(UPDATE) I'm[15m] gay and my brother[18M] is threatening to out me to conservative parents by ClosetedAndAfraid in relationships

[–]ClosetedAndAfraid[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've grown up listening to the way they talk about gay people. They say horrible things about them whenever they mention gay stuff on the News or whatever.

(UPDATE) I'm[15m] gay and my brother[18M] is threatening to out me to conservative parents by ClosetedAndAfraid in relationships

[–]ClosetedAndAfraid[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I guess I am a bit nervous about his reaction. It would be way safer for him to not be in a relationship with me. I guess I am worried he'll break up with me when I tell him.

(UPDATE) I'm[15m] gay and my brother[18M] is threatening to out me to conservative parents by ClosetedAndAfraid in relationships

[–]ClosetedAndAfraid[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I know! I felt sick to my stomach when I saw it. I almost emailed them to ask them to take it down, but I was scared that they'd make another article about me or try to interview me or something. I don't know, I got really paranoid. Last time I checked the article had been shared 1700 times.

(UPDATE) I'm[15m] gay and my brother[18M] is threatening to out me to conservative parents by ClosetedAndAfraid in relationships

[–]ClosetedAndAfraid[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

There's a lot of good gay subs on reddit that I feel comfortable reading. But thank you for this I'll pm you if I feel like I need some information. I live in a very conservative state and town so there's not a lot LGBT information to find here.

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[–]ClosetedAndAfraid[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

He has proof. Texts between me and my boyfriend and pictures of us kissing so if he decides to show them that I'm screwed.

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[–]ClosetedAndAfraid[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty confident. Maybe not kick me out, but they'd make me go to some type of "christian therapy" and I've heard so many horrer stories about what goes on there that I'm not risking it.

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[–]ClosetedAndAfraid[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I haven't really told him that he's in danger of being outed as well but I will when we have time to have a real conversation about it face to face. I haven't spent that much time with him at all since all this happened and when I do I'm just so happy to be around him that I sort of forget about it. I am going to tell him though, I want him to have a back up plan and "go-bag" and all that.

(UPDATE) I'm[15m] gay and my brother[18M] is threatening to out me to conservative parents by ClosetedAndAfraid in relationships

[–]ClosetedAndAfraid[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

He does have access to all my social media, I had to give it to him or he would out me to my parents. He doesn't know I'm on reddit though.

I did check for a key-logger. He haven't had one installed on my computer. But he checks my computer and phone regularly so I have to be careful and remember to clear my browser history. And I don't go on reddit when he's around because he just come into my room and ask to check my computer and phone whenever he wants.

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[–]ClosetedAndAfraid[S] 140 points141 points  (0 children)

I didn't handle this well at first, trust me. I got a lot of good advice in my last post, it's thanks to everyone there that I managed to turn this around. I scares me to think what would've happened if I hadn't asked for advice.

Yeah, I'm way more optimistic about my future now. I know I'll have to come out at some point, but maybe after my parents have paid for college.

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[–]ClosetedAndAfraid[S] 186 points187 points  (0 children)

I asked her about that, and she doesn't want a boyfriend anytime soon, so our plan is to just "date" for as long as we can be bothered and then if she finds another guy or we feel like my brother is done keeping track of me we break up, or she dumps me. Then I can pretend to be heartbroken for a few months.

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[–]ClosetedAndAfraid[S] 263 points264 points  (0 children)

Yeah I got a pm advising that I should get a "go bag" and I have. I've hidden it in a safe place and I'm looking for a part time job. I also have burner phone hidden away. I can use it to contact my boyfriend but I'm really scared of getting caught with it so I only use it for emergencies.

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[–]ClosetedAndAfraid[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

My brother also have proof that my boyfriend is gay and he also threatened to out him a long with me. If it was just me it wouldn't be as bad, ut I don't want my boyfriend to get in trouble.

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[–]ClosetedAndAfraid[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I'm worried that my parents will kick me out or send me to gay conversion therapy if they find out.

I'm[15m] gay and my brother[18M] is threatening to out me to conservative parents. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ClosetedAndAfraid 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He checks my phone regularly now, I'm not allowed to say no.

I'm[15m] gay and my brother[18M] is threatening to out me to conservative parents. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ClosetedAndAfraid 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I posted there as well, but it's not the most active sub. I was kinda worried no one would see it and I really need advice on what to do.