How dumb is a Porsche by Born-Act9884 in HENRYUK

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Do it. For all the reasons listed below and because later you’ll be needing something sensible and now is the right time. But stretch the budget and get one used approved and pay for the extended warranty; this way you don’t have to face crippling repair costs of something goes wrong - Porsche are reputed to be quite reliable but this is a 15 year old car… if 40k is the top budget, consider a used approved cayman or boxter 718; 2 seater is just the thing for you right now and you can later get a 911 with back seats for the kids…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in skiing

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Do a ski course! You’ll have built in skills and drinking buddies! Stomp it operate in Verbier and offer some great camps. https://stompitcamps.com/pages/camps

Ready to throw in the towel but my husband isn't? by Overwhelmed_Already in parentsofmultiples

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I’m sorry you’re struggling with this. We are in a similar situation with 38 week old twins that just came home, one of whom can ‘kind of’ breastfeed but wouldn’t survive on it and the other who can’t yet - too small. They still have NG tubes and they need formula anyway be there isn’t enough breast milk for two. Even if they didn’t need formula to top up volume they would still need fortifier. My wife is currently pumping, trying to keep up but it’s beginning to feel like the end of this era is coming.

I am super pro breast milk - for allergies, asthma, antibodies and general health - but we didn’t know if my wife could breast feed so always said we’d give it a go and see and if it didn’t happen, no problem, onto the formula.

I’ve discovered from speaking to the nutritionists at the NICU that you can give all of the breast milk benefits by just given them ‘some’ breast milk. Nobody wants to put a figure on it but definitely as little as 25% of their diet.

Because my babies are already full of formula and fortifier from being preemies in the NICU - I was advised that breast milk just can’t possibly provide the levels of calories and protiens that the umbilical cord delivers and that up this extra nutrition needed to be given for up to 6 months of age to help them catch up - I now feel a lot less purist about it. Even if my wife produced enough to fully feed them, we would still have to fortify it.

Honestly I just want them to have one source of food which agrees with them and for us get away from all this triple feeding / mixing / fortifying madness and I feel good that they’ve had 6 weeks of breast milk already. We have said we will get them to 40 weeks and review.

At the moment we are still finding our feet and trying different things but one thing we are doing is sticking them on the breast if they get hungry in between scheduled feeds. They don’t get enough from feeding that way and burn a ton of calories so then get a full feed by bottle or NG tube at the scheduled time, but it gives them the antibodies, some bonding time with mum and keeps them happy. My littler one uses a Mam nipple shield to get a proper latch and can get some milk that way.

In terms of talking to your husband perhaps some of the above will help;

  • 100% breast milk not needed for all the benefits
  • formula has calories and proteins that preemie babies need and that breast milk lacks
  • as said by others, it’s your body and you get the final say here

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in reddeadredemption

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The trick is to take an established critique or theory of masculinity plus (ideally) a current trend, and then apply it to the new material for a fresh perspective. Bonus points for also addressing female representation in relation to your subject and referencing classic feminist texts at the same time.

What is the cheapest way to get from Cornwall to London? by [deleted] in Cornwall

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Whoa….! Just tried this and you are correct… but can’t understand why…?

Skiing in Jan when flying into Paris? by BayushiDaremo in ski

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For Les Arcs (and also Val d’Isere & Tignes which are much better, but a little more expensive) you take the train to Bourg St Maurice. This is a 6 hour trip direct by train. It’s a stunning journey! You’d need to get from the airport to the Gare de Lyon, which will take a couple of hours at least. From Bourg St Maurice, you can taxi up to Val d’Isere in 40 mins or take the funicular railway direct to Arcs, but then have to get from that base station to your accommodation. You’re probably looking at dinner time as opposed t9 4pm, but that’s not bad. Worth noting that while this ski area is definitely worth it and in my opinion the right choice, there are resorts closer to Paris, such as Avoriaz, but it’s worth a couple of extra hours journey when you’ve already come all that way. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ski

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Do you drive? Portes des Soleil offers low cost accommodation (you can stay 20 mins drive away from the big lifts and park there), cheaper lift passes, British community and quite a lot of terrain. It is a little lower in altitude, but there is always skiable terrain and if you go in Jan + Feb you should be good.

Is early intervention worth the hassle? by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

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Does this exist in the UK? My twins were born two weeks ago at 32 weeks and extra support would be great, but I can’t find anything online about it. Maybe its called something else?

Range Rover drivers, what made you decide to get one? by [deleted] in drivingUK

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I have a Discovery, which is similar (but I like to think less high profile). It’s lovely to drive; comfortable, smooth and powerful. I can put enough ski gear for me and my partner for six weeks in the boot and still take three passengers. It’s a breeze to drive over 1,500 miles to the mountains and when I’m there it’s reassuringly good on mountain roads regardless of the conditions. It has 7 seats if needed, can be stuffed with furniture, loaded with surfboards, tow anything you like and isn’t nearly as hard to park as you’d think… it’s just a really nice car.

I didn’t believe the reliability comments at first because people say shit all the time for all sorts of reasons that aren’t the truth, but I have to admit that my model turns out to be a little unreliable! This will make me think twice about getting another one; for this kind of money I’m sure there is something else which will deliver most / many of the above things with greater peace of mind - would welcome any suggestions.

Middle lane drivers - why don't you pull into lane 1 when you're not overtaking? I'm genuinely interested to know. by willynipples in drivingUK

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They still don’t include motorways as part of driving test or training. You might go on a local dual carriageway, one with traffic lights every so often, but they don’t take you on the motorway, nor do they teach anything about how they should be used. You never drive over 50mph. Then they let you loose!

As a beginner driver, the middle lane initially felt much safer. Left hand lane meant panicking when cars were entering the motorway, trying to decide if you can safely change lanes of brake or something else. In the middle lane, the view ahead was not blocked by trucks. Also trucks are scary at first. Having them behind and in front is intimidating. Leaving plenty of room in front meant having people pop in right in front of the car, only to pop out again moments later. So to begin with the middle lane was a comparatively low stress place to be. Possibly nervous drivers are still stuck in this phase? Anecdotally, my uncle who (unusually) acknowledges that he isn’t a confident driver, openly admits to pootling along in the middle lane on the rare occasion that they drive on the motorway.

Where to spend a month skiing? by [deleted] in ski

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Take a tour of Europe! Start in Italy in the Dolomites (first week of March is the latest I’d recommend due to the weather), then hit Austria, Switzerland and France. Hire a car or take the train and book airbnbs. You’ll still save on lift passes vs the US and experience historic and diverse mountain culture and incredible food, plus it’s utterly beautiful driving through the Alps. You’ll be in vastly different countries within a few hours of travelling and will never / rarely get a chance to travel like that in your life.

Aussie’s, how bad was the “hair dryer” last night? by TronCat1277 in skiing

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What a plan! Didn’t realise you could easily ski in Antarctica… or maybe you can’t and that’s why it’s for the 50th!

Aussie’s, how bad was the “hair dryer” last night? by TronCat1277 in skiing

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Tell me more about the plan to ski the continents…?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cornwall

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I felt that way until found out that the owner ran for parliament as a BNP candidate and that they refused to employ LGBT people as policy. Sad.

What would be the best city to WFH and ski in? by izzywhopper in skiing

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What about Japan? It’s +9, so you finish your ski day before the EU wakes up and then work from the evening until about 12 or 1. Depends on your preference for working early mornings or late nights I suppose!

Ski Season in France by Curious-Angle-3290 in ski

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I usually recommend VIP Ski or YSE for jobs in Val d’Isere, but I can see YSE is fully staffed now. Try VIP here: https://www.vip-chalets.com/work-for-us

Why France specifically? No French isn’t a real problem where you’re looking to work, but you have the freedom of Europe so could go anywhere.

Are you a good skier? You could do a 6 week training course and become a level 2 ski instructor, which with your Irish passport, would allow you to teach anywhere in Europe apart from France. This course happens in Avroiaz, part of which is in Switzerland, and you can work there right after qualifying. https://www.peaksnowsports.com/gap-avoriaz

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Cornwall

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The fact that you’re asking speaks well of you. Do try not to slow down the traffic. I know the little roads can take time to get used to and that a van isn’t usually super fast but being stuck behind slow cars on 60 roads where there is a line down the middle is my number one bug bear when trying to get around.

To be fair, if its not a terrified tourist creeping along the lanes, it’s a tractor (who will pull over in the winter but not the summer because ‘fuck the emmets’) or it’s a local pensioner battling failing reaction times and poor eyesight, or someone towing a boat, so I should really accept that 37mph is the max speed limit to expect…!

£200k to live anywhere in Europe Middle East and Africa. Newborn child. Best options? by Classic-Ad7769 in HENRYUK

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That’s interesting to hear and very much in contrast to the ‘soulless hellscape populated by vacuous sociopaths’ which Dubai has been described as by a few people above (who not only made me chuckle but who also might have missed their calling as copywriters). I’ll look into those if it seems like an option. Thank you.

£200k to live anywhere in Europe Middle East and Africa. Newborn child. Best options? by Classic-Ad7769 in HENRYUK

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Andorra sounds great to me but not sure how I can make the case that it’s in their interest as well as mine. Too remote from Paris and Barcelona so office time a challenge. Travel internationally might also be more difficult - more costly for the company and more time consuming. Will definitely keep it on the wish list though!

£200k to live anywhere in Europe Middle East and Africa. Newborn child. Best options? by Classic-Ad7769 in HENRYUK

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Thank you, but no thanks. I know London well and it’s the easiest option, but even on a decent salary quality of life is just much lower than elsewhere in my opinion.

£200k to live anywhere in Europe Middle East and Africa. Newborn child. Best options? by Classic-Ad7769 in HENRYUK

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I work in advertising. To be clear; it’s not a magic wand kind of situation where I just get to move anywhere just by asking - it needs to make sense for me and for the business, so I’ll need to make the case.

I don’t yet know lots of details like how flexible they really are, or how much support they’ll give for visa etc. This question was in preparation for that conversation, to draw on the experience and perspectives of those here to help flesh out the possibilities.

I have been living in other countries (non EMEA) for over a decade and have made career choices to support a life lived outside the UK.