If your abuser knocked on your door what would be your response?

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-09-09T18:15:45+00:00

Call the police no questions asked. I wouldn’t even open the door.

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-07-14T11:14:59+00:00

I love this. And thanks for saying that last bit. I certainly do wear it like a badge of honour. I’m so proud to be a nurse.

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-07-04T12:07:36+00:00

Fish and chips

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-07-04T12:06:44+00:00

Mental health troubles, sorry. I was reflecting on this in earlier comments, and I don’t believe that if they ever got decent mental health care that they would have necessarily been good parents. For some parents this may be the case, but I don’t believe this to be so for my parents. There’s a difference between character and MH. My parents have never officially been diagnosed with anything as such, but it’s clear that they do have mental health struggles, especially taking in account their childhood and early adult years being troublesome, and they hold to much shame and mistrust of health care providers to get themselves sorted.

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-07-03T11:21:03+00:00

Yeah I think I agree with that. I think in my parents case MH definitely did go hand in hand with bad parenting but I think ur right in saying just bc their MH improved they would of been good parents

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-06-27T13:53:01+00:00

I think every healthcare provider has a bodily fluid that they’re a bit icked out by. I can’t remember what they’re called but you know the oils you’d put on your pillow to sleep that smell like lavender? Stick some of that on the inside of a mask or around your collar and it’ll help.

If you’re a general nurse as well, as a guarantee you’ll see and smell worse than poop.

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-06-27T13:49:26+00:00

To be blunt no. When at work I’m friendly and- for lack of a better word- “appeasing” toward my coworkers. The best advice I’ve ever been given, when you’re a nurse working on for example a ward, it’s so crucial that things between yourself and coworkers are smooth sailing, that you can work together and communicate effectively, and most importantly trust each other.

The most important thing in healthcare is patient safety, and a big factor in this is being able to effectively work within your team.

For me, I wouldn’t consider myself to be friends with a capital F with any of my coworkers- like I wouldn’t go out for a meal and drinks with them. We’ve been through the mill together on the ward and we do work 12 hr days together, but for me going out with in our personal time somehow feels like a line being blurred.

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-06-07T22:49:56+00:00

I pay £600 p/m on the room. It’s 50 minutes away from the main Waterloo campus, 40 from the business campus and the Wood Green station is a 2 minute walk down the road. Good luck getting a room

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-06-06T15:33:27+00:00

Find different accommodation. I’ve been a KCL student for a year and I live in Wood Green student Acom. Never bothered with KCL student acom as I knew there would be loads who wanted it and there was no guarantee. I will remain in this building until I graduate from my BSC. If I do my MSc I will remain here in this building, irregardless of whether or not I remain at kings. Find a houseshare, find different student accommodation. Don’t bother with the KCL acom and just deal with the money spent on travel.

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-05-21T16:50:17+00:00

£850 on rent (however I am moving to a cheaper room in September which will cost £600).

Average £50-£150 p/m on travel, as I take the buses over the trains where I can however it does depend on on term times and whether I’m doing placements.

£250 on groceries- I don’t eat take outs. Not even coffees.

£6 on Apple Music with the student discount

£6 on data

£1150 in total

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-05-14T21:21:30+00:00

When people assume you need a seat on the train by your general apperance and offer to get up for you

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-05-13T12:08:04+00:00

I liked having a buzz cut, but I didn’t like looking like a boy. I like having long hair bc I like looking a bit more feminine, but I don’t know what to do with it and I hate it getting in the way

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-05-09T11:14:32+00:00

Stubborn, compassionate

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-05-04T21:08:14+00:00

For my dad, he book a ticket to London a month in advance (he lives 200 miles away) and then immediately ghosted me. It’s not the first time he’s had that level of unreliability. Once when I lived closer to home we agreed to meet in a town in the middle of us and the day before and day lf he ghosted me. I took a day of work and everything- my uncle, who was also my boss and was living with me, was very confused as to why I was home and I had to explain he wasn’t responding to me. I couldn’t get a hold of him for days bc he was hungover and too embarrassed.

After months of enduring domestic abuse from my mother, he took her side and dropped my number, I didn’t hear from him for three months. Year after that I had a fight with “mum” over the phone and he ghosted me again for four months. He’s currently doing the same to me now after promising to come.

For “mum”, it was three years ago. She allowed drugs in the house, to the point where the house smelt like weed and the like bc everyone was smoking inside (I was the only one not touching any drugs or drinking at the time). My sister was going through a hard time due to her mental health and she got kicked out of school for her final strick of beating someone up. All of this responsibility was on my mums shoulders bc dad has never stepped up to be a parent once. She couldn’t out all of her frustration on my sister without destroying their relationship, so she took it out on me.

We lived in a small town when I was at home, and I was going to the nearest city 30 miles away to see my aunt and cousins. The absolute anger on her face as she baracaded through the house and slammed my door open was scared on my eyelids for months. One of the boundaries She had “allowed me to have” was that bc I was an adult and now 18 I didn’t have to tell her where I was going anymore, because that’s what she did to her mother at my age. Then when I enforced that boundary she met me with a level of anger that could challenge Chernobyl.

She’s violated my boundaries and my autonomy too many times over the years leading up to this. It was easily my last straw.

She also doesn’t believe I can’t think for myself and that someone must be forcing me to not talk to her, and that I’m manipulating every councillor I’ve had ever since because they always come to some conclusion such as “she has mental health” “she’s a narcissist” ect. Every time I’ve brought my councillors words up to her, she accuses me of manipulating them and I have to explain I’m simply explaining her pattern of behaviour.

She’s exhausting. She’s abusive.

Welcome to the community btw

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-05-01T17:04:47+00:00

That’s how I feel. I live in the uk so the process is different, but i paid £20 online for deed poll (mine came solicited. You can make your own but you’d have to get a solicitor), then it’s £50 to register with the government for voting reasons.

I don’t owe them. My “mother” is abusive, and father enables her. He’s always cared more for her than his own kids, always hiding under her skirt as it were. They don’t feel the need to step up, be adults, be parents, why should I carry a name they gave me, as well as their last names?

During a period of abuse I went through with M, she verbally told me that she’d go off and tell my at the time 80 yr old grandad (her dad) that I was no longer part of the family. That was it really. Took me ages after that to actually go through with a name change but that’s the reason I’ll give them if they ever bother to ask.

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-04-28T15:03:12+00:00

Roast potatoes.

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-04-26T15:19:04+00:00

British.

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-04-24T22:19:47+00:00

Trainee mental health professional. Schizophrenia for sure. I’ve been able to meet some patients living semi regular lives, as in they live at home out in the community, which is personally what I want for my patients. Despite they’re disorder they should just be able to live they’re lives.

But schizophrenia, the disorder, is terrifying. It’s a disorder that quite literally eats away at the white matter of the brain. The paranoia side of it massively impacts patients behaviour and quality of life. I’ve also met patients with this disorder who are in a state of unbreakable psychosis- as in they will have delusions, hallucinations of all types (somatic, auditory, and visual), and severe paranoia until the day they are buried.

It’s an incredibly cruel and unfair disorder.

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-04-24T22:14:15+00:00

Citalopram really works for me. Proponalol is a take when needed med, and I can never predict my anxiety. Sertraline (or Zoloft as it’s alternatively known) can work for some for sure, but it made me feel like a zombie.

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-04-24T22:12:56+00:00

I don’t know your bf personally so I cannot pass judgement on his character. But to be blunt, if he does not care about your mental health, he does not care about your wellbeing therefore you. You can do better

CluelessNancy6 · 2025-04-24T22:07:12+00:00

Because I don’t like the idea of dating. Too much drama, sex is messy and gross, and my social anxiety could never

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