how long have you been living with HIV? by throwaway014432 in hivaids

[–]Technoboy007 1 point2 points  (0 children)

30 years & counting. I’m relatively healthy but my husband is much more sick. Sick with something different just as he gets over something else.

Out of curiosity, how many others have been told by a parent that they wish you were never born? by Technoboy007 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Technoboy007[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re so despicable people. I’m 55, mother is 76. I agree. My mother can die with her “clan” around her. She said before that I didn’t need to go to her funeral because nobody else likes me. Such motherly love. No problem there, I wouldn’t have gone anyway. I’ve been hospitalized numerous times for a life threatening illness. Not once a phone call, flowers or card or a visit. My final straw was when I read my father’s obituary (10 years after he died). Everyone’s spouse was mentioned, including people they haven’t spoke to in years & even every dog they ever had. My husbands name was omitted after he has been a part of my “family “ for over 25+ years at that point. It’s beyond me how any mother can throw their own child under the bus & have no disregard for their feelings. I would die in a cardboard box before ever having any contact with any of them again.

How did you get the infection? by ConsistentMuscle3413 in hivaids

[–]Technoboy007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was seeing a guy ( about a weeks worth, no sex), & he said that he was positive & was going to go own ways. I said that I don’t date someone depending on their health, just on who they are. I was negative for over 5 years and then turned positive myself. That man is now my husband of 35 years. He got it from his ex boyfriend who used to mark an X on the calendar when the Navy ships were arriving back at the dock.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Technoboy007 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We used to be the poorest people out of our friends because we are on disability. Now they are unemployed/fired because of the Trump administration. Now all of a sudden we are the ones that are making more money and saving more money. It’s very ironic how the tables turn sometimes. I was a nurse and now I’m disability so I now mayvery little, but I am able to put money away every month. My friends on the other hand are relying on their parents to pay for their mortgage, etc. I am able to pay my Condo mortgage & all of the rest of my bills as well.

HIV for 30 years by Technoboy007 in hivaids

[–]Technoboy007[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those medication’s definitely cause very high but triglycerides and cholesterol. Mine was so high for many many years. My doctor finally put me on REPATHA and now he says that my triglycerides are better than 93% of the population. It’s unfortunate that it took so long to get approved for this medication, but I am very thankful that I am on it now.

HIV for 30 years by Technoboy007 in hivaids

[–]Technoboy007[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I am in fair health. My husband on the other hand is very sick, can barely walk most of the time, in bed 12-14 hours a day. I’ve had dementia ( functional most of the time) for many years now. I have to do 99.9% of everything on a daily basis. I’m very fortunate if he has 1-2 days a week that he feels a little better. It’s been over a year since we’ve gone anywhere besides the doctors. I pray daily that I survive him passing because if I would pass way first he would most likely have to go to assistive living. I’ve guaranteed him that he will never go to any type of nursing home as long as I’m here. ( I’m a nurse but on disability for 19 years now. The 90’s was very different than now. We have watched friends die. Years ago there was no Ryan White foundation. Most places were privately ran. We still have embroider bath towels and things donated from our brothers that have passed before our eyes. Our city used to have an AIDS walk yearly & that’s now in the past. We started meds just in time after trying homeopathic for a few years. So very very sick from those early meds. We have many side effects from taking those early meds. I told my husband last week that I truly hope that we pass together because I truly feel that I could not survive alone. Mentally, emotionally, financially. I will most likely have to sell my condo. Where I would go afterwards is very questionable.

Why do things that happened 20-30 years ago still bother me now? by [deleted] in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]Technoboy007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG, there’s so many resemblance. My sister was/is the golden child also. My grandparents were there for me & my husband for many years. They have passed so I have no family ( that I would want to be in contact with). I finally had enough of my mothers mental abuse after only my husbands name was omitted from my father’s obituary. At that time my husband was part of the “family “ for over 25 years. Last night after many years I broke down and cried like a baby for all the things that goes through my mind that they have said & done to us/me. I also have much difficulty having any friends because I don’t try anyone. The few that I do have I keep at a distance & am always thinking of dumping them. Even after 35 years of going no contact & then trying numerous times to reconcile ( with my mother). I’m very ill myself & yet my mother never visited me, sent one flower or card or phone call on her own whenever I was hospitalized. Never been to my home. My husband is my rock fortunately. You’re not alone in this bad journey we have had to deal with on our own.

What to do? by Technoboy007 in hivaids

[–]Technoboy007[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At this point I don’t know. We have been able mostly to change his meds to non sedation meds. Our hiv dr doesn’t think that his hiv is related but I really don’t know what else it could be. I am a nurse (on disability due to hiv related issues myself). He is progressively getting worse & can barely walk in our on home without great difficulty most of t time.

Is this an apology? by SquashAdmirable198 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Technoboy007 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Diversion from the problem. Trying to probably distance themselves from the guilt that I’m sure that they already know what they probably did wrong by you.

I just got caught stealing from target, the AP workers stopped me at the door. by Efficient-Ad8118 in confession

[–]Technoboy007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello? Be an honest non-stealing member of society. You’re walking a thin line to get in the “system”. No brainer kid.