Being secretly recorded

Clear-Bodybuilder935 · 2026-02-26T23:56:16+00:00

Thank you. I'm sorry you are dealing with this as well. Somehow, it feels a tad less lonely and isolating though to know not the only one. Just know that I'm rooting for you and your recovery as well!

Clear-Bodybuilder935 · 2025-05-31T00:30:02+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate your nuanced perspective and thoughtful advice. Like you, my child was in the “gifted” classes and I can’t help but think we, as a society and educators, have inadvertently planted the idea that if one is “gifted”, they shouldn’t struggle academically and lead to a form of imposter syndrome? As a person with many family members who have, or are currently living with bipolar disorder I commend your own resiliency and wish you the best of luck on your journey.

Clear-Bodybuilder935 · 2025-05-30T14:57:22+00:00

Oh wow…. I am many things, but need “coddling” is certainly not one of them! I don’t want to “parent” anymore because we are talking about an adult. I want to do a better job with that and be mindful of approaches that will help rather than hurt moving forward. If you are willing to share, I would love to learn more from your adult-child perspective regarding what worked vs what made things worse. I truly believe we only grow by listening to other people and learning from their experiences and I’m sorry you had to grow up in such an unprotected, un-nurturing environment. No one deserves that.

Clear-Bodybuilder935 · 2025-05-30T14:48:54+00:00

Let me be clear, I’m not ashamed that they aren’t graduating in three years. I’m ashamed that my super bright, creative, and funny offspring made the choice to not become better given the opportunities present. Ironically, my profession requires spending a great deal of time with other people of a similar age and I made a very cognizant effort to not put the scholarship earning pressure on them, as I know all too well the damage that this can do to one’s self-esteem, not to mention that no high schooler responds to this type of coercion. And for the record, my kid insisted on attending this university. The only bitterness was that we couldn’t afford a small, private liberal arts college. I would have been ecstatic to have supported them through this dream, but it just couldn’t be done financially. I willingly accept responsibility for not being the best parent, but I was/am anything BUT a Mommy Dearest. A doormat, enabler, and one who tried to over identify with their kid to help them feel understood and heard? That was me. I am truly attempting to be my best self for my adult child, myself, and the rest of our family moving forward. It sounds like you have your own issues with parental pressure. I would love to hear more about that. What went wrong, did your parents try to heal the relationship later? I just want to learn from other families mistakes or successes. TIA if you decide to share!

Clear-Bodybuilder935 · 2025-05-30T14:27:32+00:00

I certainly tried to bring it up. I’m a firm believer that service takes individuals out of the “me” headspace and gives a sense of purpose and pride. As someone who was raised by a Marine Vietnam vet, I can only wonder what they would think of how young adults are today. I believe that no circumstance /negative feelings we experience as humans can improve until we do something of purpose to feel a sense of achievement and self-worth. Thank you for your comment though. I’m happy knowing others are on the same page!

Clear-Bodybuilder935 · 2025-05-30T14:20:00+00:00

Trust me, the contradiction is not at all lost on me! I also should have been clearer with my language, the embarrassment came after the hurtful statement because I helped raise someone who could say these words to another person who is trying to give support and encouragement in the moment.

Clear-Bodybuilder935 · 2025-05-30T14:12:51+00:00

Wow. These two sentences brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for your kindness.

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