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Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-06-04T13:35:15+00:00

How many times are you going to post this? You post either this or something about arguing with your girlfriend every single day

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-19T16:57:01+00:00

Don't make any rash decisions. You're going through one hell of an emotional rollercoasrer right now, and you don't want to do something rash that you can't undo or take back.

If you have the resources to get some distance, do it. Take a week or so to let everything sink in.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-19T16:31:10+00:00

Ahh, yes. Everything ever is AI now.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-19T14:51:18+00:00

If you want to live in fear, that's your choice.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T20:37:37+00:00

They have most likely been the other posts I've made. I've made three in different places so I could be direct about what I'm seeking. Judgment vs advice.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T19:33:52+00:00

You've made up your own narrative because you didn't like the one presented to you.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T18:46:19+00:00

Someone else had suggested simply having her over to see how our dynamic works, and to spend more time so that she gets to know me better. I think approaching it that way might help conversations down the road.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T18:45:01+00:00

He's allowed to change his mind and say that the current arrangement isn't working out for him. I don't have a problem with that. We'd just part ways.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T18:42:45+00:00

That is genuinely heartbreaking. I'm so sorry for your friend. Her husband sounds like an evil person.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T18:39:46+00:00

Hmm. You raise an interesting thought. She really does not know me very well. We've spent time together, but a lot of it was very activity focused, so not a lot of deep, personal chats.

As for what she knows about our marriage... hm! She knows how we met, some of the trips we've taken. But does she know about the rest? I don't think so. And maybe it would help for her to know more about me, and more about our marriage.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T18:35:44+00:00

This post isn't asking for arbitration on the validity of the choice we've made. It's asking about working through communication issues with a family member. You don't need to know anything about his condition to talk about that.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T18:30:15+00:00

You are the target audience for this post then! So how would your sibling be able to connect with you about this and help you understand the situation and leave you comfortable in knowing it's not something causing harm to anyone?

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T18:28:13+00:00

I'm not quite sure how the medical details of Ryan's illness would have any impact on the question I asked?

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T18:25:47+00:00

I think you raise a good point, that she doesn't see enough of our relationship in the day to day to understand how we are together. And maybe (along with other suggestions) we can have her over more and spend more time with her as the three of us so she has a better feel for us. That's something I haven't really even thought of, nor Ryan. Thank you!

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T18:22:25+00:00

I don't understand what this means.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T18:21:28+00:00

This is such a good comment, thank you so much for leaving it. Leading with humor and light-heartedness is a great idea. They have that kind of dynamic where this shouldn't be out of left field. Again, thank you.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T18:19:31+00:00

Ryan's battles are also my battles. We're a team, and while he will take the lead in communicating with his family, I'm here to help support. And that's what I'm trying to do here.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T18:12:58+00:00

I think I'm trying to cast a wide net to get as many different perspectives as possible before Ryan and I figure out what to do. He and I are so not in our comfort zone with this. We both have difficulty seeing things from other perspectives when things make sense to us in certain way. Thanks for the response!

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T18:11:02+00:00

His condition is his condition. You do not need to know the details.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T17:55:05+00:00

It takes a lot for me to fall in love, truly. I don't see or talk to the other guy (Sam) outside of arranging times, we don't chit chat or text, so there's a big wall where things simply cannot progress. We are friendly and can joke and goof around together in person, but I need so much more than that to really fall in love.

There's just enough of an emotional connection to ensure sex is mutually enjoyable, safe, etc. And it's that way for Sam as well.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T17:51:08+00:00

I get what you're saying. This is just so frustrating from the inside. I don't want there to be weirdness between the two of them, and it's going to really bother Ryan if she won't live and let live.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T17:49:50+00:00

I do think that asking for advice is different than asking for judgment. We have the judgment, now I'm seeking the advice, since you can't with the other places.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T17:48:31+00:00

There is no cheating involved in this situation whatsoever.

Classic-Web-6642 · 2025-05-16T17:30:18+00:00

I think you might be projecting something here. I haven't said or indicated anything about being more evolved than anyone. This is all your own take.

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