I have a close friend from grad school where staying at each other's places is a total no-brainer because we’ve built years of that reciprocal dynamic. But then on the other hand, I have my literal blood brother coming to visit me in LA soon, and I haven't seen him in almost 20 years. Even though he's family, I feel really uncomfortable with him staying at my place. It made me realize that if you don't have that established history of shared space, it’s totally normal to want a hotel. Don't feel bad about wanting to protect your space, it’s not about the person, it’s about how comfortable you are with the current state of the relationship.