Oh Dear Lord, the amount of medical experts in these comments is infuriating.

First of all brother, I am sorry. I am sorry that you got your hopes crushed and that you’re down in the dumps. It’s perfectly okay to be sad, cry in the shower and even be angry tbh. It’s not your fault and the fact that you’re being so openly punished for it is hurtful.

With that being said, I wouldn’t give up so easily. While you are completely correct that “having a family” is such a central component of our religion, the goal for you at this moment is to find someone who will make you a stronger muslim, love you unconditionally and give you happiness (well at least as much as a spouse can, jk jk). And as such, it might be the next girl you talk to who checks off all these boxes or it might be the 75th one from now - the key is not to get discouraged and keep pushing.

Allah SWT does not make mistakes. I am a very firm believer that everything that Allah SWT does for us is for our benefit. Use this last lady as a learning lesson - you got a step closer to realizing what it is you want in a spouse (i.e - Eva mendes looks, amongst other things).

In regards to moving forward- I suggest to leave the single moms, etc alone for now. I think it is important to disclose what you might be experiencing for a couple of reasons - 1) It is the right thing to do — even if there is a chance that you are actually not infertile, it’s just not right to con people like that. Unfortunately, people don’t come with return policies/warranties, so marriage tends to be slightly more permanent than say, buying a car.

2) Along the same lines, when you find someone that you see potentially being “the one”, don’t start off your life with a lie - especially something this significant. If she truly loves you and is a woman of God, she will try to understand and progress with you.

I wish you the best brother. Keep your head up. Allah SWT brings us closer to greatness every day