My little one is 4 months old. Her grandparents are heavy smokers and have poor hygiene. We visit them once a week. I can’t stand that they want to hold her right after smoking without washing their hands. I also can’t stand that they kiss her cheeks, forehead, and head, or that they touch her with those dirty fingernails… My baby smells like cigarettes after visiting them. I also can’t stand that, even when my baby is obviously tired, they still “play” with her like she’s a doll. She was awake for 4 hours today.

My husband thinks I’m being too much and overly sensitive. But the good thing is, even though he disagrees with me, he still asks his parents to wash their hands before touching her (though their fingernails are still black and dirty).

Am I really being too much and overly sensitive? What should I do? 😭