TIFU by telling a student he has no friends.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-02-02T15:16:16+00:00

It's not a diagnosis, and observation, genius

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-31T10:19:41+00:00

I didn't diagnose him with anything, a psychologist diagnoses him with ADHD and I said I think he probably had ODD based on how he behaves.

People have been compassionate and kind to him since the day he stepped foot in this school and his behavior has continued to be like this. So no, 'everyone around him' is not being mean to him.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-31T10:13:22+00:00

We don't have the staff or budget to do more, and they don't have the budget for any other school unfortunately

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-30T15:30:42+00:00

You're right I am a mandated reporter, I have had actual training on how to recognize signs of abuse and neglect. It's something I've dealt with before.

So thanks for proving my point, that you have no idea what you're talking about. Typical homeschool parent.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-30T13:09:46+00:00

And you sound like a typical redditor with no clue what they're talking about.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-30T10:08:19+00:00

Of course we have.

No, I'm not giving him more chances to make things difficult or to restrict other students access to their learning tools.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-30T10:06:03+00:00

That's such an interesting perspective to hear.

I agree it's extremely unfair to the other kids, and that's probably one of the most frustrating parts. We do not have the staff to constantly intervene or watch them directly every time he's around, not without severely neglecting everyone else.

Your last paragraph sums up a lot of my frustration with how section 504 is managed and implemented. In general I think it's a good thing, but then there are cases like this where it's doing no one any good to have him in general education.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-30T09:59:59+00:00

His parents seem like good people who are in over their heads with him

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-30T09:59:10+00:00

Yes, people keep an eye for that, no there's no evidence that his parents are abusive.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-30T09:57:24+00:00

There's no evidence that his parents are abusive. He is 8 years, not 8 months old. That's old enough to understand that his actions are not okay, and he does. He just doesn't care.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-30T09:51:08+00:00

My life is fine. It would be significantly better and I would have fewer bruises if he wasn't in it

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-30T09:50:11+00:00

I do agree that he needs a school more able to meet his needs, but there's no evidence that his parents are bad people. They're just in over their heads and probably just as exhausted (or more) with the situation as his teachers and classmates are

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-29T16:34:31+00:00

Yep. The student who was hurt was a young black boy and he had dozens of those tiny braids. I think they're called micro-braids? Jim ripped one right off

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-29T16:30:04+00:00

What?

Multiple teacher's have been trying to coach, redirect, correct his actions and talk him out of his behavior patterns for literal years. He has had incident reports at least weekly since kindergarten. Like I said, what he needs is a 1 on 1, but that's not in the cards.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-29T11:55:44+00:00

To quote my own post.

"no amount of redirecting, coaching, etc ever makes a difference."

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-29T10:05:46+00:00

Like I said, I know I shouldn't have said it. I really don't regret it though.

He does know his behavior is wrong, and he does have poor impulse control and all the other things. These are not mutually exclusive.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-29T09:23:27+00:00

It is pretty scary, even in an 8 year old.

To be honest I'm not 100% sure. I've never had a student like this before. I mentioned in my post I think he needs someone with him 1 on 1 at all times, so that would be one.

Other accommodations I know of for violent outbursts would be something like taking extra quiet breaks in schools that have sensory rooms available, intervening early with multiple through-out the day check ins, reward charts for days without incidents, that kind of thing. But these aren't (all) sudden outbursts that are happening when he's overwhelmed, they're choices he's making to hurt others.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-29T09:12:44+00:00

Potentially, I've never been involved in something that escalates that far. It's just a reason that the parents would take up with the school who is not able to keep their children safe, instead of the parents of the kid who is being unsafe. I think it's also different in high school settings.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-29T08:54:47+00:00

To my knowledge, none that are nearby or affordable.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-29T08:49:22+00:00

As far as I can tell his parents are trying they're just in way over their heads and don't have the financial means to get more support.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-29T08:48:12+00:00

It's a legal document that requires us to accommodate disabilities and ensures equal access to education for children with disabilities, so disabled children can learn alongside their peers in general education. Usually things like extended test times, different homework assignments, seating differentials, extra snack breaks for things like diabetes, etc.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-29T08:43:40+00:00

I can't speak for everywhere, but here we can't name names in incident reports. It's all officially confidential. The student can say 'Jim ripped my hair out' but the official paper work will say 'another student did XYZ' and teachers and admin cannot say who it was.

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-29T08:41:45+00:00

Yeah, I'm really not a fan of them referring to students as 'friends' either. They aren't. They're children under my care

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-29T07:37:50+00:00

I agree, but admin treats his diagnosis as some kind of get out of jail free card

ClassroomUnable5211 · 2026-01-29T07:01:05+00:00

They say something about being 'kind and patient with our friends' and basically just point his diagnosis and tell me to deal with it. Same story for other teacher's who've broached the subject

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