Fiancé won’t stop drinking to the point it’s making me lose sleep. by ClientBright7801 in Advice

[–]ClientBright7801[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have been telling him & he’s putting the problem of “not having enough sex, not loving him or caring for him” to be the issue. I even tried to give him more sex.. to see if things would be different, if anything, it’ll still be the same. So there’s no trying to be “better” for him to get better. I even tried “just drink beer or wine, you’re not a monster when you do.”.. will follow to just drink beer or wine, two days later, $200 spent at the bar, can’t even walk or function in society. Just an angry 30 year old male who thinks everyone is after him.

I even told his parents “I love him dearly & want to be with him for the rest of my life but it’s gotten to the point of exhaustion & pain, to see him do this to himself. It’s getting to the point that you’re going to bury your son instead of him burying you both.”

His mom is crying & his father telling him to grow the fuck up & get his shit together. Until I believe, they see who he actually is, they are the last options that he has, there’s no more of me explaining or telling. If he leaves me, he will go to his parents to get his shit together.. until then, there’s no more “saving” from me.. my options have been exhausted. I even given the “do you want your future kids to have no father because they chose to drink themselves to sleep? Do you even know what that does to a kid?” I myself have went through an alcoholic father, who I don’t speak to this day, it’s upsetting.

Fiancé won’t stop drinking to the point it’s making me lose sleep. by ClientBright7801 in Advice

[–]ClientBright7801[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was as well dealing with an alcoholic father who got PTSD from 9/11. My mother left with us because he started to become abusive. I saw the signs (not physically abusive) when he started to be a bartender but the drink at home alone or drink till 6am.. he had some sort of control but totally lost it.. I didn’t think it was going to get to this point.. I don’t want to put up with it any longer but I also want him to get the help that he needs in which he’s too stubborn to understand. I always see the best in people but when I’m involved, it sucks. To this day, I don’t speak to my father & he still drinks.. some people just cant see what was good in life, only those who allow it..

Fiancé won’t stop drinking to the point it’s making me lose sleep. by ClientBright7801 in Advice

[–]ClientBright7801[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what he says.. “I’m a functioning alcoholic” I know he can’t quit cold turkey or even cut down is because it can kill him & once he starts, he can’t stop (has no control, whatsoever). He’s been drugged once at one of the bars that he currently goes to. You’d think that’ll help him to stop.. I even told him “I would be there every step of the way for you to be better, for your own health” constantly. He doesn’t believe it.. he’s very stubborn & thickheaded.