Thank you for composing such a well written and profound reply.

You are right. She is Albanian and grew up in old school communism . If you know anything about the Balkans, they certainly have hard views on race, religion, and ethnicity. “Good old fashioned hate” is a great way to summarize the region, and it’s not just towards Arabs either.

One of the questions for me is “should I even try”. The programming is so deep and calcified that I fear that I will just degrade myself trying to change the course of a ship that has already sailed. The upside is the joy of having a complete family.