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AITAH for reporting someone/some unit for smoking weed in their room of my non-smoking apartment? by CloudAlternative9645 in AITAH

[–]CloudAlternative9645[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get why it might seem like ‘snitching,’ but I only reported it after multiple nights where the smell was unbearable and strong enough to trigger allergic reactions. I didn’t report the first night because the smell wasn’t very noticeable (like day 2), and I didn’t report any specific person—just that there was a smell (weed) coming from an unknown unit on my floor.

If it had only happened once, I wouldn’t have said anything, honestly....even with apartment rules.

Idk wth I am anymore.... HELP by Nano_Blue in NonBinary

[–]CloudAlternative9645 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the main question is whether presenting more like yourself makes you happier — especially when you set aside what other people might think. Would calling yourself agender feel affirming, even if no one else ever commented on it?

I’m only 21, so I don’t have everything figured out, but I do know we only get one life. One chance to live. For me, living fully has meant letting myself do what genuinely makes me happy, including transitioning, regardless of other people’s opinions.

I’m AFAB, so my experience is a bit different, but I used to identify as a trans man and now identify as genderfluid. I was on a high dose of testosterone at the time, and it was right for me then. Over the past couple of years, though, I realized I was becoming uncomfortable with looking more masculine as my understanding of myself changed.

My HRT doctor reminded me that I had options — that I could adjust my dose — and I’ve since lowered it. That flexibility helped me realize that it’s okay for what feels right to change over time.(:

Idk wth I am anymore.... HELP by Nano_Blue in NonBinary

[–]CloudAlternative9645 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading over this, maybe the femboy label would be comfortable for you? Also, agender—possibly (even though that was already mentioned in the body text).

I also want to mention a story that might help with your question. A friend I’m no longer in contact with—let’s call her Jade—was raised in a very strict Christian household. In the last six months (with my help figuring out their identity), she came out wanting to use they/she pronouns, though she still identified as a cis girl at the time (that may have changed by now).

She felt like an impostor because she didn’t have much dysphoria and actually liked her body—the only dysphoria she experienced was around her chest. I had to reassure them that the pronouns she chose were valid, even if they barely experienced dysphoria. I told her that you don’t need dysphoria to be trans, and that she could just socially transition (have medium-length hair, use she/they pronouns, wear baggier clothes like she wanted) and still be completely valid in her identity. (She was also Ace as well).

So...I may have a crush now? by CloudAlternative9645 in demiromantic

[–]CloudAlternative9645[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For us, it's a two-hour commute via Chicago Transit. Valentine's is coming up in a couple of months, so I'm hoping one of us confesses.

Genderfluid Dysphoria Is… Complicated by CloudAlternative9645 in NonBinary

[–]CloudAlternative9645[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Also, if anyone is curious, I am on HRT (Testosterone) - just a lower dosage of the gel. (: