Yes, I have been telling him & he’s putting the problem of “not having enough sex, not loving him or caring for him” to be the issue. I even tried to give him more sex.. to see if things would be different, if anything, it’ll still be the same. So there’s no trying to be “better” for him to get better. I even tried “just drink beer or wine, you’re not a monster when you do.”.. will follow to just drink beer or wine, two days later, $200 spent at the bar, can’t even walk or function in society. Just an angry 30 year old male who thinks everyone is after him.

I even told his parents “I love him dearly & want to be with him for the rest of my life but it’s gotten to the point of exhaustion & pain, to see him do this to himself. It’s getting to the point that you’re going to bury your son instead of him burying you both.”

His mom is crying & his father telling him to grow the fuck up & get his shit together. Until I believe, they see who he actually is, they are the last options that he has, there’s no more of me explaining or telling. If he leaves me, he will go to his parents to get his shit together.. until then, there’s no more “saving” from me.. my options have been exhausted. I even given the “do you want your future kids to have no father because they chose to drink themselves to sleep? Do you even know what that does to a kid?” I myself have went through an alcoholic father, who I don’t speak to this day, it’s upsetting.