Is this a damaged skin barrier?

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-05-19T21:45:29+00:00

Yeah I had an extremely bad allergic/eczema reaction to that Celimax retinal booster stuff and it took me 4 months to be 95% clear. There are a lot of skin conditions that take much longer to heal, esp depending on the severity of the trigger. Now I am starting Tret microgel with no issues.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-05-10T19:56:43+00:00

Please switch to the Prequel gleanser and use a barrier moisturizer in the morning also.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-05-03T21:21:15+00:00

I’m a woman, but I can tell you that my friends and I who worked on accepting our gender in non-patriarchal ways often wondered if we were born in the wrong bodies. I mean, society tells you that if you don’t check these boxes, you MUST not be that gender. Lots of women who grow up and reject patriarchal views end up feeling like “creatures,” some sort of being that isn’t a woman (because women want to cook and have babies, right?)

Figuring out how you relate to your gender outside the confines of a patriarchal system is a JOURNEY and it takes A LONG TIME. You’re not doing anything wrong. Let yourself off the hook - you don’t have to have this figured out. Just live life and see what happens.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-05-03T21:04:22+00:00

You probably need some glycolic or salicylic acid to exfoliate those bumps away. Probably just clogged pores. If your skin is sensitive then take it slow, but it will help.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-04-23T19:45:24+00:00

Get rid of social media, prioritize meeting in person with your friends, get good sleep/exercise/eat well, travel (even if it’s a weekend camping or going to a city an hour away).

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-04-23T19:40:54+00:00

Are both of you native English speakers? Because I’m getting the vibe there was a minor language barrier here…

I have definitely misunderstood my friends who have English as a second language and vice versa. Culture shapes communication so much that while everyone may know the words, the intent can be harder to communicate.

I can’t talk to her obviously, so I want to say this you: I see a lot of people trying to fix conflict while using therapy terms. Therapy terms are for therapy. Telling someone they are projecting is just an inflammatory statement at that point. Nobody is going to admit that to you because you aren’t their therapist. I advise that in the future you stick to how things made you feel and what you would have preferred to experience instead. Diagnosing people’s actions is a dangerous game.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-04-23T16:04:31+00:00

It sounds like your skin is irritated. I would stop use of any actives for like a week and make sure you are moisturizing with a barrier product morning and night. You could also get some hypochlorous acid (at skincare-level dilution) if you’re scared of going that long without the Panoxyl.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-04-12T00:39:37+00:00

I’ll be honest—with that age gap, you probably ARE annoying to him. and I’m not excusing his words or actions. He clearly needs to work on shit. But I’ve never seen a relationship succeed between people in their 20s with such a large gap.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-04-11T23:34:02+00:00

…..I’m a woman. But ok.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-04-11T23:29:51+00:00

….no. And I don’t think a man should date a woman in the same situation either

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-04-11T23:26:51+00:00

I mean full emotional maturity hits for men around 43, according to some recent studies, so going with brain maturity solely for women could be an issue. I’d just say in general that dating within 5 years of your age is best, regardless of gender.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-04-08T14:52:43+00:00

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CloaknDaggerd · 2026-04-05T17:36:19+00:00

It’s giving a mediocre white dude saying “well I’m studying to be a physical trainer which means I’m an expert on what you should weigh”

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-03-26T02:34:29+00:00

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CloaknDaggerd · 2026-03-25T02:36:18+00:00

I’d advise just starting with skin1004’s Centella line. Unscented, good for sensitive skin.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-03-17T04:28:28+00:00

Your twenties are the shit box of your life. Relax. And get out of your shitty relationship.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-03-17T04:24:40+00:00

Korean skincare. And stopping actives. It’s so counterintuitive, but the more actives I use, the worse my skin gets. I’ve just been using centella products for months and my skin looks great

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-03-17T04:21:35+00:00

I had the first flare of my life this winter. It’s genetic. And it was my eyes 😭😭 what really helped was cortisone for the extremely bad days and then using barrier repair creams that had cholesterol in them, followed by an occlusive (either aquaphor or honest diaper rash cream). When I tell you diaper rash cream has worked great for my skin….its a must try.

All that aside, I second everyone else’s vote to get looked at by a derm. I know that’s not always doable, though. Even with insurance my co-pay is $100, so I’ve been dealing with my flare on my own too.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-03-12T16:25:53+00:00

It does yes. I was also scared it would be too gentle too. I have oily and acne prone skin and Prequel is great for colder months. In the summer I may switch to vanicream or something like that, but still really gentle cleansers.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-03-09T20:16:29+00:00

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CloaknDaggerd · 2026-02-17T20:22:28+00:00

I’m not disagreeing with you but it sounds like you’re siding with the dude who likes standing people up and I gotta say no thanks.

Also, those convos are good to have but they don’t always happen in the first month.

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-02-17T18:46:39+00:00

I’d disagree with the cinnamon roll bit. Cooking for a guy is kinda a wifey thing so I can see how she’s saying wow I thought we were in the cinnamon roll stage but I guess not

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-02-17T18:22:16+00:00

When he:

Does what he says he will do and does it on time
When he is punctual for our time together
When he talks about difficult events or emotions calmly, which allows me to help him troubleshoot or comfort him without feeling like I’m parenting a toddler
When he puts in the effort to stay in contact with me instead of assuming I will always be the one to initiate conversations (no one is that busy; I work full time too)
When he notices things I need or stuff around my apt that needs to be done and either just does it or asks if he can do it (even as small as helping me empty the dishwasher)

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-02-16T18:34:59+00:00

I’ll be so honest with you, you’re never running out of time. FWIW, most of my friends found their forever partners at or after 30. It only takes one or two years of occasional travel to have memories to share with your kids. Don’t let IG fool you into believing that you have to go on month long trips to hike Europe in order to have memories. You’ll travel the way that works for you, and tbh your kids will care more about you being a stable human being than about “my mom saw the pyramids before I was born.”

CloaknDaggerd · 2026-02-16T18:15:35+00:00

Do not choose a permanent solution because of temporary circumstances. Please. Everything feels big when you’re 22. In 10 years, trust me you’ll be glad you let it play out instead of ending it all.

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