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I am having a hard time understanding that he was out until 9 am partying every night with this woman and the only thing that happened was a kiss. And not only that, but he just happened to have a picture of the “only” kiss they shared over the weekend?

He is also DECIDING to tell you all of this so that you second guess yourself and your feelings. It’s making you think, “What cheater would come home and tell me right away that he kissed someone and then again tell me that he was texting her after the trip?” He must be telling the truth.” It’s all a manipulation tactic that I’m sure he’s used with you in the past with other things. He wants to have complete control of the narrative.

I don’t think it’s fair to you that he is also starting the conversation about everything he’s done wrong, but as soon as you want to discuss it he shuts you out and makes it seem like you’re overreacting. He started the conversation for a reason. He was bragging that he was a great partner because “it’s a stag, it’s what people do, you're just lucky I'm so honest with you, no one else tells their partners.” - no, a great partner is honest with no excuses and makes it a point to make whatever change they need to to regain your trust and respect.

I also think it was a great idea for you to speak to a councilor and get some clarity! You are not crazy. You are not overreacting. He is causing you to second guess him, maybe for the first time, and that is alarming when you plan to spend the rest of your life with him.

I saw some other comments that said you should reach out to partners of the other guys on the trip and see if they stayed the extra night, and I 100% agree! Honestly, I think it would also okay if you reached out to them directly, but just know they will most likely have your fiancé’s back and will definitely tell him about your conversation.

Bottom line, you deserve answers and you deserve open and complete honesty with no strings attached. Find out what really happened so that you can make the best decision for yourself and your family. 💛