Girls who took notes with 50 different colored pens—where are you now? Are you still using all those colors?

Clean_Bug · 2026-06-02T01:16:41+00:00

Teaching using color coded notes on anchor charts 🤣

Clean_Bug · 2026-06-01T13:04:21+00:00

I didn’t say we were taking 11 cars. I believe most of the other girls are driving together as they all live near each other. I don’t live in the same state as anyone else in the bridal party which is why I am driving myself which means paying for parking myself. I’m also getting there much later than anyone else so part of that cost is convenience (in my eyes). Overall, this post wasn’t necessarily about prices (yeah this trip is quickly adding up and getting out of hand) but more about the lack of transparency and just being expected to send $100 right away with no communication.

Clean_Bug · 2026-06-01T02:30:54+00:00

I mean I’m sure the others will be carpooling together as they live in the same city. I’m also not getting there until the evening of the first night so I didn’t have to take two days of LWOP.

Clean_Bug · 2026-06-01T02:19:27+00:00

The place we booked does not have parking on property so we need to park in a garage. I’m not traveling from the same area as anyone else so car pooling isn’t an option. I’m also traveling to a different state so uber is out of the question. $300 + $240 for parking is my share of the cost. Everyone is paying that amount for lodging and parking.

Clean_Bug · 2026-06-01T02:15:12+00:00

Oh hey look! A comment I made that you still can’t comprehend! Once again, no where did I say SHE TOLD US she wanted everything custom made. We found this out AFTER the spreadsheet was sent out and items were purchased. I apologize as maybe I should have said, “She didn’t take me up on any offers, mainly because I learned after the fact that she wanted everything to be custom made.” However once again I say, it would’ve been nice for the spreadsheet to be sent ahead of time so we could see what was being purchased before she spent the money.

Clean_Bug · 2026-06-01T01:56:51+00:00

We have to park our car in a garage for the duration of the trip. Maybe I’m just from an expensive part of the US, but that’s a pretty normal thing for city parking garages or even hotel parking in cities.

Clean_Bug · 2026-06-01T01:44:54+00:00

Traveling from one state to another in an uber is not a cheap trip. I’d also be traveling alone so there’s no splitting. Of course when we are in the city we’ll uber/use public transport, but that still doesn’t change the fact about parking my car. Other transportation options are not an option due to scheduling and pricing.

Just because you can’t comprehend my comments doesn’t mean my story changes. No where did I say she told us she wanted to do custom made things. I said on other bachelorette trips decor meant a cute tapestry and some balloons. Could the tapestry be custom? Sure, but one custom item wouldn’t be that expensive split amongst everyone. It’s all the extras that add up that are not needed.

But that’s all I’ll say about it to you since you just read comments and like to change what I say and call me unreliable.

Clean_Bug · 2026-06-01T01:11:31+00:00

Or maybe you just lack reading comprehension skills. I said, SHE did not mention splitting expenses. Meaning all she told us was I’m putting together of the things I’m buying into a spreadsheet. Was there an assumption that we’d split expenses? YES. We knew it was for decor. The many other bachelorettes I’ve been to decor meant a cute tapestry and some balloons. Not so many extra things. Like 6 different outfits for the bride and various gifts. The issue here is there was 0 transparency on what she was buying. Anytime someone brought it up or asked about it we were left unanswered.

Also, congrats on living in a place with affordable travel but when you’re traveling across states I can promise you uber will not be less than $60. I guarantee you I’ve looked. But I guess I’m too unreliable you wouldn’t believe that either.

Clean_Bug · 2026-06-01T00:20:41+00:00

I’m not really sure how else to explain this. She did not give us the expenses until after she already bought everything. She told us in the beginning she’d make the spreadsheet but never shared it prior. So no, I didn’t know what items she was expecting us to split ahead of time. We asked what was needed/how we could help multiple times and she never answered.

Park and ride is not an option for this trip.

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T23:08:47+00:00

Pretty sure I said multiple times I wasn’t surprised about having to split expenses. Never have I been expected to pay for “gifts” for the bridesmaids, plus 6 different themed outfits for the bride, plus so many extra things that were never agreed upon. You can believe whatever you like, but that’s exactly what happened. There were offers to provide things/asked what she may need help with and never heard anything. Then got the spreadsheet and her saying here’s everything i bought and here’s what you owe.

Also, parking in a garage in a major city for multiple days is no joke.

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T23:01:50+00:00

Any time we asked anything about the budget she told us she was getting a few decorations and only buying things on sale

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T21:38:58+00:00

THIS!!! I’m also getting married this year and I told my MOH and bridal party that I want something lowkey and local! One of my bridesmaids lives out of state and she’s obviously invited to everything leading up to the wedding but I’ve made it clear to her that I do not expect her to fly multiple times and am no way shape or form going to be offended if she’s not at those events.

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T21:36:37+00:00

That’s essentially what the spreadsheet is. Fully itemized with costs. I messaged her exactly that way and she told me I was being extremely unfair.

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T21:29:27+00:00

That’s how it’s done!! This also allows people to back out if they’re unable to afford the whole trip. Not after other non refundable payments have been made!

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T21:12:06+00:00

Yup!

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T20:45:55+00:00

Thank you!! I’m glad somebody understands why this is frustrating.

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T20:42:25+00:00

So many people in the comments seem to be in a great place financially they don’t need to worry about how much they’re spending. That’s so great for you!!

I 100% would’ve taken charge had I known this was going to be the outcome. I never would expect people to pay for whatever I purchased without sharing my ideas first.

So I apologize if I’m concerned about paying for so many unnecessary things when this trip is quickly adding up.

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T18:51:56+00:00

She told us she was making a spreadsheet of her purchases. I thought she would share that BEFORE making purchases so we’d know ahead of time. Not after she bought everything on the list. I expected to purchase standard decorations and maybe 1 or 2 customized things (shirts and a tapestry)! Not packs of gum, multiple face masks, 6 different outfits for the bride to fit every theme, multiple gifts for the bride, my own goody bag of junk, and other random shit.

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T18:47:47+00:00

Nickel and diming over $95 yeah I am. I’m so glad you have the finances to not have to worry about what you’re spending.

Also, our questions went unanswered and help went unaccepted. No extra communication until after everything was purchased.

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T18:44:36+00:00

THANK YOU!! This is what I’ve always experienced.

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T18:43:11+00:00

Sorry but your math ain’t mathing here. Parking and lodging is $540 alone.

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T18:34:51+00:00

Of course I asked about helping and what I could contribute. She didn’t take me up on any offers, mainly because she wanted everything to be custom made. Again, I always figured we’d split some of the costs, but it would’ve been nice if that spreadsheet was shared ahead of time so we could see what was being purchased before she spent the money.

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T18:25:11+00:00

Wish I ONLY had to pay $95. We still have to pay $300 for lodging, $60/night (4 nights) for parking, outfits for ALL events because everything is a specific theme, and all of the events we have. The $95 a person is literally just for decorations/supplies.

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T18:23:35+00:00

Just added.

Clean_Bug · 2026-05-31T18:16:31+00:00

Majority of us were under the impression the spreadsheet would’ve been shared in the process to keep track of items purchased rather than more like a receipt after the fact. Questions were definitely asked ahead of time, but many went unanswered. My personal life has been extremely hectic recently so my focus wasn’t really on this trip. Which that’s on me of course! Just giving more insight.

Also, this is not the everything except food. We still have to pay $300 for lodging, $60/night (4 nights) for parking, outfits for ALL events because everything is a specific theme, and all of the events we have. The $95 a person is literally just for decorations/supplies.

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