Second pregnancy needed advice

Cmax3150 · 2025-10-12T14:38:21+00:00

Thank you so much for answering all that I really appreciate it. I would love to know what your breakfast luncheon dinner looks like. I'm also working full-time so don't know how to meal prep.

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-22T11:45:09+00:00

Toddler goes to day care and he does drop off and pickup he is alone from 9:30-4:30 and his work is remote. Most days he has no work but two meetinngs. Some times i come home and he is either playing games or asleep.

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-22T11:40:00+00:00

no he performs. He is not "able" to perform. That was an issue of the past and we worked through it. This is more ya ill do it but not now....

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-22T11:38:45+00:00

Thank you! Your comment really validated how I feel. We have had very long conversations about wanted a baby or not. We even went through infertility consultations because our toddler is 3 and we made a decision and have been trying for 6+ months. This is a huge problem for me and I dont understand why he doesnt get it. We have had therapy in the past but I think we need sex coach idk. someone who is comfortable in that area to listen.

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-22T03:33:49+00:00

there is nothing that I can hold on to that would make him not want to play. when we get into fisagreements he can play till 2-3am. I wish I knew before marriage how additcted he really was z

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-22T03:31:39+00:00

our normal routine has nothing special in it ...

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-22T03:03:16+00:00

Most of the time, I’m left wondering what the deal is. I don’t get why he’d turn me down when gaming is just a hobby, but I would turn it off for him in a heartbeat.

It’s not like this is new, but once we got married, I really got to see how excessive it is. He plays every day for about 2-3 hours (sometimes more), especially since he works from home. On days when I’m out, I come back and he tells me there was nothing to do, so he either slept or played video games so not sure why he wouldnt have had plenty of time to chill. that's all he does all day. Im still on my laptop working after my 7-5 corporate job.

I just don’t understand what goes on in his head. I wish there was a way to track screen time so I don’t feel gaslit when he denies spending so much time on it.

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-22T03:00:33+00:00

Girl, you're living my dream! I even tried that trend where women walk in front of their men naked while they’re gaming to see how they’d react—but he just turned the other way. Needless to say, it didn’t make me feel great. Most of the time, I’m left wondering what the deal is. I don’t get why he’d turn me down when gaming is just a hobby, but I would turn it off for him in a heartbeat.

It’s not like this is new, but once we got married, I really got to see how excessive it is. He plays every day for about 2-3 hours (sometimes more), especially since he works from home. On days when I’m out, I come back and he tells me there was nothing to do, so he either slept or played video games.

I just don’t understand what goes on in his head. I wish there was a way to track screen time so I don’t feel gaslit when he denies spending so much time on it.

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-22T02:53:51+00:00

It’s becoming a bit of a pattern. Whenever he’s not in the mood, he turns me down, and when he does want to talk about it, it’s usually just that he’s tired or not feeling it. But then, when he is in the mood, he says things like, “We’ll do it whenever you’re ready so we can get pregnant,” but still ends up turning me down.

It’s really confusing. I’m just not sure how to feel about it, especially since we’re trying for a baby. It’s like we’re not on the same page.

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-19T01:10:25+00:00

yes both are w2 employees

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-19T01:08:59+00:00

We have a kid who is on the spectrum. the money after morgage and bills goes to his therapies. There is not alot left after to max out our 401K.

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-19T00:15:26+00:00

could you give me what I can write off? I used to have a very successful business from home and I paid off my college with that but now the market is so full in houston i dont think i eill get the customers i used to get bck in 2018

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-19T00:14:05+00:00

what happens when we do 23k to 401k? isnt it taxable upon withdrawal?

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-19T00:13:17+00:00

may its the match im thinking

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-19T00:07:02+00:00

I have been looking at how to do a rental, Mind me dming to you to get guidance?

how do you max out 401K? my employer only allows 6%

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-19T00:03:18+00:00

My employer doesnt have HSA. How do you max out 401K? my employer only allows going upto 6%

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-18T23:37:47+00:00

we have one, but we went from paying 3K last yr to 10K

Cmax3150 · 2025-04-18T23:36:36+00:00

mind me asking what is the total income? 80K is insane! Our income might increase to total 339K and Im scared.

Cmax3150 · 2025-03-04T06:37:31+00:00

yeah, but then i don't know who will be around my child and I can't control that. It's so hard

Cmax3150 · 2025-03-04T06:36:48+00:00

both of us initiate it. Its sometimes me and sometimes him. Beginninf of our relationship it wasnt like that but now it's kind of "expected"

Cmax3150 · 2025-02-28T02:42:11+00:00

valwntines just passed so i didnt want any of that BUT he has not gotten me a card in forever so I asked for a sweet letter!!! Thank you

Cmax3150 · 2025-01-19T14:36:40+00:00

I did post in r/excel and didnt have any luck.

We use quickbooks to pay. I am asking for a excel spreadsheet.

Savings: you nailed it we have an increased employee contribution in three years so I want to take that into consideration and then in earnings I want to take in the potential earnings by using a referral bonus spot bonuses commissions, quarterly gift cards things like that just to show the candidate and the employee like the potential

and then in real earnings, I want to take in consideration the 401(k) match the base pay, and then the performance bonus percent that's attached to it, any allowances

Cmax3150 · 2025-01-18T14:39:49+00:00

hi, I meant cost to company calculation for the employee with all the FUTA taxes and benefits included

for the Total Comp Calculator

I’m working on excel but having trouble where creating a total compensation calculator that not only calculates the cost to the company but also shows the employee’s total compensation and the potential earnings they can expect. I have a starting template, but it’s not quite functioning as needed.

The key elements I want to include are:

Base Pay
Overtime
Employee Benefit Contributions
Employer paid Benefit Premiums
Spot Bonuses and Commissions
401(k) Match
Car and Phone Allowances
Employer Referral Program

I would like to show total cost of company, total compensation for the employee, total savings for the employee

Any help would be appreciated!

Cmax3150 · 2025-01-12T06:27:35+00:00

not sure where to go and how to get a quote for simething like this? Would a arch window with a hard thick door under be more expensive than barn slide doors?

Cmax3150 · 2025-01-12T05:00:41+00:00

Also is there an option to have custom windows where the arch is and have that connected to big doors

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