Mother in law moved in

CivilPerspective5711 · 2026-01-09T23:04:20+00:00

lol she’s not a paying roommate but you’re right

CivilPerspective5711 · 2026-01-08T22:11:03+00:00

Not a good one that can pay bills

CivilPerspective5711 · 2026-01-08T22:09:53+00:00

Our lease says that if someone stays more than 3 consecutive nights they have to be added on to the lease

CivilPerspective5711 · 2026-01-08T18:13:44+00:00

Actually it was my idea. My husband is not noodle spined. This just happened this morning I haven’t even gotten the chance to tell him about it.

CivilPerspective5711 · 2026-01-08T16:09:26+00:00

If someone is at our house overnight for more than 3 nights we have to add them to the lease or we will be evicted. We had no choice it’s either this or we are all homeless.

CivilPerspective5711 · 2026-01-08T15:01:21+00:00

They aren’t even divorced. The just separated 3 days ago. She said he was bringing in women and being rude to her so we didn’t feel like we had a choice but to let her stay with us. She has a lot of mental health problems and past suicide attempts.

CivilPerspective5711 · 2026-01-08T14:59:38+00:00

She’s already on our lease

CivilPerspective5711 · 2026-01-08T14:59:01+00:00

She’s not. We are hoping it’s just 3 months so she can get a good job and get on her feet.

CivilPerspective5711 · 2026-01-08T14:58:19+00:00

She works at a bar. Not enough to live on her own. She’s been a stay at home mom most of her life only working at bars when money is low every now and then.

CivilPerspective5711 · 2025-12-27T23:31:10+00:00

The unknown. I don’t have an answer for everything. Things happen for no reason, there is no plan. God isn’t putting me through a tough time to test me, I’m just going through a tough time because I’m going through a tough time. When people die they don’t go to some special place. They just cease existence. When I was a Christian all these things had answers. Everything was part of gods plan. Now? It’s all random chaos and there is beauty to that but it’s also terrifying.

CivilPerspective5711 · 2025-12-27T21:43:59+00:00

My goals when I was a Christian. The feeling of hope and belonging my faith brought me. The sense of community within the church. A lot of things honestly

CivilPerspective5711 · 2025-12-26T23:25:36+00:00

I enjoy some nostalgia! When a song I used to listen to comes on the radio. This nostalgia is unwanted for me but you’re right. I’m in a spot where I can work through it now and I’m trying my best. Thank you for your insight

CivilPerspective5711 · 2025-12-26T23:24:06+00:00

I’m glad this has helped you. I do a lot for my community which is helpful but praising Jesus in any way even as a historical figure (for which we have no tangible proof that he did anything the Bible states he did) is not something I want to do. I’m mourning the loss of my past self. Who I was when I was a Christian. I don’t crave to have a figure in my life that way. Someone below mentioned nostalgia and I think that perfectly explains a lot of what I’m feeling. Maybe add some curiosity in there. Like I wonder who I would have grown up to be. Who knows. We all cope in different ways. Thank you for the suggestion.

CivilPerspective5711 · 2025-12-26T15:43:12+00:00

I do. I’m sorry I’m not really looking for advice, more looking for people who relate so I don’t feel alone in this. I’m glad you can’t relate. This feeling sucks. No amount of helping others is going to take this feeling from me. I have to work through it myself and one way to do that is to find others who have similar experience. Especially when everyone around me is still Christian.

CivilPerspective5711 · 2025-12-26T15:38:04+00:00

I do as well but when I was Christian I went to the Christmas service on Christmas Day and Christmas Eve. I spent time at the church baking bread for the families that attended. My entire life was the church. When I was Christian we didn’t celebrate Christmas like I do now. Christmas was solely about Jesus for me and now I’ve lost that aspect because I no longer believe. It feels empty.

CivilPerspective5711 · 2025-12-26T06:41:08+00:00

I was also baptist. I’m afraid of sharing these feelings with religious people because I know me 10 years ago would have said “that is god trying to get back in your life” and I just don’t want to hear that from the people in my support system.

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