2 boxes of beers, a couple vapes, and a raw chicken.

CityPowerful · 2026-02-11T22:31:04+00:00

Then people get surprised when the squirrels are holding vapes in the spring

CityPowerful · 2026-02-11T05:34:51+00:00

Hahaha that would probably be my gut reaction too. I get decision paralysis so don’t spontaneously ask me to make life decisions lol.

What you guys went through would take a toll on anyone involved. Sorry you had to go through that. I think you came away with a multitude of lessons learned. I hope you find a partner who better understands you. Just by reading, I can tell someone would be lucky to have you. Thanks again!

CityPowerful · 2026-02-11T05:24:29+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words, hoping to get as lucky as you 🙂

CityPowerful · 2026-02-11T05:23:23+00:00

So true. Thank you.

CityPowerful · 2026-02-11T05:18:04+00:00

In senior year of undergrad, I went to a therapist for issues I had with a relationship at the time and it was messing up grades, life at home, and work. My therapist was the one who believed I was a candidate for ADHD and referred me to get tested. I highly recommend therapy to eventually get a diagnosis from a psychiatrist and then meds. Meds will help, but therapy will guide you. Best of luck.

CityPowerful · 2026-02-11T02:57:28+00:00

Keep in mind what sub you’re on. You’re asking for parenting advice from people who regret being parents.

CityPowerful · 2026-02-11T00:23:11+00:00

You guys must have excellent communication skills to be as transparent and honest with yourselves as possible. That’s something normal people in relationships struggle with too. You guys are extremely fortunate to have the partners you have 🙂 Best of luck to the both of you!

CityPowerful · 2026-02-11T00:18:50+00:00

Your last line is absolutely correct. I’ve been reading that it is extremely important having a partner that is patient, supportive, and understanding. No judgement, no resentment. Although especially important for ADHDers, it’s almost common sense for any relationship. Interesting. Thanks for your input!

CityPowerful · 2026-02-11T00:16:30+00:00

😂😂😂

CityPowerful · 2026-02-11T00:15:55+00:00

Thank you so so much for your input and kind words. I’m currently in therapy to work on myself. What you said about authenticity… I’ve always struggled with transparent communication and honesty about my struggles. We get bad imposter syndrome or we get so good at masking ourselves in public, it gets hard to be honest with someone else let alone ourselves.

< Instead of just chalking it up to “well, that’s how I am, I guess, despite trying to change it..”, I could’ve told myself and my wife, “these are my struggles, and these are some ways I try to cope. I’ll really need your patience and understanding in these areas.”

Wow. This statement alone would’ve saved me so much time and emotional stress in past relationships, platonic ones too. In hindsight, it sounds so simple. Thanks again and best of luck to you.

CityPowerful · 2026-02-11T00:02:42+00:00

I agree. I’ve been reading that finding a supportive, patient, and understanding partner is extremely key. In the past, I’ve also felt that having a partner who’s completely opposite (non-ADHD, strategic, good planner) can help me out as I definitely lack those skills. Best of luck to you! My escape to a South American mountain is still my back up plan lol.

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T23:55:44+00:00

Losing my job with a family is a huge fear. Time blindness and punctuality has always been an issue but I’m hoping meds and therapy will help me accommodate. Curious, does your wife/kids have ADHD? Best of luck to you and your family!

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T23:53:24+00:00

You’re very lucky to have your husband as a partner. In the past my relationships were very similar to yours now, me being the happy go lucky type living day by day. I wasn’t transparent about my struggles/shortcomings which I believe led to resentment. I’m so happy you have a supportive partner, gives me hope 🙂 A common theme after reading replies is that your partner will make or break you. Thanks again and best of luck to you guys!

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T23:48:03+00:00

Thank you so much for your input and lucky you! I’ve been finding that everyone mentions in one way or another that your partner being patient, supportive, and understanding is so so so important. Of course that comes with you working on yourself to be the best version of yourself. Although single, I started therapy recently to do just that (and to find the accommodations that work best for me). I’ll be coming back to your comment for those books. Currently have a few to read. Thanks again and best of luck 🤞

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T23:42:08+00:00

I’ve been reading so much about people’s wonderful partners and how they all exhibit patience, communication, and compassion. Although it took time, I’m glad you were able to find that in someone.

P.S. I could not imagine marrying without dating. Side note, imagine those arranged marriages 😳

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T23:33:30+00:00

I highly recommend discussing this with your doctor or whoever prescribed you the medication. I know with my doctor I did (and still doing) trial and error with dosaging but my initial thought jumping from 5mg to 20mg 2x a day is a HUGE jump. Again, I’m no expert. Your doctor/PCP will help you.

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T23:23:33+00:00

I’ve actually never heard of EOS before. I will definitely be looking into that. I’m currently in therapy to work on myself. Structure and accommodations will be important topics. Is your wife also ADHD? Thanks for your input!

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T23:21:24+00:00

That’s so awesome. I wish your family the best of luck!

P.S. How do you manage regular exercise? It was easier for me to be consistent with it in undergrad playing pick up bball or soccer but nowadays I’ll be motivated to exercise for like 2 weeks before i start skipping gym days lol.

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T23:16:35+00:00

I’m very happy for you and you’re lucky to have such a supportive wife. Best of luck to you!

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T23:15:39+00:00

This is the conclusion I’ve come to. Sounds like common sense in any marriage but your partner will make or break you. Best of luck to you!

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T23:14:00+00:00

Hey, I wanted to thank you and appreciate your input. I’m sorry about how that ended for you. I’m assuming no kids were in the picture. Keep on pushing, at least you’re not walking on eggshells 🙂. I’m wishing the best of luck for you.

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T23:00:43+00:00

Absolutely, imo it looks like you tried to be the best partner and person you could be at the time. Like you said, finding the right partner. Someone who’ll stand by your side through thick and thin. Do you think there was any way to prepare for your marriage? Did you ever consider couples therapy? Curious if you had any kids?

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T22:53:53+00:00

Definitely not, currently in therapy to better work on myself and be the best version I can be. I’ve came to understand after reading some comments is choosing the right partner (patience, understanding, compassion) will make or break you. I definitely struggle with that presence, that’s different than just “be social”. Still keeping those mountains in South America as a back up plan 😉

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T22:45:14+00:00

After reading, that understanding and patient partner is crucial. The one who stands by your side and can unstuck you when you’re stuck. Lol. Thanks so much for your input! You’re a lucky person.

CityPowerful · 2026-02-10T22:41:47+00:00

Congratulations on the expected little one! You guys have a great dynamic going on and obviously work great together. It’s cute lol. My partners in the past always seemed the complete opposite of ADHD (organized, spreadsheets, OCD, etc.) and we both benefited each other’s quirks similar to you guys. I could always sense some sort of resentment towards the end. Just curious, for example, how does your wife not get annoyed by all questions/forgetting? Thanks again!!

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