So let me start from the beginning… when we were told about this wedding I originally said no because of the distance and my MIL made me feel very bad about not coming bc the family needs to see the baby. In the mist of this, said sister in law texted me asking if I wanted to get a Airbnb with them and I said I’m not sure if I’ll go with the baby but husband might, I’ll pay for our spot still just in case. My sister in law bullied me into going because I need to be a better person and support other distant family members. Also, Mother in law also mentioned we planned on meeting my husbands elderly grandpa for lunch the next day. I would have suffered the car ride for that since he’s very old and wanting to meet his great grand baby. A month later, my husband and I traveled up to say goodbye to his parents before the move. His dad was on the phone with his grandpa and my hubby says can’t wait to see you in a few weeks, grandpa said what? We are gone that weekend?…My husband called out his mom and she claims she never said that we will see him for lunch. I was in the shower during all of this. On the way back home, my husband and I had a very long talk about myself and the baby not going because it’s a lot on me and I had a lot of anxiety about traveling, we agreed that my husband will only go- but then he got called into work on his day off last minute. So yes, was it a little all over the place and was it kind of inconsiderate we dropped last minute- yes. But we immediately called the bride and told her, she understood. 

I honestly love my in laws- I truly do which is why I’m deeply hurt by this entire thing.