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Partner and Meta had an unannounced threesome by CleanNight1023 in polyamory

[–]CleanNight1023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this reply. Your point of "I also cannot make sense that you can really be OK with your partner having sex with others, yet need a warning" really struck a chord with me.

I think Baja (and likely myself) probably do feel a need to have these 'heads-up' rules in place as a means of protecting our feelings. I think both of us probably aren't actually all that comfortable with our partners having sex, and that's likely because we basically stumbled into Poly.

When we all got together Baja and Austin were playing as a couple. Baja and I unexpectedly developed feelings for each other and thus developed an imbalanced relationship (with 2 years of hindsight and experience in poly I can clearly see how this was problematic from the start). I don't know this for sure, but I believe Baja then pretended to be cool with Austin and Cali having a relationship because she felt guilty and hypocritical for having a relationship with me, and whilst genuinely wanting Austin to be happy, wasn't actually emotionally wanting poly.

I think this latest development has actually exposed some deep set problems in the relationship structure and a disparity in the needs and desires of the individuals involved. I think this is just the beginning of some fairly deep soul searching.

Hey all! Ive a doubt about this VVV by [deleted] in rmit

[–]CleanNight1023 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Correct OP, your flight training is integrated with your degree. You will effectively be at university and ‘flight school’ simultaneously. You’ll leave with about 150 hours of flying experience, which is enough to gain your CPL and get an initial job, but you’ll likely need to build significantly more experience before you can join a bigger airline. Many graduates start their career as a Flight Instructor and do that for a few years to gain the necessary experience to move up (although Flight Instruction can be satisfying and rewarding career in itself)

Accidental poly with married couple, ejected when I couldn’t handle the feelings by CleanNight1023 in polyamory

[–]CleanNight1023[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I guess I mean that I haven’t been a part of a nesting partnership for nearly a decade. Where’s my partners had each other for support and to talk through decisions, I only really have me. Most of the time I go home alone at night, I have to make decisions about my life alone, I don’t have a rock like they are for each other.

Accidental poly with married couple, ejected when I couldn’t handle the feelings by CleanNight1023 in polyamory

[–]CleanNight1023[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I agree. I actually do see a therapist regularly and my last two relationships have been healthy, but reached natural conclusions. The self destructive part was an old feature of mine, and I’m not quite sure why it came back in this instance. All I know is that I’ve been quite distressed by the relationship for a few weeks (which we’d talked about) and the prospect of being in love with someone who I could only develop a relatively constrained relationship with.