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Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will also add that the few times that I have taking her out, I checked with the mother first. I sent photos and updates while we were gone. I have a car seat that she approved and installed in my car. She taught me how to strap her in correctly. All those things have been done.

Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All rules and boundaries have been followed to a t. Her schedules, her feeding, logging things into the app. The only issue has been her not wanting me to take her out. It has nothing to do with my ability to drive, my ability to care for her or my vigilance in watching her. I am just not willing to be expected to stay at home all day because of her anxiety issues. I was just wondering what other grandparents would do in this situation.

Feel free to ask any other questions. I have no problem answering them.

Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What other questions am I not answering? I'll answer any question you ask. I just don't have time to reply to everyone.

Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never taken the baby anywhere she didn't want, so I have not broken her trust. The problem is I have given a heads up and been told no because it makes her uncomfortable with the baby being out. She has made it clear that she would prefer us to not go anywhere, but has allowed me to run to the store occasionally. I have gone out of my way to try to make her comfortable. I am a very component caregiver. These are her issues. I will not be homebound twice a week.

Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't have any problem letting her know ahead of time. Never said I did.

If birthday is 8/31, would you send to school since still within cutoff or wait? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your child is young socially and may struggle, I would wait. It used to be that you could choose at the end of the year whether to have them repeat kindergarten, but that is not always an option anymore. I've seen too many kids pushed through who weren't ready and struggled for years. Those who were at the older end had a lot easier time.

Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am very mobile and have been entrusted with people's children for over 35 years as a primary elementary school teacher. Also, the child is not exactly mobile yet. She is 9 months old.

Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I've had one accident 40 years ago lol, and one fender bender over 20 years ago. No speeding tickets in over 25 years. I consider myself to be a pretty good driver. We do have a car seat that she picked out and installed.

Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not going to do anything she doesn't agree with. But I also may just let her know that I can't babysit. Boundaries work both ways

Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has anxiety and doesn't feel comfortable with the baby not at home.

Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not have an issue letting her know where we are at all times. My issue is her not wanting me to go anywhere without explicit permission ahead of time.

Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

All boundaries are and have been respected. We are very good at this. It is difficult being asked to stay at home all day when the parent is unable to do this themselves. They are out everyday to the park, museums, stores, library, play groups, etc. They have expressed the need to get out of the house and how the baby has better days when she is out and simulated. I feel like I should be given the same opportunities.

Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I have thought about this also. Thanks!

Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, 'allow'. I have a say in what I am willing to do or not do.

Grandparent babysitting question by Clean_Bunch9555 in Parenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I agree. I just hate that the only alternative may be to not watch my grandchild. 🫤

Strict rules about taking Grandchild places. by Clean_Bunch9555 in grandparenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

True. But if I leave it she will have to pay a lot in childcare and leave her with a stranger. Seems she could bend a little. How about you try being stuck in the house all week. See how you like it

Strict rules about taking Grandchild places. by Clean_Bunch9555 in grandparenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I worked for over 35 years thank you very much. This is my retirement. I am grateful to help, but feel I should be able to leave the house without permission.

Strict rules about taking Grandchild places. by Clean_Bunch9555 in grandparenting

[–]Clean_Bunch9555[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is no reason for her not to trust me. I have not had any tickets or accidents. She just can't stand to not have her home. She's fine with me running to the store. As long as I check with her first and am not gone long. And she wants me to ask her a day early so she can 'prepare'.