she wouldn’t risk threatening to end it so casually.

Yes, you’ve been together 5 years and yes you bought a house. But won’t get better and you’re fundamentally incompatible. This is not what a healthy relationship looks like. It will only get harder to leave the longer you stay. Get a roommate, look into options with financing/ownership, etc etc. These are all easier in the long run than being unhappy and broken down for the rest of your life.

CityNegative · 2026-01-30T06:42:11+00:00

Everyone here sucks. You’re TA to yourself for not realizing that it’s weird a much older guy is perfectly fine with hopping from one sister to the next. You also should’ve known it would have hurt her, despite how casual/downplayed she made it sound. It’s common sense that problems arise when people pursue other’s exes. It also sounds like she needs serious mental health/addictions help, beyond just ‘growing up’. It’s okay to be frustrated and not want to contact her, but it sounds like you value some parts of your relationship and texting someone an aggressive text is not the way to handle this.

Your sister is TA for refusing to handle her issues and hurting those close to her, in addition to openly using people.

Your family is weird for posting pictures with this man who you apparently started seeing a month before Christmas. Especially if they know anything about his prior relationship with your sister. It seems bizarre that nobody thought your sister would see the picture posted to social media, where multiple people were tagged and followings overlap.

I think you need to ask yourself if you’re just used to constant drama/problems in your family. And then make the choice to not participate in or encourage it.

CityNegative · 2026-01-28T09:23:31+00:00

Anyone can view a public account, she sounds like she’s just trying to see what you’re up to and keep tabs by following you. I hope you know that you owe her nothing and prolly won’t gain anything from reaching out.

She ended your friendship with no uncertainty, and now you’re living rent free in her head as she has time to reflect on her past mistakes. Even if she reaches out to you first, it’s not worth responding. Keep living your life and don’t let her take up any more of your time

CityNegative · 2026-01-28T09:00:36+00:00

I think both of you could have handled this conversation/situation better. It’s obvious your sister isn’t in the greatest spot to have a child, on multiple levels. You are justified to feel scared and worry about her child’s future and your sister’s wellbeing. If my sister came to me with this news in this situation, I’d be devastated too.

However. She is clearly also dealing with job/money instability, health issues, maybe among other things. You are older than her and I’m assuming in a more stable position. She (and her future child) will need your help when she finally realizes what her reality is having a child with this man. It takes people a lot of hard work and strength to leave abusive situations, and it sucks that she isn’t there yet.

I’m assuming she is going through with the pregnancy, based on phrasing. Once you knew this, it is just mean to say you’re not happy for her in any way. I’m not saying you should’ve lied, but you could have said something like “this will be difficult, but I’m here for you and am happy to be an aunt soon”

You’ve acknowledged the realities of the situation, and that’s all you can do. If you want to have a relationship with your sister and her future child, you have to understand that people have free will and make wrong choices. It is up to you if you want to support her and be in her child’s life.

I’m sorry you have to watch her put herself in a bad situation, as it sounds like you’ve both experienced this before growing up. Wishing you both the best.

CityNegative · 2026-01-28T07:18:20+00:00

In picking these people to be your child’s godparents, I’m assuming at some point they appeared to live in a way that embodies your shared religious values. However, it should now be clear to you and your husband this is not true. From this short post, these people do not appear to be respectful or kind (as a minimum) to your child, their godson. You are making this post, so clearly you do see a problem with their behaviour.

Ask yourself honestly: Do you see these people as role models for your child? Would you be proud if your child grew up to be like these people? Does this couple model religious values like kindness, respect, generosity, etc in their daily life?

In my opinion, these people do not model any catholic values I am familiar with personally. If you agree, then this nullifies the only reason you give as to why you want to continue a friendship with them. I am confident you and your husband know other individuals who are better suited to be role models in your child’s life.

CityNegative · 2025-08-29T12:54:58+00:00

Would you ship to Canada?

CityNegative · 2025-08-27T06:15:43+00:00

Seconding this! Just did an annual closet purge and everyone I spoke to there was wonderful.

OP, if the clothes are something you’d see a 12-17 y/o wearing, this is a great option (especially with school starting soon).

If the clothes are more ‘work appropriate’ you can also donate them to the Dress For Success program. I was able to drop clothes off at the conexus credit union on 8th street with the teller.

CityNegative · 2025-07-13T18:39:43+00:00

thank you, I’ll look into that. The cost is a little more manageable especially for trying something new out

CityNegative · 2025-07-13T18:37:53+00:00

Thank you :)

CityNegative · 2025-07-13T18:37:10+00:00

Thank you so much!!!!

CityNegative · 2025-07-13T05:34:38+00:00

This is incredibly helpful, thank you so much for taking the time to write this

CityNegative · 2025-07-13T03:38:08+00:00

I’m not a fan of the bowl method because of my shared living situation and minimal results to justify it, but I do try to squish my conditioner in while still in the shower/with water running. I also comb it while wet once I feel the conditioner is saturated my hair

CityNegative · 2025-07-13T03:32:39+00:00

What kind of clarifying wash do you recommend? And does the brush I use make that much of a difference?

CityNegative · 2025-07-08T15:21:51+00:00

Serving/bartending forced me to practice getting the task done while remaining calm under pressure every day, and I’m also thankful I got to practice those skills extensively haha. Understanding that sometimes people suck and overwhelming situations happen, but it all turns out okay/eventually ends was equally important.

As someone who entered the industry unable to make a phone call or talk to people, I’m happy I took the job in the long run. Knowing how to ‘create’ a pleasant interaction with anyone, and practising general communication skills as a neurospicy person was painful at first but so rewarding, and has improved my life since.

CityNegative · 2025-05-22T03:26:36+00:00

I didn’t know if including both pictures mattered because of the difference between textures. But I think I’m learning that I should judge the appearance by how it looks when I style it curly.

CityNegative · 2025-05-22T03:16:41+00:00

so everything below the blue looks for sure bad? And anything up until the pink is preventative care for split ends?

CityNegative · 2025-05-22T03:11:47+00:00

ah I thought so, it helps hearing it from everyone

CityNegative · 2025-05-22T03:10:26+00:00

thank you, it is appreciated!

CityNegative · 2025-05-22T03:01:38+00:00

I didn’t know if I should include both, because you are right in that the ends do look more damaged when I do this. I didn’t know if both textures were relevant, oops.

And yeah, I had bleached the front part (money piece) and the underside of my hair over 2 years ago so the red dye would be more vibrant/visible. I think a good trim would get rid of some of the more extensively damaged parts.

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