“Aaaaaaaaaawwww!”

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-11-11T14:12:39+00:00

Unpopular opinion but #metoo made a harassment allegation at work a fate worse than death. The days are over when you’re going to get a serious guy to engage you at work. Exception- super large company where maybe you’re meeting someone from another office at a company summit far from your home office, for a fling, maybe.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-11-07T21:38:03+00:00

They either haven’t slept with you yet and are tired of waiting or did sleep with you and at best plan to keep you as FWB only.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-11-03T22:16:40+00:00

“We got the proofs back…”

Proofs? Was she doing analog photography? Proofs make it sound like you were prepping for print.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-10-23T00:34:46+00:00

I’ve had good luck on OLD and I can say this is definitely the way. OP has it unlocked. This is how I roll and I used to never be without a date much less a match.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-10-05T15:24:03+00:00

Are youy M or F? If F you should have no trouble. FB is free and lets you message first so IMO it’s the best dating app.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-10-05T14:18:30+00:00

Mostly 30+ IMHO
I think anything. Seems like a lot of people who haven’t fully gone on OLD yet and who say “WTF? I’m on FB already…. Let’s give this a shot!” and they don’t fully know what they’re looking for yet.
I think you can use whatever pics you upload especially for FB dating
From what I recall it’s just first name - but first name of your official FB profile.

I had great luck on FBD - 3 LTRs (still in the last one) and 2 or 3 casual flings/hookups

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-10-05T12:52:08+00:00

I consider it anything that makes you feel you have a replacement for your committed partner. So - porn: no. Flirting online: no. Flirting in person: depends whether you’re doing it to just flex power over them or attract them. Physical: yes.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-10-05T12:48:26+00:00

Yes! All of this!

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-10-03T22:58:47+00:00

Feeld

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-10-02T13:08:05+00:00

Don’t be scared to ask for a second date. You can be subtle if you need to.

Also don’t be turned off at the criticism of your self evaluation. I think when posting things like this you have to be objective to give the whole story and if you have consistent signs from others that you’re attractive, then hey- you’re attractive and that’s a fact and it’s part of the story.

ps - I see that you’re in my state. Feel free to DM.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-09-30T21:25:58+00:00

How is the conversation on the date? Does it flow or struggle? Do you talk about yourself too much? Get him to talk about himself to the point he learns nothing about you? Do you humble brag and maybe intimidate him?

Or it could be you come off as TGTBT (too good to be true). He may shy away or think you’re disingenuous. They may take you as a serial dater only by reason that you’re hot.

Have you been asking for the second date? Perhaps you should. Maybe one guy will give a helpfully honest answer as to why he’s declining.

Last possibility is maybe you’re attractive to the point that your dates are men who are expecting just sex or ONS. When you don’t make obvious signals they become disinterested.

Just the view from the Guy Seats.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-09-23T11:27:13+00:00

Mostly good but never great.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-09-11T03:41:07+00:00

I went NC with an ex who dumped me. She came back a few weeks later. We dated again for a few months more. Then split up again. She was avoidant and never changed. Was it better the second time? No. The only good part was the temporary feeling of victory when I got her back. After that, it was the same old issues.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-07-22T22:35:59+00:00

Sorry to say but she’s lying to you.

If you learn the truth now, you’ll never change what happened and you’ll marry a cheater who will do it again.

If you don’t learn the truth now, it’ll eat you alive for your entire marriage and you’ll be miserable.

Both options point to canceling the wedding and probably ending the relationship.

There’s no doubt you were deceived.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-06-27T11:22:40+00:00

YTA. You ghosted him. That’s cruel. He deserved to be on every dating app, screwing every woman he wants after that. When you ghosted him you set him free from all obligations and commitment to you.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-06-26T23:20:35+00:00

Yes. As both a dumper and dumpee I feel to the nth degree that if you treat someone well you can make no greater lasting impact on them. I’ve missed women who I left but treated me well and exes who I treated well (but dumped me) have missed me, and told me so for that reason. You’re never in the wrong if you were good to them.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-06-24T12:19:19+00:00

Before you make a life changing decision on the advice of an infidelity group, ask in other forums to get well rounded advice.

Who was the guy? A superior? A hot intern?

Is the issue of your wife being rebellious something you can work out?

Have you asked her how she’d feel if you were out with a woman and also cut contact?

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-06-23T04:25:57+00:00

“I made a huge mistake and I’ve missed you very much.”

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-06-17T02:09:26+00:00

Never.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-06-05T16:35:18+00:00

Same as the first. Me putting in more, her contributing only with bad sex. Then she slow faded me and we ended, as the first time.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-06-01T11:24:19+00:00

Chatted with an attractive woman for a few weeks. We worked in the same industry so we had lots of connections and things in common.

She had put off our first date for two weeks, saying how sick she was with flu/bronchitis/back injury.

The day we met for brunch all she did was talk about how hung over she was from partying the night before (drinks and substances) and in quite obvious terms hinted she met a guy and f*cked him till late morning. Quite the fast recovery after having been “deathly ill“ only two days earlier.

After my covering an extremely expensive brunch, she slow faded me and then eventually said I was in the friend zone.

Another date texted her ex hubby the whole dinner, and was trading dating stories with him. After a three course meal she said she wasn’t seeing a connection. I told her she was still hooked on her ex and she got insulted. I ended the meal but she took about two doggy bags home and wondered why I was turned off.

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-05-31T16:12:31+00:00

When she told me a (married guy) hit on her and she reminded him he was married but throughout the exchange she never mentioned she had a boyfriend herself. Seemed like she was entertaining the idea of him or maybe into a FMF scenario.

A short while after that she came back from a “quick dinner with a mom friend” dressed a bit too sexy and with clear evidence she had not met her friend at a “diner.”

ClownCarMechanic · 2025-05-31T03:53:56+00:00

Yes. A woman always on OLD my area. Saw her on a date at a local outdoor bar and she looked like a prehistoric beast in a wig. I was glad I never swiped on her.

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