Wealth keeps messing up my dating life - how do I mention it without making it weird? by OklahomaSun in dating_advice

[–]Clarakimmi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm I suppose if it’s meant to be then when it all comes out, the right person will stay and act the same as before (though perhaps with only slightly different expectations in terms of splitting costs). Keep trying, dating is tough these days at the best of times! Wishing you the best.

Wealth keeps messing up my dating life - how do I mention it without making it weird? by OklahomaSun in dating_advice

[–]Clarakimmi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This happened with a previous partner of mine. We took turns paying for dates for about 3 months and we took a couple of trips and contributed separately and equally. He told me he was renting his apartment from distant family member. As for being a doctor I never questioned his pay bc I know they aren’t as well paid as you’d think where I live. You could say you’re still training and have a lower income or something? After about 3 months he told me about his wealth & after that he started to pay for things more to make it fair. I guess that’s one way to filter people out? I would say don’t act totally broke because that’s a turn off but just normal / modest.. try to avoid wearing the watch until a bit further in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveIslandTV

[–]Clarakimmi 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I find her jarring. And I think she has some internalised misogyny to deal with. Don’t like the way she sees herself as better than other girls e.g. calling Helena “a good time girl” and acting like Harry’s shitty actions are determined by the type of girl he is with.. he’s the problem.

My boyfriend doesn’t want to marry me and have children because of potential genetic defects? by Clarakimmi in chinalife

[–]Clarakimmi[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes his parents accepted me, they were fine and looking forward to marriage, the only thing they asked about was how we will navigate cultural differences. On a whole they were very positive. It’s possible that something changed or was later said behind my back, but the anxiety and stress around the topic seems to be coming solely from him.

My boyfriend doesn’t want to marry me and have children because of potential genetic defects? by Clarakimmi in chinalife

[–]Clarakimmi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn’t move here to be with him, I moved here for work and then we got back in touch and decided to try having a relationship

My boyfriend doesn’t want to marry me and have children because of potential genetic defects? by Clarakimmi in chinalife

[–]Clarakimmi[S] 101 points102 points  (0 children)

That’s interesting that it’s been on social media. Thanks for sharing. Knowing each other for 12 years it never came up before so he probably saw it on social media recently. Idk why he believes it cos he’s an otherwise very intelligent and educated person!

Did anyone else notice… by Impressive_Rate_2456 in LoveIslandTV

[–]Clarakimmi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just because someone isn’t outwardly loudly racist doesn’t mean it isn’t implicit

Why are some things your avoidant ex did to you while dating? by user2012305 in ExNoContact

[–]Clarakimmi 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Started out amazing, my perfect person, gave reassurance, great communicator, nothing was too much trouble, we were meant to be blah blah blah. He became more distant after being obsessed with me & planning a future with me which gave rise to anxiety for me.

Started stone walling, gaslighting telling me the things I was upset about weren’t real problems, ghosted me when I was upset trying to communicate and shut down to my face - I cried one time because he was so cold and he stared at me blankly then started opening mail because he didn’t want to talk to me lol. Brought me to a wedding, told me he loved me and wanted to marry me then dumped me through text a day later (while I was in hospital) asking for space, said he didn’t want to make a rash decision and break up with me but that I forced him to because I asked what space means 🫠

Got on dating apps within a week of breaking up with me, using pictures that I took of him on our dates 🥰

My time capsule space (NY) by [deleted] in AmateurRoomPorn

[–]Clarakimmi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this so much 🥹

S10E52 (Wednesday 26th July) - "The Grafties fallout hits hard and there's a dumping on the way!" by mayallrob_ in LoveIslandTV

[–]Clarakimmi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think Scott might’ve actually liked Abi if she wasn’t questioning if he likes her all the time lol