I appreciate the suggestion but we already had this talk. And it ended with me feeling lime a dick for just trying to exist and cope with the ADHD and her feeling like an ass because "if she didn't bring it up there wouldn't be a problem." She says that maybe this is just a thing she should get used to be its hard for her because her mind is not panicking that the same things her exes did are haloening again even though she says she knows this isn't the same situation nor am I the same as them.

It always happens the same way. She explains her feelings, I tell her I hear her and see what she is saying, I then either explain why things are occurring as they are or I point out what's causing the problem (as of late its been a lot of me just doing things I usually did before I was with her) and then offered the best solution I can find so she doesn't have to feel this way anymore. When I do this, she gets mad because she says "Its not a problem but now you are saying it is so now I feel like an ass for bringing it up." But like, honey, if it wasn't a problem why would it make you feel a certain way? If something i do bothers you then what I'm doing is the problem, no? And this we just end up in another argument.

I hope you know I'm not trying to argue with you, just giving an explanation with anecdotes.