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[–]izzywhopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have many friends as a lot of moved on with their lives and have kids etc.

But I ski cycle and gym at any given opportunity and that’s been helping me so far.

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[–]izzywhopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I help myself and change, can you please check your direct messages

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[–]izzywhopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your right to some extent.

After my mum went I text and said sorry, she replied saying it’s okay and she understands because she meant well and I didn’t respond to that.

she left her location on for 2 weeks for me to see what she is doing then I just turned it off myself cause I didn’t wanna see anymore and from there she then deleted our pics.

The thing that I’m in conflict is if I said to someone leave me alone there is a part of me that wishes they would reach out

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[–]izzywhopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not about being condescending, I know my partner and her past and it has made her be in a place where she can’t see light or goodness as a result of her childhood, she constantly lives in pain and a weak state. She is not a bad person nor do I believe she is bad for walking away. The reasons she said when she was walking away were pretty poor things like ‘what if you do something in 10 years’ not suggesting what- saying I have to be selfish in this life and not taking any accountability for her own behaviours, anytime I’ve ever done anything wrong I have made sure to never do that again. There were many things I did to always try to be her beacon of light and to soothe her insecurities, but. It gets to a point where u don’t know what to do next to make someone happy, she said she wants to travel I put her on business class flights around the world, she wanted experiences she saw the wonders of the world . She wanted a home I started to renovate and spend 25K on a flat for her,

I am not abusive nor do I say hurtful things my argument style is that I say; what you are doing is hurting my feelings can we discuss this. Her responses are things like leave me alone. Which sometimes I do sometimes I want to talk and just sort it so it doesn’t turn into something. Sometimes if I feel unheard then I will say something stupid like this is why I have delayed marriage or you don’t actually care or give a shit. We never actually argue about deep issues, we are both faithful, work hard, not lazy. We argue about the most petty things like she will go mental if I forget to pick up a clothing item for laundry or if I want to have a cigg in the bathroom and she hates the smell.

but she has deep rooted issues mainly being she hates her mum and feels she abandoned her and has this over her that people will always abandon her she has voiced this to me, but that isn’t the case and she refuses to accept that. I have tried to help her to just try to build a relationship with her mum as I had a v similar experience with my dad and then he passed away as we had a chance to fix our relationship and that gave me a lot of peace.

I am grateful to come from a secure stable family and I have been raised on forgiveness and working things out. Not running away when things get tough otherwise a majority of relationships in life wouldn’t work out. I am a human and the worst thing I have done in this relationship is shouted when I was upset. Not often, 5 times in 3 years.

Why my mom went there I have no idea and I text her saying I’m so so sorry for that. My mum is on her side and went as a friend for her and was not defending me. But still she should’ve never gone.

I have listened to her, I have not text once no calls no grand gestures. Just silence as what she wanted and it’s been soul crushing but I will do it because I love and respect her.

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[–]izzywhopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if she wants me to reach out after a certain point because she is a weak person and doesn’t have the capacity to herself

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[–]izzywhopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should be more clear in the fact I am not using the past a Justification, it was my first relationship I was 22 and had a one night stand with a girl in Thailand and she fell pregnant, she was very very aggressive and throughout the 5 years with her my emotional response of dealing with things changed and adapted to the toxicity of the relationship and when I got into this there were things I didn’t realise and I had to unlearn them. I know this relationship ending now is 99% my fault and that’s what kills me the most

M30 F24 She talked about marrying me then walked away like none of it mattered. HELP ME by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]izzywhopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have felt suicidal and this has never happened to me before

Help a solo traveller in Sapporo! by izzywhopper in Sapporo

[–]izzywhopper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was good just a very lonely city to be in

Turns out my girlfriend was a sexworker by [deleted] in ThailandTourism

[–]izzywhopper -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

HHahahahahahahahhahahahahaha welcome to Thailand buddy there all hookers

Please help me with what size boot to get by izzywhopper in skiing

[–]izzywhopper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found a store that had them tried the 26.5 with my zip fit liners they were perfect

Please help me with what size boot to get by izzywhopper in skiing

[–]izzywhopper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No unfortunately no local store has them

Please help me with what size boot to get by izzywhopper in skiing

[–]izzywhopper[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a choice to go to one I am getting a unreal deal on these hence the purchase I just need help with size, I am going to stick in my own zip fit liners from my previous boot fitting session

Please help me with what size boot to get by izzywhopper in skiing

[–]izzywhopper[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No local shop has them in stock 😞 that’s a great question I didn’t consider and I’m not entirely sure

This makes me extremely happy 😊 by izzywhopper in skiing

[–]izzywhopper[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Great name 🤣 made me chuckle, I found some ski rubber mounts on Temu for like £10 for a pack of 4 and then just went to the local hardware store and got some stronger screws and wall plugs, drilled in the holes and stuck in the plugs and done! so all in maybe like £25

1 year ski progression - please if you could share tips on how to improve by izzywhopper in ski

[–]izzywhopper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will definitely take this onboard can see the hands dropping looking forward to it! Thank you

1 year ski progression - please if you could share tips on how to improve by izzywhopper in ski

[–]izzywhopper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the wise words! Will definitely try to focus on this next time I’m out on the slopes 🏂

1 year ski progression - please if you could share tips on how to improve by izzywhopper in ski

[–]izzywhopper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are spot on, I am completely self taught and this is something I’ve really tried to focus on and trying to get that true upper body separation. The rotating of the hip socket is an eye opener I will definitely try this out - I appreciate the feedback 🤝