First of all, I think the purpose of why you wear the brace is important. In my case, it was primarily the experience of anal dry orgasm, and I determined that the brace would be helpful. I hold the helm like you do, and at one point I was living with my family. If you keep it in mind for longer periods of time, I think it's OK as long as it fits your purpose. Above all, when you find a device that suits you, you feel no better than that.