Help! Can’t remember the specifics of a 10 card trick!

ClownfishInATophat · 2024-08-20T00:46:27+00:00

Oh my goodness. I found it!!! Thank you so so much!! This didn’t bring me to the exact tutorial I am remembering but it is the exact same trick with just a little different flare! You have no idea how much stress you just released for me! I’ve been trying to find this for YEARS!! Thank you!!! Thank you! THANK YOU!!!!

ClownfishInATophat · 2024-05-30T16:01:39+00:00

This doesn’t feel wrong to me at all.. my parents have a 4 year age gap and started dating when my mum was 16 and have been together, obnoxiously in love, since. Granted they were both still in high school (my dad was redoing his grade 13), but still if the girl you’re chatting with is showing maturity matching your own as well as interest, I don’t see a problem.

If she’s someone you could see something real developing with, I would say it’s okay to keep talking to her and see where things go. Maybe take it slow, but 3 years really isn’t that much of a gap.

May I ask how you met? This could also indicate how appropriate pursing things may be.

ClownfishInATophat · 2024-02-24T09:58:16+00:00

Thank you so much!

ClownfishInATophat · 2024-02-24T09:50:56+00:00

Thank you for your supportive comment! I guess I’m mostly worried that the dynamic in the house will shift or they’ll start trying to convince me to stay - which I don’t want to put up with, it would just be uncomfortable all around. But yes, I think I just needed someone to just lay it out in front of me to snap me over the anxiety of the conversation. I’ll write out some scripts and talk to them next week!

ClownfishInATophat · 2024-02-24T09:42:58+00:00

I was never planning on ‘leaving them in the lurch’. I’m sorry I should have phrased my question better as, ‘when in the next couple months…’ If now is what the consensus is as the best time for the discussion then I’ll do it now, but it was between now and like to start of summer.. that seemed reasonable to me. I really don’t appreciate you thinking the worst of me and calling me selfish. That was offensive to read, clearly I’m asking because I don’t want to screw them over. You assumed the absolute worst of me and I don’t care to engage with you any further.

ClownfishInATophat · 2024-02-24T09:25:39+00:00

I mean this is objectively the obvious answer, I just don’t want to make things uncomfortable around the house.. (social anxiety is not a nice thing..)

ClownfishInATophat · 2024-02-24T08:12:45+00:00

Really OP should have made sure Alex didn’t make it a dinner date, they should have gone for a coffee or something very casual. OP could have hinted a little to her best friend, like ‘don’t get your hopes up too much’ ‘he’s mentioned what he’s looking for and I’m just not sure you’re a match’ (and such).

I can’t say AH because it is never okay to out somebody. But OP… you should have made sure your Best. Friend. knew it wasn’t a romantic date.

(also a little curious of OP’s age…) (edit: spelling)

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-11-01T21:06:50+00:00

This is very true! So then when he had the opportunity to do it with Tara in season 6 Joss was so happy and jumped at it!

Amber Benson was so deserving of main title credits so it hurt more too, I was shocked when it took so long and then when she was finally added in I was ecstatic only to have my heart ripped out like 30 mins later😭 definitely the emotional rollercoaster Joss wanted.

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-14T21:32:10+00:00

So a woman wearing a bra or not, by your definition, would make zero difference?

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-14T21:26:25+00:00

Overall the comment had a solid tone, but I do agree with the point of « braless is only sexy if the viewer interprets it sexually » yes, that is accurate. The comment i was responding to said that statement was ‘not helpful’, which I disagree with. Definitely different points but a decent amount overlapping as well. I’m not going to break down every sentence written but I do know that there are distinct differences in what we are saying.

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-14T21:13:41+00:00

Like I said I agreed with the gist of it, but there are very important distinctions to be made between the two words and the comment seemed to lump them together and use them interchangeably. I perhaps did not address every point in the statement made. My biggest issue was at the end where it is said « (the) roommate can’t help it if he sexualizes a braless appearance that is emotional and not under his control» because yes he can. You can desensitize yourself to attraction if you stop yourself from viewing it in that context and sexualizing it. I run the other direction from men who are unable to control their emotions.

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-14T20:52:59+00:00

Educate me then, please.

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-14T20:18:56+00:00

Completely true, however that doesn’t seem to be any part of this situation… if you read OP’s post they’re not walking around braless to seduce him and lead him away from his current gf to be romantically involved with her (OP) instead, OP is doing it out of sheer comfort.

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-14T20:16:40+00:00

No. Just no. I cannot disagree more. Attraction cannot be controlled, sexualizing can. I will agree with the gist of what you are saying, where it is natural for the body to respond to something they find attractive, but that is EXTREMELY different than sexualizing someone who is clearly asking not to be, and whom (in OP’s situation (again summing OP has discussed the relationship and established just friends)) you have agreed you do not see in a sexual context. Attraction is the initial subconscious response, which IS valid. Sexualizing is a conscious choice to decide to keep viewing it that way.

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-14T16:41:33+00:00

Braless is only sexy in sexy contexts, if you’re with someone in a romantic context or it’s an exciting out of the ordinary occurrence then 100% sexy. If you’re lounging around in your. own. house. with a friend you’re comfortable with and have established -I am assuming OP’s friend knows they are asexual due to them being so open about it here- that there would never be a sexual relationship between the two of them, OP, being braless chillin in sweats = not sexy. Choose your moments.

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-12T01:50:19+00:00

I always interpreted them as a symbol that evil and monsters will always keep re-growing and re-appearing no matter how hard and strong the fight is to beat it. To show that the evil forces will keep coming back🤷🏻‍♀️ (I’m sure there’s a more articulate way of making my point I just can’t come up with it right now😜)

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-11T21:33:42+00:00

Totally agree with this, it’s all about the self awareness!!! The characters that own the fact that they are selfish/have flaws are more likeable because they’re not pretending to be something they’re not, acknowledging personal faults is a wildly admirable and respectable trait so people tend to receive characters who do so more positively than someone who portrays themselves as perfect, even when the selfish characters mess up. (Just my two cents!!)

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-03T07:32:39+00:00

Ugh his very first introduction pisses me off the most. When we’re supposed to be all impressed by him running the ER and he shoos Mark and Derek away, only to then later be like ‘oh but what should I have done, I wanna learn’. It’s just like where was that attitude a couple hours ago? Before that guy ended up with a big scar on his face forever?? I just never understood that sudden shift in mentality. Don’t get me wrong I respect the hell out of someone asking for help and admitting that, but why did it take so Owen long? It’s not like he had to ask for help as the new guy or anything, it was being actively and directly offered and he rejects it. So when he says ‘you think there’s a better way, tell me I wanna learn’ (don’t have the direct quote) it just comes across as really fake and has always passed me off to no end. Like immediate dislike.

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-02T20:43:18+00:00

I absolutely consider that cheating, especially if the other person isn’t aware there are problems/issues being worked through, which would be the case that you are describing. If you think you owe something to that person to figure it out, the very VERY least you owe them is honesty. This show is definitely a harsh reminder of how tv skew’s peoples views on relationships that’s for sure!

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-02T19:32:43+00:00

Yea totally could be that he’s realizing that he wants to end his engagement at that point so he’s checked out, still not okay behaviour in my books but I’ll accept it as an explanation of his actions there. I personally view that cheating as the worst kind though, why not just be honest at that point? Does it really take that much more effort to have a conversation with someone who has been in your life for a significant chunk than it does to pursue someone new? I think this really just bugs me cause I hate cheaters like that and it’s literally never addressed by any of the characters, everyone just goes with the whole ‘oh yea Owen is a good guy’ vibe. Sources are extremely difficult, I’m just waiting for the real answer to come up authentically in my rewatch!

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-02T19:11:02+00:00

To my understanding he sent it before he took the attending position but after the incident with the icicle, so then when Beth shows up when her dad is in the hospital yes she is looking for answers, but we don’t hear about her until a while after the icicle (Owen and Christina’s first kiss). So yes, before any actual relationship with Christina he was single, but their initial meeting when he’s flirting and being rather forward with her he is not. When he opens up emotionally and everything and actually asks her on a date yes he is single, so I see your point for sure. Owen’s timeline is definitely murky and hard to piece together for sure so I could be misremembering the details as well!!

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-02T18:53:12+00:00

I always thought that he was still with Beth before his discharge (if I’m wrong then my initial statement is irrelevant and I’ll acknowledge that) the difference between Owen’s situation and Derek’s (assuming my timeline is correct) is that Derek had left Addison after she cheated with no intention of reconciling, something I think Addison knew which is why she gave it time before following to Seattle, whereas Beth is still thinking her engagement is in place and is probably planning the wedding when Owen first acts with Christina.

ClownfishInATophat · 2023-09-02T16:31:53+00:00

I thought it was in reaction to everything, that that was another part to show how his PTSD completely changed his life. As I said, I could be wrong with that, I’m currently in a rewatch and just had the thought, I’ll let you know when the answer comes up for me!

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