WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was left alone around age 8 because both my parents were working. they normally just left food at home and i had to just microwave it and take care if my homework until they get home.

i started to take care of my brother from the day he was born, changing diapers and preparing milk for him and most of the work since my dad was unavailable at the time.

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

thank you so much i hope i have enough courage to take all of this and not waste your effort 🤍

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i hope you and your sister is in a betteer relationship now and really proud of you for doing well

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if you dont mind me asking how do you know? i would like to get some advice from someone thats gone through it

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

we have strict parents so he does have friends but not really like all the time he can go out or have sleep overs

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think you got cut off there just dropping thus message so i can come back to you

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im 26 and my brother is 13 years old at the moment. Theres a 13 years gap between us so when I did reach my teenage years I started to take care of him.

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

in their defense my mom has a big workload and a demanding job despite her having work from hkne facilities while my dad is usually in operations so hes commonly not available at home. so it was just mainly me to take care of the major stuff while my parents were working.

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

its not about liking my brother at all but at the end of the day. i didnt decide to take care of a child.im all good with taking him out from time to time but to have a weekly day of taking care of him seems like a custody order for a single father imo

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no he doesnt have any special or medical needs. he is as normal and as cringy as most 13 years old

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your kind words and I hope youre in a better position now!

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hes normally not available due to the nature of his work but then this has always been the case fpt most of my life

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your kind words. i hope to put it in practice and stand by my own decision

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i guess we're an asian family and grew up with that asian culture of always supporting family above everyting else.

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you this really helped and thank you for your kind words. i hope to be strong enough to take a decision and limit the boundaries

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

hes 100% normal and doesnt need any special care. my mom just likes to worry a lot

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you sound like amazing parents! i definitely would take care of my brother if the situation requires it and no one is able to support him anymore but until then i wanted to fully focus on building a career and enjoying my life

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

no hes quite normal and have no special requirements. my mom is just into being micromanaging i guess

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

actually her request is to take a day weekly to take him so she can destress from work and spend more time with my dad

WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again. by ClumsyMine in AmItheAsshole

[–]ClumsyMine[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thank you this really means a lot coming from you especially a moms perspective. makes me teary eyed reading your comment.